Crying and shaking

[somethingisnotquiteright]

Do people really cry and shake simultaneously?
I can't recall a time ever in my life (and there have been some rather hairy moments, including being SA) that I have ever been crying and shaking. I cry when I'm upset and I shake when I'm f*cking cold or have low blood sugar. Never have I cried and shook at the same time.

To all those people who are 'crying and shaking', are you actually crying and shaking?

I’m not sure I understand your point. Do you mean you don’t believe people? Surely you don’t think because you haven’t experienced something it doesn’t happen?

Like another poster, I work in an ICU. I assure you it happens.

I did start shaking and crying when my partner died. It was a massive shock. That’s the only time though. My whole body wasn’t shaking, but my hands were.

I cry with laughter all of the time!

I can’t laugh without crying it’s so embarrassing.

I also regularly snort out my drink if someone makes me laugh when drinking it.

Its more embarrassing when you’re not drinking and you snort out snot which I have several times too.

I shake when something scary has just happened (like a small car crash fortunately never been in a big one), near miss, huge argument/fight, been hit.

I guess it’s adrenaline like a PP pointer out.

I sometimes cry too but if I’m just crying because I’m sad then I don’t tend to shake.

If you have a panic attack you do.

The only time I remember shaking, that wasn't from cold, was when I was in a car accident. I wasn't crying though.

I've never cried so much it made me shake. I'm not much of a crier. I'm more likely to cry and shake out of anger.

This…. It’s the only time I’ve ever experienced shaking and crying together. Wouldn’t wish it on anyone

I always remember the first time I worked in an SEND school and a huge 6’4” 16yo boy kicked off and started shouting loudly and throwing stuff around the room.

It wasn’t even directed at me but I remember shaking so much and my heart was racing.

I remember getting upset and telling the staff I couldn’t do it.
They were lovely and I ended up staying and then the more I was exposed to it, the less it bothered me.
So much so that I have been physically attacked multiple times and worked in prisons.

I think it’s your fight, flight or freeze responses kicking in and if it’s a new experience your body just reacts.

My dad was also ver volatile growing up and anytime anyone started shouting I would go back to when I was a child.

You should never feel ashamed of how your body reacts to different situations.

I had this, I had a horrible traumatic event, was shaking uncontrollably for a few days, could not stop, had to get tranquilizers, and during this period also cried on and off so yes, was doing both at the same time.

I just remembered one time when I was on a school residential trip and we had to rock climb and I was very afraid of heights.

I was definitely shaking and crying then!!!

Twice in my life I shook involuntarily and cried and both were shock related. I've also had a few panic attacks but didn't really shake at those, more unable to breathe and overcome with stress.

All were awful moments that I would never like to repeat.

This.

Count yourself lucky you’ve never been in a situation where this has happened. Imagine something devastating and shocking all at the same time. this is what your body would do.

On a lighter note I have definitely snorted tea through my nose while laughing. It was grim.

Kids often shake and cry at the same time. I’ve definitely seen friends shake when they cry! I wouldn’t know about myself as can’t see what I’m doing when that distressed.

Yup

IRL if I'm finding something really funny, I tend to snort like a pig if I laugh really hard. Had a few snorts this week with mates and kids.

Tbf some things on here are really funny

It can happen. The night I got home from the hospital after my Mum died, I was certainly crying and shaking at the same time. I was in great distress.

It's usually a shock response to shake I think

I have before when having a panic attack.

I've done it once in 55 years. People on here seem to do it every 5 minutes.

I've done both but not at the same time. When I went into theatre to give birth with forceps etc I could not stop shaking. Crying came after he was born but had the shakes for ages.

@somethingisnotquiteright I don’t think people are saying you are lucky that you haven’t been through the experiences that you have gone through.

I think they are saying that you are fortunate that your reaction wasn’t something that led to the adrenaline in your system producing the long term effects we have all spoke about.

I wish to god I didn’t feel the way I do now and worry about my left arm working and throwing up when stress rises. It never used to happen.

I always thought I could handle stuff, I’ve been through a lot, and the one day it just changed, my physical reactions were undeniable and I have been in counselling ever since to get back that control.

No one ever said that that your experiences weren’t valid, only that they are glad you hadn’t gone through the same thing. I would give anything not to have gone through this uncontrollable experience of trauma, I would.

I don't think I've ever shook as an emotional response and I have enough trauma to make a therapist need therapy however I imagine it's a very individual thing, just like we all feel emotions differently, we all react to emotions differently, some people cry, some don't, some hyperventilate, some vomit, some clearly shake and cry

Yes!

After I watched medics resuscitate my four year old daughter and bring her back to life!

It was surreal, a mixture of shock, joy, relief.... I didn't even realise that I was trembling until my husband grabbed hold of me.

My teeth chatter when I get really anxious and I've broken down sobbing many times since I witnessed my dad pass away

My toddler for sure does crying and shaking at the same time. Sometimes it's like you can see the adrenaline physically hitting her body.

I shake after getting angry and I also get tearful when I'm angry so sadly I do shake and cry occasionally. I recently had to stand up to a bully in a situation at a place I volunteer at and after he had gone I started shaking and then when someone who witnessed what happened asked if I was ok I got emotional and had a little cry. Was very embarrassing but can't help it.

I also was shaking and crying and probably sobbing when my then 12 year old daughter was surrounded by a team of doctors and nurses in a crash situation in hospital.