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AIBU?

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To be raging against DH?

104 replies

H13 · 24/05/2024 01:03

I know in the grand scheme of things this will seem very minor but I am so angry I can't get past it.

Our little girl is 9 months old, she struggles with her sleep so exclusively contact naps on me in the day (otherwise she genuinely wouldn't nap). She is better at night but her top teeth are coming through so this past week its been taking ages for her to fall asleep.

At 9pm tonight I'd finally got her to drift off when my husband accidentally made a loud noise and she woke up. I was a bit annoyed and we had a sort of jokey argument while I got her back to sleep again. Once she was finally off I stood up to put her in the cot and he purposefully made another loud noise to wind me up. This time she woke up crying and refused to go back to sleep.

She has only just managed to go back to sleep nearly 4 hours later. I understand it was an ill timed joke but I genuinely can't look at him. He apologised when he did it and said he thought I'd laugh but then left me to try and get her to sleep whilst he went on the computer. He only came off it two hours ago and even then wasn't much help and just kept saying she never sleeps for him.

I just get no time to myself, the only time I can scroll on my phone or read and just switch off is when she's asleep. I give him so much time to himself and never complain. I'm honestly so so mad at him I've made him sleep on the couch. AIBU?

OP posts:
TheLoudLeader · 24/05/2024 22:15

No maybe it came across wrong. I was saying that if you’ve made your decision then don’t doubt yourself after. You was obviously feeling a certain way to do that. So don’t second guess yourself !

somethingwickedlivesnextdoor · 25/05/2024 00:04

Spinningroundahelix · 24/05/2024 04:23

You should have handed the baby to him and told him he was responsible for settling her again. How dare he play on the computer while you try to fix his mistake. I'm thinking that he probably behaves badly in many spheres of your life. I mean, did he really think you'd laugh? Was there anything funny about this?

Yes, this.

CelesteCunningham · 25/05/2024 07:14

OP you said he's a great dad. He's not a great dad. A barely making the grade "fine" dad would be able settle their baby and would never purposely wake them when they've just gone to sleep. Never.

Don't let him think he's a great dad, because he isn't. He needs to step the fuck up.

Mmhmmn · 27/05/2024 02:47

I also just don’t understand why he would think it funny to deprive his daughter of much needed sleep. Does he lack empathy or something?

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