To be upset that ex named his daughter like mine?

[Spanishbydora]

I really would love some opinion. Ex and I have 2 daughters, and are both from Latin America. We picked names that reflected our culture. The two girls are 14 and 11.

I have since remarried, for the past 7 years. I had a third baby girl. Her father is from East Africa, and she was named after her grandmother. She is now 4.

My ex had a baby girl a year ago with his girlfriend ( who is Spanish) , and they named her just like my daughter and MiL. It annoys me so much, I am having a hard time.

My 2 eldest refer to their siblings as "Little X and big X". I haven't said anything, but it really annoys me.

My husband is more relaxed , he finds it hilarious that a little white girl has that name. He hasn't shown any anger.

Albu, right?

By "just like", do you mean exactly the same name?

Yes. The exact same name.

Your husband is right, it's mildly amusing. Getting upset and annoyed about it won't change a thing and will only make you feel like shit in the end.

Well who looks like they have no imagination?. Clue... It isn't you.

It's a name. If he did it to get a reaction from you, you're playing right in to his hands. Don't give him that power.

Two siblings or half siblings with the exact same name is unfair on the children. You want to at least have a unique name amongst your siblings.

In some countries they put known siblings on the birth certificate of younger siblings and this would be flagged up when they tried to register the birth and rejected by the registrar.

I'd be miffed too tbh, but would ultimately have to accept there's nothing I can do and get over it. So would try and get there quickly because it's not fun being bitter.

Depends how common the hame is. Ultimately, is it him who suggested it and she happened to love it more than any others, or is it a coincidence that it is a name she had short-listed herself?

He has called 2 of his daughters the exact same name?

Also, not sure about the 'white' girl with an African name highlight. Do names have skin colours?

That's what I was trying to work out but wasn't sure if I was misunderstanding. It sounds like that exactly what's he's done which is just fucking weird.

He has called his 3rd daughter with another woman than op. The same name that ops 3rd daughter (with another man) has. Together op and x has 2 daughters they each have a 3rd daughter with a new partner. This means their 2 oldest daughters have 2 little sisters calles the same.

Op I wouldn't worry too much about it not like you will see a lot of her and your dds will get used to it.

I read it as ops ex partner has had a baby with his new partner and named the baby the same as op and new husbands daughter... If that makes sense 🤦🏼‍♀️

Well, it's an old Swahili name, very common in Uganda for older women. Of course it's strange.

Would you find the name Ming-Ming on a white Scottish person culturally appropriate?

No. The OP and her ex have 2 DDs together. Both have gone on to have a third child with new partners. OP named her third daughter for her MIL. Several years later her ex had a third daughter with his new partner. They called her the same name as OP’s 4 year old third child.

OP and ex have two daughters together.

They split.

OP has another bambina with Partner Number 2. They give it an African name.

Ex gets together with another woman. They also have a little girl. They gave it same African name that OP has given her daughter with new partner.

OP and ex's two daughters together now have a half sister through their mum and a half sister through their dad, each with the same name. They must refer to one as 'Big X' an the other as 'Little X' to differentiate them.

The ex hasn't called two of his daughters the same name. He has called his newest child the same name as the OPs youngest child, with her new partner. So those two children are not related (OP and new partner, Ex with his new partner) but the older siblings now have two younger half siblings with the same name.

Which is a bit weird of him to have done that. Especially as it's not from his culture.

No. He hasn't got 2 daughters with the same name. Sorry I meant, he had a daughter with a new woman. I had a daughter with a new man too.

They makes more sense. I think the excessive detail made it more confusing.

It's still weird but not as weird then.

It's definitely a little weird.

Did YOU dump him?

Yes. He was a liar and a cheater, but always accused me of being the one cheating, claiming our daughters weren't his.

As soon as I left him, he suddenly became obsessed with getting custody.

It's so weird! I can't believe anyone would defend it. I mean, there's nothing you can do about it, but with the hundreds of thousands of names available to them they chose the one his ex and her new partner used? It would be strange even if it wasn't culturally inappropriate.

I mean it does sound weird. Nothing you can do about it though , so you might as well move on.

No, I agree it's a strange thing for them to do.

I find it a bit weird yes. I wouldn’t name my child the same as a close friend had named theirs, even if it was really common. I definitely wouldn’t choose the same name as my ex had chosen for their child.

Theres nothing you can do but roll your eyes but I see how it can grate.