To ask … where sells nice clothes for little boys?

[butonlyone]

When DS was a baby and younger toddler I went high end: JoJo, Boden, Fat Face even, to get nice clothes that weren’t covered in dinosaurs.

He is now 3 and I’m struggling a bit. Supermarkets are dominated by black, grey and khaki or garish colours and dinosaurs still prevail. (DS has no real interest in them.)

Wondering where I might not have looked as I could do with updating his summer wardrobe. I don’t want him to look like a girl but just not dull stuff or ugly stuff!

Op take your child shopping in both sections and let them choose. You say you don't want to push things on them but you are reinforcing the gender binary. Like PP if I had my way he would wear neutrals and practical stuf, but it's not. He has taste, he is a person and he should get some choice.

I don't wish I had a girl. I couldn't care less what sex they are, they are my child.

@MikeBaldwin - it’s not meant to be a debate to be honest. But you can love a child very much indeed and harbour a bit of a longing. I don’t think there are many three year old boys wandering around in floral smocks and rainbow dresses but I am sure there are some.

I agree re colours to a point. But there are styles associated with girls and boys. The respective rights and wrongs of this are by the by: I’m not going to confuse DS by using him as a walking, talking agenda (although people always said ‘he’ even when he had on white babygros so I guess he had a boyish face!)

I’m finding this too with my 6 mo DD. She does look great in pink but it is a bit annoying to me how much pink she has. I was grateful when my mum brought clothes over and they were a mix of colours that I hadn’t seen for babies in the high street shops.

I shop around on Vinted to mix things up.

OP the binary is the bloody agenda! Look at where 'boys wear blue' 'girls wear pink' has got us. Seriously

@Perfect28 I’m good with choosing 👍🏻

I just get both children things I like. If DS ever expressed a desire for something I’d get it but we rarely go shopping together. Let’s get back to the suggestions.

You’ve seen the photo of my daughter in a blue outfit?

It isn’t about colour. But - honestly, this is a little bit silly now. Let’s move on. Your son wears dresses, unicorns and florals, great. Mine doesn’t.

I like H & M and Next for DS, who is 10, but these have always been good.

H &M is in part because I find their app easy to navigate though, and you can get free shipping if you’re a member.

Definitely Google Scandi, Dutch and French children's clothes brands they don't seem to be as blue/pink fixated.

There isn't really a 'right' or 'wrong' way to parent. The OP isn't telling you not to shop in both sections as that's your preference - just why she doesn't want to? I don't understand the repeated telling to go to the girls section when she's said that's not her preference..

People can parent differently or have different taste and still be good parents

Mayoral
Mi canesu
Zara
Mango

But you can love a child very much indeed and harbour a bit of a longing

So you do think I want ds to be a girl because I let him choose his clothes, rather than forcing him to adhere to some made up ‘rules’ about fashion?

The op said that if you let your boy child wear colours that are apparently ‘girl’ colours, then you wish they were a girl.

That’s bonkers enough to raise a few questions.

My son is 2.5 and nearly all his tops come from Jojo or Toby Tiger. I hate dinosaur prints but do love other prints so I wouldn't know where to buy plain things. His trousers and shorts etc come from H&M or Next.

I buy a couple of tops new when they catch my eye but most of it comes from Vinted.

We go Frugi, Boden, JJMB, Duns. Easy to find on Vinted.

No, I was speaking in general terms. Your son is ten and chooses his own clothes.

If I knew someone who routinely dressed their three year old son in clothes from the girls section - I don’t mean a plain t shirt or whatever but as described, dresses, florals, unicorns and so on - I would think they wanted a girl.

I realise that perhaps ideally it should not make a difference but I am trying to imagine dressing my three year old son in a pink sundress tomorrow and dropping him at nursery and not getting a slight double take. I realise that is unfair as girls can and do wear clothes designed for boys without the same amount of judgement but as I’ve said, I’m not using my child as an agenda and I don’t need to. Girls clothes are lovely - for girls. I don’t need to dress him in pink sundresses. I DO need to find cool, colourful clothes for little boys!

Childrensalon has some gorgeous boys clothes

I found peacocks clothes for boys are nice and don't cost the earth!
I also second matalan 👍

I didn’t, actually. Have another look

There is a massive difference between a boy wearing a pink T shirt - might raise an eyebrow but not really a problem, salmon a la Ross from Friends - and a boy wearing a pink dress adorned with unicorns.

Tu
Peacocks
Sometimes poundland have nice bits
Asda
Tesco
Marks and Spencer
Next
Sports direct
John Lewis

There's lots of Cath kidston boys stuff still knocking around.

@MikeBaldwin agreed, that one comment I think wasn't necessary and I don't agree with. I was referring purely to the fact she was making it clear she preferred stereotypical boy clothes and was looking for suggestions and was being told to buy from the girls section, which doesn't fit the criteria requested - that was the element I was commenting on

@butonlyone I have a little boy and girls and I hear you!!
personally don’t always love the quality at H&M
my son has a lot of Boden and Jojo but also feel a bit stuck. next is all grey, black and navy and dinosaurs. I also don’t like Marvel, Disney etc and my DH hates that even more…
we like S. Oliver which I sometimes get from relatives but not sure if sold in UK.

I feel the older he gets, the harder it is.

rainbows and hearts and florals. I’m really not going to dress DS in those things. It isn’t something I ever see in RL.It just makes people look like they really secretly wanted a girl to be honest.

You referred to colours and patterns.

My son wears pink, rainbow colours, and florals. This is because he likes them, not because I want him to be a girl. Or he wants to be a girl. Or anything at all to do with girls.

https://www.etsy.com/uk/shop/Bunnyandbeardesigns

@HAF1119 - I don’t think I do prefer stereotypically boys clothes. But outside of MN, a little boy in a dress or in floral patterned leggings and tops is somewhat unusual, and I don’t think it’s unreasonable to assume someone routinely dressing a boy as a girl actually is showing that they wanted a girl.

But it is a shame a very light thread has taken a heavy turn.

I am not dressing my son in girls dresses. That doesn’t mean I rigidly adhere to gender stereotypes, it just means I’m not dressing my son in girls dresses!