Crying and shaking

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Do people really cry and shake simultaneously?
I can't recall a time ever in my life (and there have been some rather hairy moments, including being SA) that I have ever been crying and shaking. I cry when I'm upset and I shake when I'm f*cking cold or have low blood sugar. Never have I cried and shook at the same time.

To all those people who are 'crying and shaking', are you actually crying and shaking?

I shake with an adrenaline rush, or after the rush I suppose. It's awful cos it's completely involuntary. I also blush which is annoying as I feel like it undermines me.

Crying and shaking though? Nah.

Can relate to this. Only when I'm angry. I always cry too.

Yes, there is one person in my life that makes me shake and cry, a really awful person. Otherwise no

People on MN cry and shake at the drop of a hat. If someone looks at them the wrong way, if someone unexpectedly knocks on their door, if a stranger smiles at their baby. Quite possibly if they literally drop a hat.

Is that really necessary?

I did it once, when someone said something very funny when I had a mouthful of tea. I sprayed my tea all over the keyboard, and must have snorted as well, because tea came down my nose too.

And it was at work, and I had to pretend it was a coughing fit. The colleague who'd made me laugh managed to remain impassive throughout, but another colleague swiftly took herself off to the bog for a good 10 minutes to recover.

I did when my mum died in front of me, yes.

If you havent experienced crying so much that you're shaking, you're very fortunate and really shouldn't mock those that have.

That sounds awful OP, I hope all ended ok.
I can imagine that kind of situation where you're not in control and can't even imagine the outcome, you're at the mercy's of your emotions, whatever they may be.

My DH is ex-police & has had to deliver bad news to loved ones including a mum who lost her baby in cot death & yes people can react like that. Just be grateful you've never experienced or witnessed it.

Well maybe you are superior to the relatives pippa has seen while working in critical care?

I have snorted tea up my nose.

It actually really hurt.

Yes I have had the crying and shaking thing. Also seen it in others. As pp have said it is a trauma response.

Be glad that it hasn't happened to you.

If you're in shock you definitely can

I have a few times, I'm quite a keep it together get on with it type person but when I've had some very hard moments I have got like this. it's more like a panic attack when I can't catch my breath or control my cry.

Not mocking. Dint know where you drew that from. It's a genuine question.
I have never cried and shook despite being SA, in a car accident, watched someone die..
I've cried at all these. I have never cried and shook.
Adrenaline is a fear/flight response and the most likely to cause shaking. Generally speaking if you're in a fight/flight situation, you're not crying.

I shake very easily - yesterday I was shaking while describing a scene in a TV thriller to someone. I don't know why. I always have.

My best friend died at 31 unexpectedly. It was awful and yes the shock made me cry and shake.

Also when I lost my baby I cried and shook. My body went ice cold from the shock. I remember my teeth were chattering.

Not sure what people are saying 'be glad it hasn't happened to you'

I have been raped.
I have been sexually abused.
I have watched someone literally die in front of me.

I am not being superior.

I am merely stating, crying and shaking isn't a typical reaction but going by many of the post on here, a huge percentage of people go about their day in between crying and shaking over an altercation on Tesco car park or some other inconsequential event.

If anything, I'm pointing out how many people minimise it.

I've only cried and shaked twice in my life, both after horrifically traumatising situations. I think its a stress response.

I don't cry/shake at anything on mumsnet but some posts do make me laugh (but not snort tea) i have genuinely woken my baby once by laughing but didn't obvs didn't post that.

I was in an accident.

I was admitted to hospital.

At one point I was in a room in a and e for about an hour while they found a bed and tried to work out if they could operate that nights

I was very cold and shaking continuously. I was also crying because I'd just started a new job and I was worried about losing it.

That was about an hour.

I was in both medical (lost quite a lot of blood) and psychological shock.

The only time I've been crying and shaking at the same time I was in clinical shock. I remember saying to the dr that I couldn't stop shaking, but I wasn't cold apparently its quite common in proper clinical shock (about the only bit I remember from the 1st day in hospital).

Isn't it the case that everyone is different and people react differently to events in their lives. Surely that's not too hard to understand? Always seems to be a lot of I've reacted in a superior way to others on these threads, is it really necessary?

My DM and my sister both shake and cry simultaneously when they are upset. Its not for dramatic effect- its an uncontrollable response. It’s not very nice to watch either - whenever I’ve seen either of them in that state, I’ve found it really uncomfortable to see, and has worried me for them.

Although I understand what you mean re: Mumsnet hyperbole, I think YABU in general.

I suffer from anxiety and often have a adrenaline reaction that leaves me shaking, panic attack I guess - it's fucking exhausting and I hate it.

I think may have cried while shaking a couple of times in my life, far more likely to be one or the other for me.

This^
Not everyone will have the same response as you OP. We don’t all find the same things funny or scary either.