Pictures in the downstairs loo

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I'm trying to do up the house a bit (lots of blank white walls & a general lack of love).

I got a little collection of family things to put up in the loo - all in nice frames. Few old postcards. Couple of baby pics. One (small) wedding photo (no professional or flashy - just a nice casual photo taken by my mum).

Started to put them up (nice bank holiday job) and DH said he thinks obnoxious when people put pictures of their own lives in the loo - like we are showing off - and if i want to put up a wedding photo it should be in our room.

I guess my AIBU is two-fold really - do people agree about downstairs loos?

But bigger question is does my DH get a say in all this stuff when he doesn't do anything himself? He doesn't suggest or buy anything for our house or do any DIY at all - but he does have a habit of telling me my ideas are terrible, a lot.

After ranting for 10 minutes about how much 'i bloody hate the idea' - i then put the pictures back in the drawer and he said 'do it if you want. i'm allowed to give my opinion though'

But it's pretty hard to crack on with something when you know the person you live with 'absolutely hates it'.

I know he can give opinions - of ocurse he can- but jsut feels like everything i do i have someone telling me how shit it all is.

Also, i am interested in whether people agree that family pics or litte pictures/postcards in the loo is obnoxious?

Your husband is being a dick. How on earth is it obnoxious to have pictures in the loo. Of course your wedding photo shouldn’t be tucked away in your bedroom where only you may see it. On the wedding picture I’d say that should probably be living room, pride of place- but otherwise crack on.

I know this sounds stupid but I wouldn't be comfortable having photos of people in the loo, even if they are family. I would get a sense of the person watching me when i was doing something I don't want an audience for..
Nothing against postcards or pictures but wouldn't be happy with photos of people.

Yeah I agree, I wouldn't put photos of people in the loo watching me doing things I like to do in private but your husband sounds like a dick, especially if this is part of a pattern

I personally wouldn't like photos of people in the loo. Around the rest of the house sure but not the loo. Couldn't explain why just feels a bit odd

@Haydenn he thinks people who have photos in their homes are 'showing off'. Which I get if you have lots of fancy professional photos everywhere...but a casual small pic of your wedding seems pretty ok.

Ha ha @Whatabother i've never thought of that before.

I like pictures in loos, but there does have to be some kind of agreement in things in walls in the family home I think

Postcards and pictures for loo is good. People/wedding photo I wouldn’t put in loo.
But not obnoxious.

Husband sounds obnoxious though.

I agree. And this is what he says 'it's my home too and i'm allowed an opinion'

Which of course he is. But he doesn't suggest ANYTHING ever. He isn't interested. So we have lots of blank walls and unloved rooms. And if i suggest anything he's always got a reason why he doesn't like it.

Photos of people I know in the loo odd...and this is going to sound crazy..." I don't want them watching me😂" locking eyes even with a photo of friends husband whilst doing a wee .yuk.

Postcards etc cool

I’ve loads of pics in my loo. Used those mixed tiles. Looks fantastic and adds interest, ones of us as a family, all candid or funny shots, and lots of different things like arty ones of things we saw on holiday, all in black and white.

i don’t think anyone who is here is woo enough to think photos watch them, I find that odd. But if they do, then that’s their issues not mine.😂

He's being an idiot. I have a couple of nice pictures in my downstairs loo - abstract sea scenes type art work. I also have a shelf with dried grasses in a vase, a model boat, some sea shells and other bits and pieces. Why should the loo not get a bit of tlc along with the rest of the house.

It's very Normal to have photos of family, events, etc in your home. It's not flashy or showy. He's being odd.
Id not be particularly inclined to put them in a loo though, I think they deserve a more special place to be on show. I'd personally not relegate family pics to the loo, i just don't think it's very nice. However there's nothing wrong with it if it's your taste.

i have never heard of this things about 'photos of people watching me' - but lots of people seem to think this.

My DH wasn't saying that btw - he was saying he thinks it's very 'look at me' to have photos or anything like that in the loo.

He would hate our house then. Photos everywhere. Quite a few of them depict people who are now dead.

Not gonna comment on your DH, but I wouldn't put pics of friends and family in the loo, no.
Other pictures, yes.

Agree, mine too. They're an important part of my life and history and a way or remembering wonderful people, times and events.
They're not in the loo though

Family photos are for a mantelpiece or maybe bookshelf, not the toilet.

Of course you can but I def agree with your DH. The thought of putting family things on wall in loo makes me feel ill but I'm really odd about bathrooms and need it all very impersonal.

Things in the loo can be funny or stealth-boasty - putting them up in the loo says "don't take this too seriously" so I wouldn't put wedding stuff up in there. Various friends with formal roles like being an ordained priest or barrister have framed certificates and photos of these qualifications in their downstairs loo (in a few cases also illustrated with a caricature sketch of them making fun of their serious role)

I would put wedding stuff in a corridor or in the bedroom.

No I’ve never heard of it. Do these posters think photos are watching them where ever they are?

That must be something you've made up, theres really no rule on where you can hang particular genres of photographs

it's not nice big famliy photos - it's those silly thing - funny ones, couple of silly ones of the kids as babies. and a photo of me and H laughing under a table. all silly small photos.

nice family photos - I agree should be on a book shelf in the house - which they are

i haven't put grandma in the loo.

I used to have little postcards in the loo. One had the words to rappers delight, another was Shakespeares insults. Everyone's favourite was "Nah" with the name Rosa Parks underneath.

You feel ill at the thought of a candid pic of someone in a loo??

Lol our downstairs loo has a glow in the dark plastic skeleton hanging up! It got put there one Halloween and never got put away again.