To break up with him on his birthday?

[Faceissues]

Hi all. I've been with my boyfriend for about 10 months and he has cheated on me with atleast 4 different women in that time. The last time it happened (about 6 weeks ago) he actually rang me from his bedroom to reassure me he was home with just his male friends and they were gonna have a drink and go to bed. His friend then put a story on social media of them all downstairs with women drinking etc. It again turned out he had took someone home and slept with her. He begged, pleaded and swore that he felt awful and he would never do it again. In fairness to him things have been great since then.

Today (friday) is his birthday. He went to the pub with his friends and said he would be going home when it shut. He rang me about half 11 to say he was going out out, to the same club he has met all these women at, with the same friends and I'm just an absolute wreck. I've been crying since I spoke to him and I feel so anxious. He said I need to trust him but I've heard it so many times before I just can't.

We are supposed to be going out with his family this evening for his birthday. WIBU to call it off today? I can't keep feeling like this but it's awful timing.

Thanks

Sure. When you're five.

Oh I like that idea

But perhaps just don't show and message why would be less stressy for you

Dump the cunt

😂 sure that's alright then. What should she do go for a meal with his family and play nice? Op don't waste another second on this loser who doesn't give a shit about you. You can do better.

If this is true, where are your boundaries? You need to be alone to work on those. He's slept with four other women in ten months. I wouldn't accept one in fifty years. Your standards are incredibly low, work on those or history is bound to repeat itself.

He said you need to trust him? No, he needs to not cheat ever and earn your trust. He chose not to. Bin him and move on.

Oooh I love that! His birthday is a perfect time to do it
Maybe get him a card or a cake that says "happy birthday cheater"

why is that unreasonable? its totally fine

I’d go out with him and his family. End the meal by proposing a toast ‘Here’s to X . I hope all his birthday wishes come true - especially that he hasn’t got an STI despite being a lying, cheating, immature a* - but now I’ve caught him out, I won’t be staying around to find out his test results. Mine was clear btw.’
Dignified exit.
It’ll be a birthday he won’t forget.

I think you'd be unreasonable NOT to dump his sorry ass. And send him 'unhappy birthday' by The Smiths on spotify.

@Faceissues I remember your post about that incident at the time, it was heartbreaking to read. Honestly I say finish it, he does not deserve you. Birthday or not he's been incredibly cruel.

Never mind his birthday being special, YOU are special, look after your mental and physical (stis) health, cos he won't.

Definitely dump the twat. Personally, I would go to the evening party so I could dump him in front of his family so they too can see what a shit he is. Regardless, dump the arsehole, he deserves nothing less

Ok but how have you dated a man for only 10 months and let him cheat on you so many times? You need to do some serious TLC on yourself after this relationship

Trusting your boyfriend is not some abstract choice that you are obliged to keep making regardless of his behaviour.

It’s actually BEING trustworthy that matters here. He has proved he is incapable of it.

FGS dump him immediately. What’s he ever going to give you apart from a load of pain and a mental breakdown? As pp said - birthday irrelevant.

Please ask yourself why you are worrying about his birthday when he has cheated on you multiple times? I get it as when I was 22 I knew taking back an ex was a mistake and I didn't want to ruin his Christmas so dumped him after. Even though it is 30 years ago this December I still wish I'd dumped him before and had a lovely Christmas Day on my own with my cat.

Dump him now.

I would dump him and not give him a second thought. You’re worth more than this OP. Don’t let him treat you this way any longer. Life is far too short to be miserable!