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Neighbour won't give me my parcel

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redpedal · 08/05/2024 14:59

I missed my parcel by about 5 minutes and it was delivered to my next door neighbour. As soon as I arrived home I went to knock on and he didn't answer. I tried again on the way to the school run and again, no answer.

Said neighbour is in because I could hear him banging around (they are loud people but that's a whole other issue) and I could see movement inside whilst I was standing waiting at the door.

I can't understand why he's not answering Confused it's not as if I'm not knocking quietly and he can't hear me.

How do I get the parcel off him? If I can't, is there actually anything I can do about it?!

OP posts:
TizerorFizz · 08/05/2024 15:02

Is his address your nominated “safe place”? If not, get in touch with delivery company. They haven’t delivered your parcel. If you do have the neighbour as an alternative, then not much you can do. Get someone else to knock on the door?

TeaKitten · 08/05/2024 15:02

Just try again later, there’s nothing to say he won’t answer the door later on when he’s less busy. After that contact the delivery company

ToxicChristmas · 08/05/2024 15:04

What proof do you have it was delivered next door? Do you have photo evidence or just a slip saying so?
I wouldn't panic just yet. Maybe he is busy doing something, maybe he had headphones in. It's only been a very short time. I can't always answer the door during the day if I'm mid call (work from home).
Give it an hour or two and knock on again.

Boxerdor · 08/05/2024 15:08

Try again later, as pp says he might have headphones in

Precipice · 08/05/2024 15:09

This was just today? You're far too early to worry - even if the neighbour is at home (physically), it doesn't mean he's 'at home' (thinking in 19th century 'available' sense). Sometimes people can't (or 'can't') come to th door, because it's not a convenient time. Seems better to try in the evening than to bother someone during the day.

19lottie82 · 08/05/2024 15:09

Try again and if no luck then put a note through the door.

Tattletwat · 08/05/2024 15:10

Doesn't look like he won't give you your parcel yet, as he hasn't even seen you.

Try later he might be busy.

CelesteCunningham · 08/05/2024 15:11

Knock again and if he doesn't answer pop a note through the door.

Haydenn · 08/05/2024 15:14

I’d calm down a bit for now. I’m at home a lot during the day but often unable to answer the door for one reason or another

malmi · 08/05/2024 15:16

If it's something you bought online, it's up to the seller to sort out. As far as you're concerned, your item hasn't arrived. You have no contact with the delivery service.

purplecorkheart · 08/05/2024 15:19

Call another time. We often do not answer the door at meal times or if on the phone. If we are cooking we tend to close the kitchen door and do not hear bell etc.

If you try a couple of times and there is not answer pop a note in the letter box asking could be leave the parcel out at 7pm and that you will collect it.

SherbetDips · 08/05/2024 15:20

He could be working, my bosses work from home (nanny) they don’t even here me and those child playing downstairs.

Natty13 · 08/05/2024 15:31

You could try a note. I had an extremely passive aggressive neighbour once who would pretend not to be in to make me wait for parcels (on the rare occasion it happened) so once I stood knocking on her door continuously until she came to answer it. I think how calm and polite I was when she answered pissed her off more than having her door hammered on for ages.

Amsterdamming · 08/05/2024 15:50

What is it? Is it valuable? I'd just keep knocking and then try and wave. It's unlikely he's got earphones in each time you've knocked!

allthemiddlechildrenoftheworld · 08/05/2024 18:24

@redpedal think for future deliveries, you might want to arrange pick up at a drop off shop

soupfiend · 08/05/2024 18:29

Jesus, I hate this, the thought that someone comes round and is knocking on my door when Im in the middle of something, hands up to whatever, or worse getting changed straight from work but perhaps someone has seen me arrive home (first thing I do is go to toilet and get changed, usually banging around because Im falling all over the place) or inconveniently I have to take a work call or sign into a teams meeting and cant come to the door and then Ive got an anxious angry neighbour panicking and mithering because no one is answering the door.

Just be patient, message them or leave a note saying thanks for taking my parcel in, Im home now, let me know when its convenient to pick it up and leave your number

What is wrong with people

soupfiend · 08/05/2024 18:30

allthemiddlechildrenoftheworld · 08/05/2024 18:24

@redpedal think for future deliveries, you might want to arrange pick up at a drop off shop

You dont get that option for every company or parcel, for example on Amazon only certain things can be delivered to the lockers or local shop

paintingvenice · 08/05/2024 18:31

Amsterdamming · 08/05/2024 15:50

What is it? Is it valuable? I'd just keep knocking and then try and wave. It's unlikely he's got earphones in each time you've knocked!

Alternatively he took in their parcel, thinking he was being kind and helpful, is now in the middle of something but ends up with a loon hammering on his door and waving.

Give the chap a couple of hours to drop it round. This kind of behaviour is why I don’t take in parcels for neighbours anymore.

Pepsiisbetterthancoke · 08/05/2024 18:35

So your title is misleading as your neighbour hasn’t refused to give you the parcel which is what your title insinuates

They may have been on the phone, working, just out the shower. Don’t go in all guns blazing yet and if you are going to be this worked up about a parcel either be in for it or if there is a chance you won’t be there are plenty of other ways to get it that doesn’t involve your neighbours

This is why click and collect is a god send if there is a chance you might kiss it. Not one parcel of mine has made it to a neighbour in all the years I have lived here

Beatrixslobber · 08/05/2024 18:39

Neighbour is probably one of the mumsnetters who doesn’t answer their doors.

Emmz1510 · 11/05/2024 08:01

You’ve literally knocked twice. He could have been in or just out of the shower, undressed, listening to music on headphones, working, not wanting to be disturbed from his favourite tv show, on the phone, cooking something he couldn’t leave unattended, on the toilet etc

Icepop79 · 11/05/2024 08:04

Our neighbour works from home and so will sometimes takes parcels in for us. I always wait til the evening to knock to ask for them - I figure if he’s been interrupted once to take in the parcel he’s unlikely to want to be disturbed again by me until after work.

Roundandroundthegard3n · 11/05/2024 08:06

He hasn't refused to give it you. He's busy. Put a note through the door.

catwithflowers · 11/05/2024 08:18

He's probably a Mumsnetter o and one of the 95% who never answer their doors 🤷‍♀️🤣

Mumoftwinsandasingleton · 11/05/2024 13:07

Sometimes I'm in my house and can't answer the door as I'm breastfeeding both twins at the same time or if the babies are crying at the same time, I can't hear anything. Maybe just post a slip through his letter box and say that you're in and for him to hand it over please. You say it's a loud house, so maybe he genuinely couldn't hear the knock. I missed my parcel delivery and I was in the house playing with my 3 kids. They were all being quiet but the ring doorbell had ran out of charge and so we couldn't hear him at all. I just noticed a text which said an attempt had been made to deliver. It was frustrating but there you go