To be upset that ex named his daughter like mine?

[Spanishbydora]

I really would love some opinion. Ex and I have 2 daughters, and are both from Latin America. We picked names that reflected our culture. The two girls are 14 and 11.

I have since remarried, for the past 7 years. I had a third baby girl. Her father is from East Africa, and she was named after her grandmother. She is now 4.

My ex had a baby girl a year ago with his girlfriend ( who is Spanish) , and they named her just like my daughter and MiL. It annoys me so much, I am having a hard time.

My 2 eldest refer to their siblings as "Little X and big X". I haven't said anything, but it really annoys me.

My husband is more relaxed , he finds it hilarious that a little white girl has that name. He hasn't shown any anger.

Albu, right?

Yes, I am bringing discrimination into it, because it might not be your reality, but it is of a lot people with distinctive name from a perceived place
But that's a totally different discussion. And if anything, the more common the name becomes, the less likely to become a reason for idiots to discriminate.

No I don't find it odd that a white girl could have a typical Swahili name just as I wouldn't find it odd for a Black girl to have a very old and standard Irish name.

Many pick names because they find them pretty or nice sounding regardless of the origin.

Again, it's not your feelings I question, I too would have been very bemused and annoyed. It's the unnecessary comment your husband made about the girl's race.

This is seriously weird and selfish.

You have 2 kids with him
You have a littler one with someone else, a half sibling for your 2 kids.
Then he has a baby, also the half sibling of your 2 kids and calls the baby the same as their existing half sibling. Has he given even an ounce of consideration to the eldest 2??

His lack of imagination is embarrassing. Also, giving a Spanish/British child an African name is going to sign her up for a life time of explanations.
"No no never been there"
"No, um, my dad just liked it"
"Um yeh my half sisters' sister on their mum's side is called the same name ...."

Nuts

It's very odd he's done this. I know 2 sisters, very close, who have sons with the same name, I find that odd too.

Well it's definitely odd, I'm not sure I'd be angry, I'd just think it's wierd! Presumably his new partner knows you have a daughter with the same name? I would try and not let it bother you, he's nothing to do with you now and you're only hurting yourself by being angry. You should feel sorry for him, it's a bit pathetic really!

I think it’s ridiculous he chose it but I also think you sound racist OP.

Unhinged even if the name were Ava or Sophie. I wonder why on earth the wife went along with it??

The people saying that the OP is racist are really missing the point. The point is that they (both the ex, her new DH and the OP herself) have always named their children with a name that reflects their own culture. Then out of the blue her ex names his daughter not only a name that has 0 relevance to his or his wife's culture but is from his ex's new husbnad's culture, but is the exact same name as his ex's new daughter.

I'm sorry but if my husband divorced me and remarried a Japanese woman, and I chose to call my new non-japanese daughter the exact same japanese name they had chosen...... then yes, that would obviously be pretty funny. Having a causasian Haruki and a Japanese Haruki in the same family, with the same sisters, is very funny.

Well they are not Bio siblings are they.

OP and her new DH
Ex DH and his new GF

No bio link.

Im not clear if im following correctly but if you are saying you and ex both are both latin american and have 2 latin american named kids, you have since had a baby with an african man and the baby has an african name, you ex had another kid with a spanish lady and they have given the child an African name that is also the same name as your child then yes your ex is absolutely nuts.

I would say Aaliyah is somewhat common in the UK in that iv heard of it. If both parents were white id still think it was an odd choice but Buuxo/Guedid, iv never heard of in my life. Id be very surprised if a friend gave their child one of these names.

My ex and I are both from South America, his wife is Spanish, my new husband is African. So you got everything correct.

My two eldest have names that are common South America ( think names like Teresa , Ximena etc...)

Aaliyah is very pretty, but it is nowhere near as common. It is my husband's mother name.
He doesn't really care, doesn't want our girl's name being associated to something negative.

I can respect that, but I am still p*seed off. I guess I will just move on. Poor little girl will always be little X while mine is big X. That's how my other daughters refer to their 2 siblings.

But there's a bio link with the first two daughters. They now have 2 little sisters with the same name!