GUEST WANTS SHOWER CURTAIN INSTALLED.

[Tartantotty]

I have a friend coming to stay with me for over a week in the Summer. She has sent a message asking that a shower curtain be installed in the en-suite bathroom she will use for the duration of her stay. She will pay.

Due to the shape of the bath etc it would be tricky to install a curtain and spoil the look of the place, I'm reluctant to do this, especially as she's getting free board and lodging in Edinburgh during festival time. AIBU reasonable in refusing? PS: She is a very large lady - no one else has complained about this, so guess it's due to her size.

Yes!!! I’m all agog to know how your screenless, curtainless bathroom hasn’t been wrecked by air bnb guests yet…

Everyone needs a shower curtain if there is no shower screen. There needs to be something to contain the water.

Ok, but here the shower without curtain or screen will actually be used as a bath and there is another shower available. Until her last update where Op said guest can use another shower, the guest was expected to shower in the shower/bath that has no covering at all.

It doesn’t matter that the bath isn’t a shower though. The guest isn’t paying. I hate those hand held shower heads and I hate baths. But that doesn’t mean it’s proper to criticise a friend who give me free lodging.

I don’t think she’s being selfish : I think she is worried she will make a flooded mess of OP’s bathroom.

If you think about it, the bigger you are, the closer your body comes to the edge of the bath so the water will more naturally ricochet off onto the floor not back down into the bath. To take an extreme example, it’s the difference between bathing a chihuahua in a bath ( perfectly possible ) and a Great Dane or St. Bernard ( a bit splashy).

Clearly in the friend’s experience of showering she finds herself to be less at the chihuahua end of the spectrum.

She probably can’t sit in the bath as was suggested upthread.

A tiny part of me is wondering ( having seen threads on here about overweight people and read the tone of the responses) if people are being so harsh because they really want to say it’s her fault, she should lose the weight, but know that isn’t realistic in the timeframe…

What the fuck is the matter with some people?

I would be very worried about having her to stay if she is entitled and rude enough to make a request like this.

This is the weirdest fat shaming thread I’ve ever read 🤦‍♀️

I think it’s just a fat shaming thread too.

And I think the friend has been thoughtful to ask. There are probably other issues related to her own comfort she hasn’t asked, but this is clearly a concern about property damage - and let’s be honest it’s not actually unheard of to have a shower curtain or screen. My tall DH needs it ( really needs it!!) and he isn’t overweight.

It’s not as though she can just not shower.

You must have something up already, is it a screen? You haven't answered this

She doesn’t I don’t think.

Yes. I’m sure that the hosting people just let water run everywhere! Not, of course they will have something, be it a screen, a wall or whatever, however, as a guest in a private home you have no right to demand a curtain. I doubt the shower in question is in the lounge, or front window!

i think it’s worth remembering that none of us know how the friend asked.

imagine that the bath has a shower over and no screen or anything to stop splashes.

then imagine the friend emailed to say ‘I’m worried about the bathroom and don’t want to splash everywhere. Do you mind if I bring a spring loaded pole and shower curtain while I’m there so I don’t get everything wet?

instead , everyone piled on and fat shamed someone who isn’t present to defend themself.

OP’s absence of explanation of the bath situation says it all.

and letting it out in air bnb without having a complaint means nothing- most people are too afraid to leave any comments in case they lose their rating. Plenty of people would be bothered by no shower screen or curtain in an en-suite, regardless of size, you’d get water everywhere.

Next time I have a friend over to stay, I’ll be sure to think of them staying as me ‘sacrificing a lot of money’ , after all, money is far more important than friendships …

Have you read the thread? It seems the OP does not have a screen or a wall.

If she is getting free accommodation and you don't meet her needs she needs to go elsewhere and stay. Ridiculous. Don't do it. She is a bit of a cf.

Can you let me know which of OPs posts say that? I can't see anything in her three posts that specifically say that there is not a screen or a wall. I can only see lots of other posters making that assumption!

Exactly, but so many have gleefully leaped onto the fact she's a larger person and simply must be an inconsiderate oaf.

I don’t think she sounds inconsiderate at all. In fact I think the opposite. I think it’s quite considerate of the friend; she’s clearly worried about splashing OP’s floor or causing water damage.

I don’t think OP has clarified but people have surmised there isn’t because a) op would likely have answered which if it was easy to do so and b) there wouldn’t be an issue in thd first place. Op would have simply said to the friend don’t worry there’s a screen/ built in wall etc.

Im guessing it’s one of those roll top type bath-in-room baths plonked in the bedroom. I’ve had them in fancy hotels and they look alright in the website photos but in reality they are completely impractical and water does get everywhere. I once managed to fire the hand-held hose across the bed and all over DH’s suit.

Explain to her that adding a rail will be tricky & that if she feels she needs a curtain to bring one with her & she can hang it over the screen. Mention that she will have sole use of the ensuit shower so privacy won't be an issue for her.
It's unreasonable of her to expect you to adjust your home to suit her needs when she's not paying towards her stay.

We still don't know whether there is any screen at all. The bets are there isn't.

Do you mean so entitled and rude to think in advance about not damaging friend's property and offering to pay for a solution which (unless the bathroom is very unusual) can be just temporarily poped up and removed when not necessary?

Exactly what I think. Can’t believe the votes on this thread.

As other posters have pointed out, despite being asked over and over, OP has given no indication that there is a screen/wall/anything, only that she has now accepted that her guest will use the other shower.