Crying and shaking

[somethingisnotquiteright]

Do people really cry and shake simultaneously?
I can't recall a time ever in my life (and there have been some rather hairy moments, including being SA) that I have ever been crying and shaking. I cry when I'm upset and I shake when I'm f*cking cold or have low blood sugar. Never have I cried and shook at the same time.

To all those people who are 'crying and shaking', are you actually crying and shaking?

I have EUPD, and crying and shaking for me happens a lot, and for seemingly minor things too.

Maybe you've had so much trauma your responses are numbed trauma does different things to different people.

I snorted soup over the wall in work once, I laughed at the wrong moment!

I've NEVER cried and shaked. Can't lie I do think people are probably being slightly dramatic when they say it

I've had somethings terrible happen to me , haven't cried and shook .Some pretty unusual life experiences .
The only thing that has never happened to make me cry and shake would be for something utterly terrible for to happen to my sons .
That is the only thing that could have such a devastating reaction from me .

I think that happens when your body goes into shock. I remember crying and shaking an hour after I broke my arm, and was sitting in a&e during lockdown, the pain was awful.

I met up with a friend for tea, and I made her laugh so much, she snorted tea up onto her glasses... which made us both laugh even more.
I fucking love a good laughing session... the type where you can't even breath anymore and then forget what was even funny in the first place.
But saying that, I can't recall ever laughing that way from something I have seen online. In person stuff, yes.

My arms and legs shake after very extreme situations, it’s just an adrenaline/shock thing. For example, I remember shaking quite badly when j was in Manchester when IRA bomb went off. I’m not much of a cryer but I’m pretty sure tears and adrenaline aren’t mutually exclusive so it doesn’t seem particularly surprising to me that some people would do both.

Doesn’t really matter, does it? No need to take everything literally.

Once, when I had to go with my mum to identify my father's body. He'd died extremely unexpectedly, young, in traumatic circumstances (for us, he was likely unaware), at about the worst possible time, emotionally speaking.

It's the only time in my adult life that I've lost it. It was like I was watching myself falling apart unable to intervene, like a passenger in my own body.

So yes, but only under very extreme circumstances. Not for any other deaths, being in pain, or anything else. So far.

Again, not being superior. I've been through trauma.

I don't doubt there are people who genuinely do cry and shake but the frequency it happens on here makes me wonder how many people are actually crying and shaking or are they just saying it for effect after having a run in with someone.

Not sure why so many posters think I'm mocking or being 'superior'.

I have bipolar disorder so my trauma response is losing my shit. Give me crying and shaking over that any day.

No…but then I’m never ‘incandescent with rage on your behalf OP!’ Neither am I, ‘crying reading your posts OP’ and I never worry if OP never updates on her visit to A&E eg. I really shouldn’t be on here….

But people react differently to different things?

I posted above that I cried and shook when my best friend died and when I lost my baby.

I was also raised in care and I'm a childhood sexual abuse survivor. I didn't cry or shake once while being molested. Not once as a 4 yo or older. I froze. I was numb. I continued to be numb for years.

That doesn't mean anything really beyond that was my trauma response.

I also cry at long distance commercials, and animal videos. I'm a sensitive sap to most things.

I don't compare my emotional responses to others. We all have our stuff.

This,. Only once ever, pram collapsed while crossing a road, car came towards us as trying to deal with chaos, man ran out into road and scooped pram and child up, idiot driver kept going, absolutely I cried and shook from the shock!

I remember in the earlier days of t'internet when C|N>K was the correct response to a joke (instead of lol which is much more recent)

C|N>K is a computer programmish way of saying snorted coffee through my nose onto the keyboard.

I've typed it a fair few times and only actually done it once.

Ie yes it is a real thing but it also is used metaphorically at times.

Surely the answer to all of this is that we suffer and experience trauma differently (and some people use language in a hyperbolic way too).

I never want to go back to that day. I thought I was also having a stroke as my left hand went numb and stopped working properly. Once in a while when I am under stress it feels tingly and I have to put down what I am holding just in case it gets weak.

This all happened five years ago and I am still fearful of feeling that way again. It was honestly the worst I have felt in my entire life, but I also can’t help that my physical body chose to react in that way. I had zero control at the time.

Same here. My legs give out. I was in my local town centre, and there was some kerfuffle between some men somewhere. Lots of shouting. Immediate adrenaline dump, and my legs caved. Had to sit on the floor for 10 mins or so.
I felt fucking stupid... it was two guys having their own thing going on... nowt to do with me.

Yes. But I do have EUPD, amongst many other things.

Yes! I watch a lot of comedy and have been caught at the wrong moment on many an occasion. Keyboard and screen both regularly pebble-dashed with tea or wine. In fact DH, who is a very funny guy, often does it to me on purpose, waiting until I've taken a mouthful then unleashing the punchline!

I've never cried and shaken with emotion, but I do cry with laughter, sometimes to the point where I can't breathe.

Lucky you OP, that you haven't experienced something traumatic enough to make you cry and shake.
When the police came to my door to tell me they had found my son's body I cried. I shook quite a lot too. The police officer had to get me a glass of water because I was a bit too shaky to get it myself.

That sudden lack of limb control is awful isn’t it? Mine is getting better but it is taking such a long time and I have never known anything like it before. I really feel for you.

Oh my gosh I am so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine how horrible that must have been. That is horrific. I am truly so very sorry.

Ooh thats really interesting! What does it mean?

Clever! Guess you could substitute W or T for the C?

When I'm very stressed I shake, my teeth start chattering - it's so weird and I can't control it.

I shake when I shiver and cold. And I shake when my anxiety takes hold

But not really when I cry

Unless I'm so anxious I'm crying and shaking which is thankfully rare due to other coping mechanisms I have