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To be concerned about this joke?

55 replies

Happydontiknowit · 12/05/2024 19:56

Preface: I’m pregnant and very hormonal so there’s a chance I’m being sensitive, please tell me if so!

DH was on his way to work earlier. I called through to the kitchen, ‘oh, I forgot to take the bin out, would you mind?’

He replied, ‘yeah, don’t worry, already on it’. I went into the kitchen to get my glass of water as he was putting the liner out the bin and I said, ‘I’ve just been shoving the stuff down all day, hope it wasn’t too messy’

He smiled and just said ‘I’ll add it to the divorce list’

He was smiling/laughing while saying it but neither of us has ever joked about divorce before or anything like it. He does always banter about other things as he’s that kind of person who doesn’t take himself too seriously but it really caught me off guard. I asked him why he said it and he hugged me and said he was joking and sorry for the bad joke.

AIBU to still think it was weird to say?

OP posts:
Diamond007D · 12/05/2024 23:33

MistyGreenAndBlue · 12/05/2024 20:43

I often tell DH "you can be replaced, you know?"
He knows it's a joke. This sounds to be along the same lines. I wouldn't read anything into it.

This. I think he meant it in a light hearted way.

PoppyCherryDog · 12/05/2024 23:41

My husband and I always joke about divorce.

This was clearly a joke and YABU.

PoppyCherryDog · 12/05/2024 23:43

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 12/05/2024 20:26

Not the point of the thread I know but it shouldn’t it a done deal that he takes the bins out. Surely a pregnant woman shouldn’t be dragging heavy bins down paths.

Wtf??? I had the most horrendous pregnancy and even I put the bins out if needed.

notacooldad · 12/05/2024 23:45

I think dropping the D word into any conversation is not OK particularly if your wife is pregnant. I assume just a joke but really not ok.

I agree it's not really what I'd want to joke about when pregnant, hormonal and already feeling vulnerable, no.
Blimey!

Funnywonder · 12/05/2024 23:54

crumbpet · 12/05/2024 20:00

I’ve just been shoving the stuff down all day, hope it wasn’t too messy’ I would be seething. So you've not emptied it ALL day and just kept adding to it? Why?!!!

Seething eh? Christ almighty, I'm glad I don't get worked up about such petty shit. Life's too short. It really is.

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