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To find small children slightly repulsive

242 replies

BathshebaEverdene1 · 05/05/2024 13:00

OK I do love my 4 year granddaughter but sorry the chewing , gulping and gasping while eating is actually revolting .
Am I really nasty? She is here eating a sandwich and gulping down some milk in a really horrid way.

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Bignanna · 05/05/2024 14:00

Table manners of all generations seem to have gone down the pan.Some adults can’t even hold a knife and fork properly. Eating with the mouth open is common and repulsive. If adults have poor table manners, how we expect small children to eat nicely?

x2boys · 05/05/2024 14:00

MercyDulb0ttle · 05/05/2024 13:58

Yep. Except my DGD.

If we go
tothe park I’m aways struck by how unpleasant all the other children are. They always seem to be in need of a wash, or to have something wiped. Of course I’d grab one if it was to save it from being hurt or injured but I’d still wipe my hands on my jeans afterwards.

It????

TwattyMcFuckFace · 05/05/2024 14:01

goldenretrievermum5 · 05/05/2024 13:55

The poster in question wasn’t replying to you, it was about a seperate poster who can’t tell young kids apart unless they’re a different race 😵‍💫

It was still a pile of racist shit either way.

Mountainpika · 05/05/2024 14:01

Some years ago a chain of motorway services had huge adverts as you drove in showing a child of about 6 eating spaghetti with it smeared all over her face and hands. Horrible! Not attractive or cute and quite off-putting.

SleepyHollowed84 · 05/05/2024 14:02

She sounds like my 32 year old colleague. Which truly IS repulsive. 😂

BathshebaEverdene1 · 05/05/2024 14:02

goldenretrievermum5 · 05/05/2024 13:55

The poster in question wasn’t replying to you, it was about a seperate poster who can’t tell young kids apart unless they’re a different race 😵‍💫

No she was saying how white children aren't taught any manners or life skills, if you read.

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x2boys · 05/05/2024 14:03

IHateWasps · 05/05/2024 13:39

It’s really not. It’s so much more than a parenting site now and has been for a long time. There are plenty of topics to enjoy on MN that don’t relate to parenting and there’s even a child free section.

The clue is in the name ,it was set up.by parents for parents ,yes there are lots of posters who don't have kids but they could keep their nasty opnions about children to themselves .

Iwerbe · 05/05/2024 14:04

I have a 3 year old granddaughter and I've noticed that weaning is totally different now. I used to spoon pureed food into my babies, which gradually had more 'bits' in it. Then when they were a bit bigger they had finger food, but that was generally sliced veg, sandwiches chopped up etc. For quite a while food was cut up for them. They'd stab it with a fork first, then gradually get the hang of a knife and fork. We'd mop them up as they went so it wasn't too messy.
Gdd just seems to have picked up food with her hands and shovelled it in since weaning first started, so it's never pretty.
She does eat really well though- a huge variety of food so perhaps it is a better way.
I do sometimes find it a bit revolting though so I'm team @BathshebaEverdene1 over here.

RadRad · 05/05/2024 14:04

nightmaries · 05/05/2024 13:02

Imagine this thread title “To find senior citizens slightly repulsive”.

Would MN let it stand ?

Would it make you stop in your tracks if you read it?

Was thinking exactly this.

Quitelikeit · 05/05/2024 14:05

theres something toxic about this thread

x2boys · 05/05/2024 14:06

PTSDBarbiegirl · 05/05/2024 13:46

IME of working in pre school I'm shocked at how few children know how to eat properly. Children from African, Indian, Chinese families can use utensils adeptly and eat from a plate while managing to keep the rest of the food in the plate. It seems the norm from a really young age can also put on own shoes, coats, put bag on. Typical white British families seem to send little ones to pre school with few independent skills to eat. Don't know when this started but it wasn't like this 15 years ago. Also lots of non SEN kids age 5 plus still in nappies.

What a load of shite i don't belive for one minute you work in a preschool.

LondonFox · 05/05/2024 14:08

Oh the shock!
Children are messy!
They produce sound!

Unless 4y old is throwing food on the floor, spitting or doing something similarly bizarre, just let her eat.

Newborns stink of milk amd vomit, children stink of shit and wet mud. Adults stink of sweat and feet. And old people just stink old and like half chewed food.
And if you are supporting them, you go, wash them, put on new clothes, tidy their hair and rinse their mouth. Tell them how nice they look and smell noe. Make them more human again.
This is what adults do.

Mountainpika · 05/05/2024 14:08

I spoonfed my first son, then one day - can't remember how old, but very young - when I was giving him his weetabix I put the spoon in his hand instead. He just scooped up the food and ate it as if he'd been doing it for months. Perfect co-ordination. Neither of my two boys were messy eaters. They still aren't - and they're in their 40s now.

