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Fire Pits. Horrible anti social stink.

158 replies

DarkLene · 12/05/2024 03:00

Am I being unreasonable here? I live in a densely populated area with lots of people packed into a smallish space. Every fucking spring as soon as the weather gets warmer some selfish prick keeps one of these burning all night. The smell and fumes travel and every one else if they don’t want their house smelling like a bonfire has to shut every windows regardless of the heat. They should be banned. Plus pollution, etc.

OP posts:
KimberleyClark · 12/05/2024 12:07

charitynamechange · 12/05/2024 11:38

@IamSlave I've been reading in the news about the rise in whooping cough cases. Didn't seem to be around when my children were young. Sounds horrible

Isn’t whooping cough vaccinated against any more?

ThePoshUns · 12/05/2024 12:12

YANBU my friend has one and lights it whenever we go over. I can't stand the smell and hate waking up the next day to smelly hair and clothes.

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 12/05/2024 12:15

KimberleyClark · 12/05/2024 12:07

Isn’t whooping cough vaccinated against any more?

Edited

It is. Pregnant women are offered it and it's part of the first years many vaccines.

It's on the rise because of anti vaxxers, not because of fire pits. It's an infection, much like a throat or chest infection is not transmitted by your neighbour having a BBQ.

RagzRebooted · 12/05/2024 12:19

goldenretrievermum5 · 12/05/2024 03:05

YABU. I don’t have one but wish I did, it’s DH’s next DIY job for the summer.

I adore the smell, they’re lovely to look at, add cosy atmosphere, bring warmth, great for marshmallow toasting - I could go on!

I love ours but we use it about twice a year, because I'm aware it's antisocial and not nice for the neighbours. One of those occasions is New Year's eve, when no one has their windows open anyway. Occasionally we will use it after a BBQ, but usually other neighbours will have been BBQing as well and also stinking the street out.
If we lived out in the countryside with no neighbours I'd be lighting it every night in summer!

Combattingthemoaners · 12/05/2024 12:31

I agree. I also live in a densely populated area and hate them. The smoke gets everywhere and settles on your clothes and hair. They stink!

Combattingthemoaners · 12/05/2024 12:35

To add, it’s also the same people who blast their rubbish music so everyone else has to listen to it. No consideration for anyone else.

SquashPenguin · 12/05/2024 12:41

Charlize43 · 12/05/2024 10:53

Noise cancelling headphones.

I love to sunbathe or potter in my garden or just lie on a lounger with a good book. I either play music through my own headphones or just wear them to block out the sound, which could be anything from neighbourhood squeaky trampoline going for hours on end; someone who thinks the whole neighbourhood loves IAMDDB, Tupac, Meek Mill and Nicki Minaj as much as they do, the non-stop yapping Pomeranian who's dog owner can no longer hear, the mother who feels she has to be screaming at full capacity at her children all of the time... from an upstairs window. I live in London so it can be very full on. Noise cancelling headphones can be a real game changer.

I just want to sit with family enjoying an ice cream watching the dog roll around in the grass, not listen to happy hardcore and screaming 🥲

DoingTheBestICan · 12/05/2024 12:53

YA definitely NBU, my neighbour has decided to light his to burn all his old decking - in the middle of the day - whilst everyone has washing out. It bloody stinks and I now have to go and get my fresh washing in or else it will stink of a campfire.

Cabincrew1 · 12/05/2024 12:58

Hate that I can’t have my windows open or washing out in spring/summer because one selfish idiots enjoyment is more important than a whole neighbourhoods. YANBU.

CantHaveTooMuchChocolate · 12/05/2024 13:08

thebestinterest · 12/05/2024 05:58

😬 are you my neighbor? I’m afraid I never considered how this could impact anyone else. I just assumed everyone liked the smell of burning wood.

Nope, hate it, it’s also incredibly unhealthy. Would you be so happy if it was tobacco smoke, which is incidentally less harmful? It also has a worse affect on children.

https://www.familiesforcleanair.org/health/health4/

https://www.heart.org/en/news/2019/12/13/lovely-but-dangerous-wood-fires-bring-health-risks

Lovely but dangerous, wood fires bring health risks

Your fireplace might look delightful, but wood smoke is filled with things that can hurt you.

https://www.heart.org/en/news/2019/12/13/lovely-but-dangerous-wood-fires-bring-health-risks

KimberleyClark · 12/05/2024 13:10

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 12/05/2024 12:15

It is. Pregnant women are offered it and it's part of the first years many vaccines.

It's on the rise because of anti vaxxers, not because of fire pits. It's an infection, much like a throat or chest infection is not transmitted by your neighbour having a BBQ.

Yes I get it’s not caused by fire pits but horrified that it’s on the rise again. Anti vaxxers have a lot to answer for.

CleftChin · 12/05/2024 13:29

Each to their own, but I can't get wound up about wood smoke. I don't like the smell of my oil fired boiler, or the smokeless coal I use in one room sometimes but I think lighting my wood fire in the evening in winter makes the living room smell homely, and it dissipates within a couple of days. Perhaps it's the wood - as it's an integral part of my winter heating I buy kiln-dried logs which burn beautifully.

