Pictures in the downstairs loo

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I'm trying to do up the house a bit (lots of blank white walls & a general lack of love).

I got a little collection of family things to put up in the loo - all in nice frames. Few old postcards. Couple of baby pics. One (small) wedding photo (no professional or flashy - just a nice casual photo taken by my mum).

Started to put them up (nice bank holiday job) and DH said he thinks obnoxious when people put pictures of their own lives in the loo - like we are showing off - and if i want to put up a wedding photo it should be in our room.

I guess my AIBU is two-fold really - do people agree about downstairs loos?

But bigger question is does my DH get a say in all this stuff when he doesn't do anything himself? He doesn't suggest or buy anything for our house or do any DIY at all - but he does have a habit of telling me my ideas are terrible, a lot.

After ranting for 10 minutes about how much 'i bloody hate the idea' - i then put the pictures back in the drawer and he said 'do it if you want. i'm allowed to give my opinion though'

But it's pretty hard to crack on with something when you know the person you live with 'absolutely hates it'.

I know he can give opinions - of ocurse he can- but jsut feels like everything i do i have someone telling me how shit it all is.

Also, i am interested in whether people agree that family pics or litte pictures/postcards in the loo is obnoxious?

I have photos but not on show.
I HATE going around someones home and its like you walk all through their life with photos everywhere.

Snap! Except ours is on the back of the kitchen door. And there's a 3-D realistic skull in the dining room. I offered to put it in storage but DH says he likes it there.😬

I put some deliberately bland art in our cloakroom. I must say I find the idea of putting photos of people in there quite odd: rather insulting to the people in the pix & you don't want to think about other people when you're using a cloakroom. Well, I don't. But then I've got a skull in the dining room & a skeleton in the kitchen, so what do I know?

I have a picture of George Harrison in my bog. Nothing more strange than that😂

Agree with PPs. Something amusing in the downstairs loo, sure. Something outwardly demonstrating your personal happiness to your guests who need a piss is a bit weird in my opinion. I appreciate this would be very different in other cultures, e.g. American 🤷🏻‍♀️

I wouldn't have pics of family. But if you want to, you should!

I'm really surprised at how many people are against this! I feel its normal to have pics in there, quite a few friends and family do. When we redid the downstairs bathroom I put a shelf in specifically for pics of the kids.

But then I love pictures and my house has them everywhere. The biggest collection is on the stairs but I also have two a4 frames of my boys in the main bathroom.

Your DH would hate me! Crack on I say.

I don't think I'd want family photos in the loo but in general, yes we both have to like what goes up on the walls as we both live there. Dh is generally easy and likes what I like.. but I've been really upset with him when he's bought art without me getting a say and next thing I know it's up.

I saw it all the time growing up - as @MidnightPatrol said - lots of photos of family holidays, kids being silly - quite often old/torn photos stuck on the walls with blue tac or in old frames. Nothing fancy - just lots of silly pictures to look at. I have never thought about that being weird or people 'looking at me'.

Someone said that they don't have any photos with people in their home as they feel they're looking at them. Cannot relate to this at all but interesting to see how people see things so differently

DH certainly had never thought of that either - he was simply arguing the loo is already nice (victorian, nice tiles, wooden floors) and i shoudl stop messing with things & his default is to be negative/not want change.

thanks for the advice. it's been enlightening!

I like when people have photos in the loo because I can actually have a proper look at them all when I'm in there! If they're on display in their living room I'd always feel a bit self conscious going to have a look