To think this elderly woman did nothing wrong?

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Apparently that was the 3rd time the older woman had approached her baby

AIBU not to see a problem?

I shared this in a group chat via WhatsApp and a few mums have commented 'yeah I won't lie, I don't like randomers in my baby's face! That's why I have my 'Please look and don't touch sign'

I said but she didn't touch her? I've been ignored!

Link to video www.instagram.com/reel/C64OXdZv1aA/?igsh=MWY4emY0bmw5bGFmYw==

I love it when strangers take a minute or a few seconds to say hi! What's so wrong with that?

I don't see an issue personally. I think it's quite sad that people do

I could see nothing wrong with that. The woman seems to be interacting more with her baby than the mother who’s too busy filming herself eating 😳

Well come on now, she's obviously an MNer. Just look at that massive salad!

I lived in a popular retirement town when I had my baby. I could only walk about five meters when she was in her pram without someone stopping me. It was lovely.

Noone wants to talk to each other any more or have any interaction unless its via a screen. Its sad.

Not the point...but the woman wasn't elderly!

Most people would’ve turned round and interacted, rather than gurning into their phone.

Typical of that sort of person. “I must Film myself eating because everything I do, no matter how mundane is sooooo fascinating and I’m better than all the rest of you plebs and how DARE someone presume to speak to my child
who is also too far above everyone else for words”.

I think it's tricky.

Babies are neither public nor their parent's property.

Lots of babies enjoy interacting with people but not all do.

Sometimes the parent just wants the baby to stay calm/settle to sleep or are not themselves in the mood to interact with other people.

I think you have to read parent's body language to see if they are okay with what you are doing - and if it's clear they're getting stressed or annoyed, you have to back off.

Strange to film yourself eating and even stranger ppl watching

Personally I prefer it when people ask (or be invited) to interact with my baby and don't just approach with no warning. I also don't tend to like being disturbed by strangers when sat down eating at a cafe or restaurant. I was mugged a few years ago though so strangers approaching me gives me a lot of anxiety!

She wasn’t even old 😂🤣😆

She said that she spoke to the lady the first 2 times and her sister spoke to her the 3rd time.

I think once is lovely. A second time ok. But a third time? I'd find it quite rude that she kept interrupting my lunch and it would make me feel uncomfortable.

Smiling at a baby or toddler, waving, sticking your tongue out etc from your table all fine, saying ‘hi’ as you walk past is fine but constantly approaching someone else’s baby and cooing loudly in a performative way whilst the baby’s family are trying to eat and mind their own business is annoying. The woman was being annoying if that was the third time she’d approached the baby and blowing a kiss at a strangers baby is weird, most people want to teach their children it’s okay not to want to be hugged and kissed when you don’t want to be, I wouldn’t want a stranger making out to blow kisses at my baby. Kisses are for close family and friends only!

I'd be more worried about posting pics all over instagram

Wait, people have actual signs telling people not to touch their babies?!

Nowt so queer as folk

Both of mine have extremely curly hair, DS Jet black and DD Titian / Blonde. They were OAP magnets, couldn't go anywhere without comments and occasional touches. I'm in Liverpool though, so the whole 'takes a village' concept is normal. I always took it as a compliment.

I once inadvertently overstepped the mark with a parent I think. I was walking toward a particular shop when my eye was caught by a Mum and, I guess, a child of about 8 months or so n her arms.

The child was really arresting and beautiful. As I passed I stopped and said to Mum, your child is gorgeous. I didn't try to touch the child, but the mum changed the arm the baby was resting in and turned her back to me.

I got the message and backed off pdq. Sad, really. For all three of us.

My thoughts entirely! The woman did nothing wrong whatsoever and the mum should spend more time talking to her baby and less time posing for videos to post online, she’s embarrassing herself rolling her eyes like that.

Could be absolute bollocks though and just said because so many people said how rude she was.

I'm also laughing at 'I had to contain myself'.

She was more busy showing the world how to eat like you're chewing cud.

@ususer1471453601 you didn't do anything wrong at all. Some people are just unfriendly and cold, sadly.

Well it seems fake maybe
The woman is a bit OTT and doesn't seem quite like a genuine interruption.
But
Baby must be sat away from the adults and facing away....so who else is baby going to interact with??
If the baby was facing into the group then it wouldn't have happened.
She is also clearly passing....not approaching and then returning. So.if she passes and baby makes eye contact is she supposed ignore?

I'm glad that someone interacted with the baby, as clearly the mother only had time for her 'fans'
It doesn't look like she did anything wrong.