To have not gone over to my neighbour's with her parcel?

[CowboyJoanna]

So the other day, a deliveryman pulled up on the street with a parcel for my neighbour who lives across the way. She's a slobby stay at home mum so she was in the house at the time, but for some reason never collected it. None of the neighbours either side of her were in, so the deliveryman brought it over to my house and asked me to take it in for her. I asked the deliveryman to leave a note for my neighbour to come and collect, but I don't think he understood (he was an eastern european bloke with broken english).

Anyway, I kept the parcel in the hall all day, waiting for my neighbour to collect it. But it became abundantly clear the deliveryman had not left a note, because she was sat on the sofa all day. When my DH got home from work, he asked me about the parcel and I explained it was a neighbour's. He said to me "leave it there and if she so wants it she'll come over. The deliverymen always leave notes". So we left it there.

Nothing came the next day. Neighbour was still in the house all day, as always.
But this morning we got a bang on the door.

It was the neighbour, and she proceeded to hurl a mouthful of abuse at me. "The fuck's your problem? Why didn't you bring me over my fucking parcel you cheeky bitch? That was my daughter's fucking birthday present and I was losing my fucking mind over it getting lost". I told her it wasn't my fault because I asked the deliveryman to leave her a note and I assumed she would come and collect it if she so wanted it. But she shouted "I got the note yeah but it's MY FUCKING PARCEL AND YOU JUST SAT THERE WITH IT".

It's not like I opened it or anything, but I'm wondering should I have gone over? I thought to myself, it's her parcel so if she wants it so badly she should've answered the door instead of sitting in front of the telly. And she didn't need to be so bloody rude.

Has to be Blackpool 😂

You and your neighbour are as inconsistent as each other. You thought the delivery man might not have left a card but still didn't take the parcel over. She was worried the parcel was lost but admitted she did have a card.

She sounds totally unhinged, and horrible! Lazy so and so!
YwNbu!

Next time say no to taking in a delivery.

YABU!. collect your parcels!.

YANBU
No you shouldn’t have taken the parcel over, if she didn’t answer the door to the delivery guy then what’s to say she also wouldn’t answer it to you?! How many times should you go over and knock before giving up?!…..
She would’ve got an email saying where it had been left and yes she should come and get it….
Its different when a neighbour is out… I’ve taken in parcels and when they pull up in their car (if I notice /hear them) I’ll pop out and hand it to them… but I wouldn’t feel comfortable knocking their door!….

As others have said - next time the delivery driver asks you to take a parcel for her politely decline….. let him take it away and try the next day!!…. Maybe she’ll start interrupting her daytime TV to answer her bloody door !!

I started saying no to take parcels for people. The first time i did it, the guy was confused and kept trying to make me take it, but just keep saying no, you don't have to do it

Yanbu!!!! This has happened to our neighbour! They refuse to now take their parcels in.

Do not take any more parcels in for this person. Put a note on your door saying to not drop off or leave your parcels at hers either.
i felt awful when royal mail twice never left me a card so my neighbour had my parcel for two days. I couldn’t apologise more even though i never even knew!
i certainly Would not have left there, and that’s my next door neighbour!
Honestly, the cheek of it! She got the card she should have collected. You did her a favour.

That last bit 😂😂
there’s one in almost every street! There’s one in ours and I’ve put on delivery instructions to leave with any neighbours EXCEPT no 17 😂😂
I also would refuse to take parcels in for them - they’d likely be something illegal!

The onus is always on the intended recipient to go and collect it. If they weren't in/didn't answer when it was delivered how are you supposed to know when they will be in/answer to you?

The exception is if you take in a parcel but then go out yourself and they are home when you get home. Then it makes sense to let them know you are back. Or if not collected within 24hours when clearly you are both home then they probably didn't get a note.

We also take round anything delivered to wrong address as again they probably have no idea

Lesson learned no more taking in parcels for her. I’d go so far as to tell the delivery driver she will likely report it stolen if he leaves it with any neighbours. I think the slobby comments are justified just on her personality alone. Lazy cow.

YANBU. I am from a working class family from the north west. I know the type you are describing.
Don't take any more parcels in for her

It’s her parcel. She knew where it was. The onus is on her to come and get it.

Because OP is a slobby stay at home mum who spends all day looking out the window.

I don't take parcels round to neighbours. They collect them.

Not my job to go round delivering peoples parcels.

Yeah this

Yodel have options "Preferred neighbour to leave your parcel with," and "Neighbour to avoid leaving your parcel with"

YANBU - onus is on her to collect her parcel from you, not the other way round - and as soon as possible.

Even if she didn't 'get' that - there was no excuse for the words that came out her mouth. A difficult mix of vile to the core and incredibly stupid.

Only once, in 30 odd years of renting/owning houses, have I had to take parcel round to a neighbour because they failed to collect it (definitely had the note) - I had to go over three separate times before they answered the door and then there was no smile and no word of thanks. Everyone else has collected it shortly after arriving home (if a reasonable time) and expressed thanks.

The intended recipient has to go and collect from the neighbours. In this case of verbal abuse I would contact the parcel company and get them to pick up the parcel and redeliver it due to threatening behaviour. She’s burnt her bridges.

Usually the onus is on the part whose parcel it is to collect.

Alot of our neighbours are older though, so if the parcel isn’t too heavy I send one of the kids round with it!

I wouldn't left it on her doorstop because I wouldn't have wanted to start a fight with her. Good luck with living near her now.

Would've left it on her doorstep that was mean to say

I once had parcel for my neighbour for a few days so when I saw light in their windows I took it in. Turned out the delivery guy didn’t leave a note, and it was true as the look of excitement on neighbor’s face was genuine 🙂 So I don’t blame you for not taking a parcel but sometimes mishaps do happen. However it wasn’t like this in your case, so I would count this as an experience and would never take a parcel or anything for this woman. She was very very rude. Whatever you thought about her, you took the parcel in, you didn’t tell anything rude to her and your critique post was written AFTER she was very rude to you.
I bet if she would politely collect her parcel next day with thank you you would change your mind about her overgrown garden.

I don't know why you just did not pop over to deliver your neighbour's parcel to her.
( a two minute job) you make it sound like some sort of power game... it's her parcel so she needs to come and collect it..
However no need for your neighbour to be so rude.

I'm not sure why you're getting so much shit OP.

She does sound like a lazy slob, who should have collected the parcel from you. You're not her bloody servant.

There's a particular culture of mind your own business/don't react/don't get involved/take the high ground on MN that doesn't sit right with me. I would not have tolerated her speaking to me like that, she'd get what she gives.