To not like nicknames as full names?

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Some (secondary school aged) children in my family have nicknames as full names and as they grow older I feel the names suiting them less and less.

Some of the names,

Melly
Stevie
Bobby
Ali
Ricky

AIBU to think that naming children nicknames doesn't age well and that full names on the birth certificates are more fitting?

I've had a consultant called "Dr Michael XXXX" who styles himself as "Dr Mike XXXX" on his private surgical work website and a "Dr Charles XXXXX" whose NHS bio refers to him as "Charlie".

Your husband's consultant may well be an "Edward" or "Edmund" but prefers to be known professionally as "Ed".

I have a Teddy

I wish I had a quid for every time someone asked me if his name was Edward

No , it's Teddy

It’s always struck me as a complete non-issue. Whatever’s written on your birth certificate, anyone can choose to be known by any name they want - just as somebody with Frederick on their birth certificate can choose to go by the nickname Freddie when they like, somebody with Freddie on their birth certificate could choose to go by the nickname Frederick when they like. There’s literally no difference, the latter is just less usual. The idea that Freddie is eternally doomed by his name in a way Frederick isn’t is bonkers.

This is why we all get to choose our own children's names. You don't like them but obviously they do !

I wonder how he’ll feel about that when he’s 16

He's my grandson

I'm sure that in the same way us Jan's, Pam's , Sue's , Pat's etc will manage to get by
It's really not that deep
My diminutive son is a head teacher
My daughter is head of HR in the NHS

Every generation goes through the same thing

I think it’s so common for babies to be called Eddie/Archie/Lottie etc with no full names on their BC that it really won’t be a problem in 10/20 years when they’re all adults.

My Teddy is 25 and is totally happy with it. And goes by it professionally. 6'5" and built like a proverbial . Suits him to a tee. @Jeezitneverends

And for disclosure it's Edward on his BC. But no one knows that except close family and anyone who has seen his Exam certificates. And no one ever asks him " is that Edward? "

All these shortened names will be so common and already are.

The whole " but what if they are a barrister ? "
nonsense is just in people's imagination. It's not the 50s anymore.

I think some nicknames work and some don't.
From that list, Stevie and Ricky seem fine to me but I wouldn't put Melly on a birth certificate.
Names like Alfie and Rosie won't even be seen as nicknames by the next generation.

I think the diminutive naming pendulum is very close to a swing in the other direction.

I agree, but mostly because I prefer longer names. And yes, having a cute short name in adulthood does sometimes feel a bit infantilising.

Well he won't be the only one, I know a 38 year old Ted, doesn't seem to have done him any harm although his names Terry not Teddy

One of my cousins also named her daughter Kate as the official name. Something about it just bothers me, not that I would ever say anything to her about it.

It’s a hassle because I’ve booked him flights under the wrong name once. So easily done when his formal name is never used. At the docs and school he gets called his formal name and has to correct them as we never use it and he doesn’t want to be known as it. It’s no major big deal. But a minor inconvenience. Shouldn’t have bothered with the full version on his birth cert. It was pointless.

What was it Aunt Petunia Dursley thought about Harry Potter’s name, again? “Nasty, common name if you ask me.” 😂

I feel like Harry and Jack seem more legitimate as official names than something like Alfie or Freddie. Something about the “-ie” just seems childlike to me. Not saying this is logical, but that’s how I feel.

I used to have a girlfriend called Katie. I was astonished when I asked her what it was short for and she said it was her full name. I still think it's odd.

I really don’t understand the issue. Fine that you don’t like it but it is a silly thing to be bothered by.

Names like Alfie and Rosie won't even be seen as nicknames by the next generation.

They weren’t seen as nicknames in my generation and I’m in my 30s.

I used to have a girlfriend called Katie. I was astonished when I asked her what it was short for and she said it was her full name. I still think it's odd.

Katie was a popular name when I was a kid. I had several in my school a few named Kate or Kathryn, but Catherine was rare.

My grandad was Ted his name was Edward but known as ted or teddy by my gran
my other grandmother was lottie - charlotte but always got called lottie from a small child and liked it. My great aunt was always dot or dotty there’s always deed poll if someone really doesn’t like their name.
my boyfriend changed his

I have a niece named Vicky on her birth certificate. She’s forty and still has to constantly discuss it and spend time correcting official paperwork that says ‘Victoria’.

She’s had enough and is now changing her name to Victoria by deed poll so she doesn’t have to do it any more. She’s still known as Vicky informally though, she doesn’t hate it and it suits her.

I think some nicknames are now names in their own right like DD’s. It used to be a nn and now it’s a proper name. Probably too cutesy for some mnetters but she likes it

Have visions of the child being called " Smelly Melly"

Lol this with my Dad
. My mum always called me by my full name though Only person that did

There was a girl on my class at secondary school who had a terrible body odour problem ,who was called Michelle
She was unfortunately known as Smelly Shelley

I think the opposite. I'm always known as Alex never ever Alexandra.

Alexandra doesn't feel like me. When the doctors etc call out my name and use Alexandra I just sit there for a second before it registers they mean me.

It's annoying.