Longma · 05/05/2024 14:10

BathshebaEverdene1 · 05/05/2024 13:09

Oh I didn't express it well.
I don't find HER repulsive as such, just the way she eats.
I am always kind and patient. Let's hope I am not a dribbly old gran

Hopefully not, but you were once the open mouthed eating baby, toddler and young child. Hopefully your family didn't find you repulsive.

Boobettes · 05/05/2024 14:10

x2boys · 05/05/2024 14:03

The clue is in the name ,it was set up.by parents for parents ,yes there are lots of posters who don't have kids but they could keep their nasty opnions about children to themselves .

The clue is in the name ,it was set up.by parents for parents ,yes there are lots of posters who don't have kids but they could keep their nasty opnions about children to themselves .

Surely you feel everyone should keep their nasty opinions about children to themselves?

Why are you picking on childless posters?

Desecratedcoconut · 05/05/2024 14:11

I think you have to be quite deficient as a human to find all children repulsive.

x2boys · 05/05/2024 14:13

Boobettes · 05/05/2024 14:10

The clue is in the name ,it was set up.by parents for parents ,yes there are lots of posters who don't have kids but they could keep their nasty opnions about children to themselves .

Surely you feel everyone should keep their nasty opinions about children to themselves?

Why are you picking on childless posters?

I'm not picking on childless posters stop.twisting it ,I don't care if posters have kids or not ,in fact I don't know which posters have children
I do care about posters making vile remarks about small children on a parenting site .

BathshebaEverdene1 · 05/05/2024 14:15

Oh goodness me .
The virtue signallers are out in force.
I just hope my thread has made them feel good 👍

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BippityBopper · 05/05/2024 14:15

BathshebaEverdene1 · 05/05/2024 13:53

Way to go on the assumptions and the racism Barbie Girl!!

But you posted a blanket statement about young children being repulsive🤔

WhatATimeToBeAlive · 05/05/2024 14:15

YANBU. I hate watching kids eat, it's gross.

PattyDuckface · 05/05/2024 14:16

Being a dickhead is not a diagnosable disorder.
Can't stand the noise a child makes eating = dickhead.
Can't tell children apart from other children = dickhead.

BathshebaEverdene1 · 05/05/2024 14:17

BippityBopper · 05/05/2024 14:15

But you posted a blanket statement about young children being repulsive🤔

Edited

So what I didn't start making sweeping statements about their life skills and skin colour.

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Itwasafterallallaboutme · 05/05/2024 14:17

I just used to think that it was very funny when a good portion of my toddlers' food went around their faces, into their hair, on to the floor - although I quickly learned to have something under their high chairs when they were eating. My main concern at feeding time was to make sure that they actually got enough food into their tummies, so I often made a bit extra than I normally would give a toddler to eat, to make up for the short fall!

I now find my Grandchildrens eating habits just as much fun as my children's was, actually probably more so really, as I don't have to clean up their mess :) By the way, all of my adult children are now fine with their eating habits.

However, I can't stand the sound of my husband eating, he is so damned noisy, which is probably because he doesn't close his mouth when he eats, and he slurps, burps, and passes wind... :( I try and have the TV on when it is just the two of eating - which is most of the time.

Unfortunately, I am now the old lady that so many of you are worried about turning into! I am very disabled, and that same husband that I talked about above, is my sole carer (he is even older than me, but still just about copes with me at the monent). He has to wipe my bum for me, empty my commode, shop, prepare and cook nearly all of our meals, I really am dependant on him for nearly everything. Luckily I don't dribble yet, but I quite often have coughing fits because a little food has gone down the wrong way, and whenever I am physically sick, he is the one that has to deal with it.

But I am in no hurry to have that pillow put over my face, the one that a pp claimed they would want if they were a "moist gran", but I suppose my poor husband might privately wish he could do the honours with it....🤭

Iwerbe · 05/05/2024 14:19

BathshebaEverdene1 · 05/05/2024 14:17

So what I didn't start making sweeping statements about their life skills and skin colour.

You're all right OP. To me, your post came across as ' is it only me?' Perfectly reasonable thing to chat about, imo.

GrumpyMiddleAgedCow · 05/05/2024 14:19

some of these responses 😂 kids can be a bit gross but they are still learning (though the only thing that really gives me the heebies is bogies though that’s on adults and children I don’t know why but it’s just a 🤢 for me). Think of where your mouth has been and I’m sure she will seem a lot less gross 😂😂

should have stuck to the normal “I hate dogs they are everywhere and it’s ruining my life” or “my husband was at tesco for 3 minutes longer than usual this week, he’s having an affair isn’t he” OP and you would have had all the support MN has to offer 😂

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