It's literally the thing that made humans what we are (cooking meat/veg let us extract more energy from it), of course humans enjoy sitting around a fire, we've been doing it for 100ks years.

And the whole 30% of deaths by whatever thing is comparing people who cook every meal on an open fire stove either inside their house or outside (depending on climate) - it's incomparable to a firepit in the garden on a summer's night!

RiceCrispyCakes · 12/05/2024 13:55

Yabu.
Go live in the countryside if you don't want to be bothered.

SlipperyFish11 · 12/05/2024 14:11

Yes let's just ban everything that might have had an effect on someone else. Seems that's the way people are going these days.

Liquorish · 12/05/2024 14:28

I honestly don’t understand waiting until it’s hot outside and then burning a fire?

Every time I’ve walked along the beach the past two weeks there’s been someone making a fire, plumes of it blowing up into my face. Sick of the choking stink of it. And then they walk off and leave it burning.

bloodyplumbing · 12/05/2024 15:10

Liquorish · 12/05/2024 14:28

I honestly don’t understand waiting until it’s hot outside and then burning a fire?

Every time I’ve walked along the beach the past two weeks there’s been someone making a fire, plumes of it blowing up into my face. Sick of the choking stink of it. And then they walk off and leave it burning.

I'm a five minute walk to the sea, never known this

Very occasionally you get a disposable BBQ left.

I wonder why your area is so different.

henlake7 · 12/05/2024 15:20

I dont mind fire pits or BBQs....smells of summer, right up there with cut grass IMO.
I do hate it when people burn rubbish on lovely summer days though. Why wait til people have their washing on the line and kids playing in the garden before deciding to burn your old junk?

AncientQuercus · 12/05/2024 15:40

This was the last straw from our new neighbours that convinced us to move. All summer we'd come home from the kids' activities on a Saturday tea time and they'd be all sat in the sun around a roaring fire with the smoke billowing across my line of clean washing. Every fucking week.

Evening after dark I wouldn't have had a problem with it as I actually like the smell of woodsmoke but not in the middle of a sunny afternoon.

As they also liked to shout all day starting at 6am and had a stupid yappy dog that started any time we dared to open our door they sound like some of the people on this thread. It didn't seem to occur to them that where they'd moved to nobody else had fires or yappy dogs, so they couldn't even get away with saying everyone else was doing it.

Fortunately nobody around us in our new place has started lighting fires yet.

bloodyplumbing · 12/05/2024 15:44

AncientQuercus · 12/05/2024 15:40

This was the last straw from our new neighbours that convinced us to move. All summer we'd come home from the kids' activities on a Saturday tea time and they'd be all sat in the sun around a roaring fire with the smoke billowing across my line of clean washing. Every fucking week.

Evening after dark I wouldn't have had a problem with it as I actually like the smell of woodsmoke but not in the middle of a sunny afternoon.

As they also liked to shout all day starting at 6am and had a stupid yappy dog that started any time we dared to open our door they sound like some of the people on this thread. It didn't seem to occur to them that where they'd moved to nobody else had fires or yappy dogs, so they couldn't even get away with saying everyone else was doing it.

Fortunately nobody around us in our new place has started lighting fires yet.

They might be planning to move in any time now

How did you make sure the new neighbours didn't shout, have a happy dog or have fire pits?

Did it take you long to find the property?

TonTonMacoute · 12/05/2024 16:18

I love our fire pit but, although we are in a rural area we are careful about when we light them (evenings) and not to keep them burning too long or too late.

I would not be impressed by one burning all night. They should be subject to the same rules as bonfires.

thebestinterest · 12/05/2024 17:13

CantHaveTooMuchChocolate · 12/05/2024 13:08

Nope, hate it, it’s also incredibly unhealthy. Would you be so happy if it was tobacco smoke, which is incidentally less harmful? It also has a worse affect on children.

https://www.familiesforcleanair.org/health/health4/

https://www.heart.org/en/news/2019/12/13/lovely-but-dangerous-wood-fires-bring-health-risks

🙁

Sheknowsaboutme · 12/05/2024 18:07

I love our! Love sitting by it, with my book, radio on and birds are singing, glass of wine.

we bother no-one.

Bellyblueboy · 12/05/2024 18:12

Sheknowsaboutme · 12/05/2024 18:07

I love our! Love sitting by it, with my book, radio on and birds are singing, glass of wine.

we bother no-one.

lucky you - no neighbours! It’s awful in built up areas. My neighbours listen to the radio loudly too- some awful, loud, right wing talk radio🫣.

takemeawayagain · 12/05/2024 18:13

RiceCrispyCakes · 12/05/2024 13:55

Yabu.
Go live in the countryside if you don't want to be bothered.

I don't recommend it, round here all the land owners have huge bonfires to burn anything and everything. Then there's all the gardeners who are too tight to pay for a green bins and burn all their garden waste. Not to mention everyone has chimneys pumping out smoke all winter. I've never lived anywhere as polluted.

NicoleSkidman · 12/05/2024 18:50

Sheknowsaboutme · 12/05/2024 18:07

I love our! Love sitting by it, with my book, radio on and birds are singing, glass of wine.

we bother no-one.

Read the post directly above yours. You harm yourself and others.

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