Would you find this odd ? Guy I’m dating

Star11997 · 2024-05-15T16:45:16+00:00

The guy I’m dating has told me today he’s been out for the afternoon with an old friend. It’s also his mates exs best friend. She’s recently had a baby and is a single parent and he’s gone out with her to meet the baby and went for lunch together and then went to her house. He has told me this quite openly. They plan to meet again soon. Would you find it odd?

hayleyrabbit · 15/05/2024 17:46

No.

NadjaofAntipaxos · 15/05/2024 17:46

That a man is friends with a woman? No.

StarlightLady · 15/05/2024 17:47

Nope!

XenoBitch · 15/05/2024 17:47

No. It sounds like they are friends, and adults are allowed friends of the opposite sex without there being some sexual connotation.

Lmnop22 · 15/05/2024 17:49

I think the fact he’s told you about it openly is a good sign that they’re just friends. If you had found out about it and it hadn’t been mentioned or had been lied about, then that might be problematic.

Sounds like they’re just friends and you have nothing to worry about!

Notamum12345577 · 15/05/2024 17:49

If you are just newly dating then probably wouldn’t be right for you to be upset about it. However, if you got serious/committed/married I don’t think it would be appropriate. I don’t think people in those scenarios should meet one on one with people of the opposite sex

SherlockHomies · 15/05/2024 17:49

No

GeckoFeet · 15/05/2024 17:51

Do you trust him?

SherlockHomies · 15/05/2024 17:51

Notamum12345577 · 15/05/2024 17:49

If you are just newly dating then probably wouldn’t be right for you to be upset about it. However, if you got serious/committed/married I don’t think it would be appropriate. I don’t think people in those scenarios should meet one on one with people of the opposite sex

What? Why?

Are you supposed to ditch all your friends when your relationship turns serious, or just those with different genitals to your own?

AGodawfulsmallaffair · 15/05/2024 17:51

No, why?

Changingplace · 15/05/2024 17:51

He’s allowed to have friends, why would you jump to it being anything more than that?

StarlightLady · 15/05/2024 17:52

As a bisexual woman, this type of post asking about men and women being friends always worries me. Does this type of attitude mean that I can’t have men as friends and l can’t have women as friends? I really have no desire to jump everyone l talk to.

XenoBitch · 15/05/2024 17:52

Notamum12345577 · 15/05/2024 17:49

If you are just newly dating then probably wouldn’t be right for you to be upset about it. However, if you got serious/committed/married I don’t think it would be appropriate. I don’t think people in those scenarios should meet one on one with people of the opposite sex

Wait, what???
Married people, or anyone in a committed relationship, should never meet alone with someone of the opposite sex?

You have serious trust issues.

Moveoverdarlin · 15/05/2024 17:52

Nope.

Changingplace · 15/05/2024 17:53

Notamum12345577 · 15/05/2024 17:49

If you are just newly dating then probably wouldn’t be right for you to be upset about it. However, if you got serious/committed/married I don’t think it would be appropriate. I don’t think people in those scenarios should meet one on one with people of the opposite sex

I think that’s a very controlling stance to take, you can’t expect to give up friends if they’re in a relationship.

AGodawfulsmallaffair · 15/05/2024 17:54

Notamum12345577 · 15/05/2024 17:49

If you are just newly dating then probably wouldn’t be right for you to be upset about it. However, if you got serious/committed/married I don’t think it would be appropriate. I don’t think people in those scenarios should meet one on one with people of the opposite sex

This isn’t 1864. My ds wouldn’t have any friends left, they’re mainly female. He doesn’t have sex with them.

anchoviesanchovies · 15/05/2024 17:55

Not even remotely odd. I do find it odd that people think those in a serious relationship can’t meet with friends of the opposite sex on their own.

Ponoka7 · 15/05/2024 17:55

Do you like babies? Tag along. While you should be able to have friendships with both sexes, trust your instinct.

LookAtAllThoseRoses · 15/05/2024 17:58

Notamum12345577 · 15/05/2024 17:49

If you are just newly dating then probably wouldn’t be right for you to be upset about it. However, if you got serious/committed/married I don’t think it would be appropriate. I don’t think people in those scenarios should meet one on one with people of the opposite sex

Gosh, how very Saudi. Do you imagine that men and women left alone together invariably fall upon one another and start ripping off their clothes in a frenzy of sexuality?

StoatofDisarray · 15/05/2024 18:01

No.

XenoBitch · 15/05/2024 18:02

LookAtAllThoseRoses · 15/05/2024 17:58

Gosh, how very Saudi. Do you imagine that men and women left alone together invariably fall upon one another and start ripping off their clothes in a frenzy of sexuality?

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I am disappointed that it has never happened to me!

spookehtooth · 15/05/2024 18:07

If you don't trust him, how do you even know he's only interested in women 🤔 Recommend Misery and Boxing Helena for tips on how to keep a man and help you deal with this insecurity

Notamum12345577 · 15/05/2024 18:10

SherlockHomies · 15/05/2024 17:51

What? Why?

Are you supposed to ditch all your friends when your relationship turns serious, or just those with different genitals to your own?

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No, but maybe don’t meet up one on one with someone of the opposite sex

labracadabras · 15/05/2024 18:13

Hmm I might be cynical but alarm bells ring that this is an ex or current girlfriend he’s had a baby with …..

labracadabras · 15/05/2024 18:13

But of course men and woman can be friends but just keep your wits about you