To be concerned about this joke?

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Preface: I’m pregnant and very hormonal so there’s a chance I’m being sensitive, please tell me if so!

DH was on his way to work earlier. I called through to the kitchen, ‘oh, I forgot to take the bin out, would you mind?’

He replied, ‘yeah, don’t worry, already on it’. I went into the kitchen to get my glass of water as he was putting the liner out the bin and I said, ‘I’ve just been shoving the stuff down all day, hope it wasn’t too messy’

He smiled and just said ‘I’ll add it to the divorce list’

He was smiling/laughing while saying it but neither of us has ever joked about divorce before or anything like it. He does always banter about other things as he’s that kind of person who doesn’t take himself too seriously but it really caught me off guard. I asked him why he said it and he hugged me and said he was joking and sorry for the bad joke.

AIBU to still think it was weird to say?

Very outing... however I once got upset because my hormones needed to be annoyed but I couldn't find anything to be upset about. So in my desperation I called my friend moaning how Mr bloody perfect has not done anything to annoy me. I then got worked up cos she said 'isn't that a good thing'
In that moment I hated him and her.
He then popped his head through the door saying 'I don't fancy cooking tonight, fancy a chinese' (my fave takeout'
Never hated him so much!
I laugh about it now. He 10 years on is still smug his hormonal partner couldn't find anything to moan about!

Heat and hormones, he could have asked you if you wanted ice in your water and you would still have thought he said something wrong.

Maybe tell him that being pregnant you are sensitive so may need to be careful about divorce jokes.

Hope you are ok OP

Change the locks, he is a monster

Oh shut up, she's pregnant not dying. Illness and unusually high risk pregnancy notwithstanding pregnant women can crack on as normal for the most part. I was mucking my horse out and shifting straw bales about until the week before I went into labour.

Don't worry OP, you'll laugh about this once your hormones have chilled out!

I've said similar to my husband. I have no plans to divorce him, but it really gets on my tits when he continues to push the rubbish down in a clearly full bin.

You sound like me 🤣. Husbands should have the decency to be annoying twats when we are hormonal and need a good rage.

Mind you, I can normally find SOMETHING to whinge about 😂😂

Yep, this is true. A black bag of rubbish is way heavier than a toddler on your hip when pregnant!

Oh gosh some women really become princesses when pregnant! 😳 (normal healthy pregnancies only)

Even the most sensitive guy doesn't realise how vulnerable pregnant women can be. It was a lame joke and he was kind to you when you told him it upset you. That's all it is OP. I'm sure he won't do it again.

I think he was trying to make you laugh OP or at least not feel bad about getting him to empty a rammed full bin - it's the kind of thing my DH would say and I know it's because he loves me that it's funny

He sounds like a good egg your DH

@MistyGreenAndBlue I found nothing. I hated him for it, and I hated my friend who didn't understand 🤣

God how irritating. Screw the pair of them 🤣🤣

YABU, sorry!

I remember last time I was pregnant standing in the kitchen laughing at something with DH and then the laughing suddenly turned into tears. I was crying for quite a few minutes but I had been in a good mood all day. Hormones are crazy!

@MistyGreenAndBlue I was colouring to try to calm down. I said to friend 'i wanna shoce this pencil up his perfect effing nose'
The howl she made!
Oh then an hour later came the crying cos I was horrible and didn't deserve a great guy like him. Then his understanding hug peed me off again!

I have 3 kids and he is still alive the guy is either really thick to get me pregnant that many times, very brave or has a genuine death wish!

Sounds like a totally daft joke to me.
(Completely get feeling hormonal and pregnant though, sometimes feels anything but a joke!)

He made a completely harmless joke! Totally normal. I honestly don’t think I know anyone who would be even remotely offended or upset by this.

I’d laugh if my partner said that to me.

Just wait until the menopause. 😂😉

@Idroppedthescrewinthetuna
Very outing... however I once got upset because my hormones needed to be annoyed but I couldn't find anything to be upset about. So in my desperation I called my friend moaning how Mr bloody perfect has not done anything to annoy me. I then got worked up cos she said 'isn't that a good thing'
In that moment I hated him and her

😂 Sounds like something I'd do. My brain's been known to invent things to be mad at if I can't automatically think of something lol.
I'll l be half way through a row in my head with DH and be getting more and more wound up until my sense kicks in and goes "you realise this hasn't even happened, you daft cow?! Sit down and shut up 🤣)

It tell him the divorce joke upset you. But I do honk you are overeating

@MistyGreenAndBlue I will warn him 😂

@GoodAfternoonGoodEveningAndGoodnight You win the crazy hormonal lady award for sure

Yes this

😂

I started joking about divorce at the wedding reception and I do it on a fairly regular basis. DH knows I adore him and divorce is not on the cards.

He didn't mean it, OP. But pregnancy can make you feel vulnerable so on that basis, YANBU. Send him to the shop for some ice-cream for you?

You are being sensitive and this sounds like the sort of humour my husband and I have. When my husband takes the bins out, he always says, "Whoops, I've forgotten something," and picks me up and pretends to put me in the bin 😄

Get a grip