To find small children slightly repulsive

[BathshebaEverdene1]

OK I do love my 4 year granddaughter but sorry the chewing , gulping and gasping while eating is actually revolting .
Am I really nasty? She is here eating a sandwich and gulping down some milk in a really horrid way.

I would not speak about a small child eating in this way. You sound as though you lack compassion.

You can use Reddit instead of being on a parent's forum. Most people here have snotty, dribbling and stinking children.

She can also use MN.

This is true of a couple of teachers I’ve known unfortunately.

How quickly these horrid people forget they too were once children.

I’d love to go through MN and see which of the oh so outraged posters on here have never complained about any aspect of raising a child or about any of their loved ones.

I hate to feed such an obvious troll but can you imagine this post with the word ‘children’ changed to represent other groups. Change it to ‘disabled people’ ‘black people’ ‘the elderly’ ‘gay people’ and see this post for what it really is.

As for the poster who refers to a child as ‘it’ don’t even get me started. I have said before and will say again, there is something extremely sinister around all of these child hating posts on MN.

What BS. No One has forgotten that they were a child. WTF does that even mean?
I’m quite sure that I drove my parents crazy at times and that raising me had its unpleasant and frustrating aspects. I’m not deluded enough to think otherwise because that’s life as a parent no matter how much you adore them. It doesn’t mean that they loved me any less.

It’s one thing to find other people’s small children “gross” (which I still find a bit odd as their cuteness usually overrides things like snot and so called bad table manners) but it’s quite another thing to use entirely inappropriate language such as “repulsive” to describe your own children or grandchildren on a public forum. I’m picturing the sweet little thing happily munching away while grandma is like “urgh gross, going to post what I think about my grandchild on Mumsnet!” It’s very odd.

Yes and the thing is that of all the people in society the most vulnerable and precious are children, yet there are those who take relish in using language to refer to them that they’d never dream of using to talk about many adults. I agree with the other poster who said there is something sinister about it all.

I find the idea that children are all angels and “sweet little things” equally odd. I’ve met 4 year olds who were decidedly not sweet little things. They’re real children with real personalities which vary as much as those of adults. Not the doe eyed Disneyfied version that they’re being painted as.

As for sinister children as a class have far more to fear from their parents than they do so called child haters on MN. Their parents are far more likely to exploit, harm and abuse them.

The clue is in the name. It's a parents forum.

“Sweet little thing” is what is known as a term of endearment, and such language IS actually appropriate when talking about child ren. Societally we are in serious trouble if we have a problem with loving language but make excuses for abusive language targeting the most innocent.

Can't believe this thread has lasted over four hours. It wouldn't about any other group of people. Except maybe Americans.

I was on here donkeys before I had DC and I was in favour of the childfree section as I can think of loads of things that would be particular to people without children. But since it was introduced there seems to be an increase in the level of nastiness about children, and pregnant women and maternity leave too. Surely somewhere called Mumsnet with the tag line "for parents by parents" would have at its core a tolerance for children being children.

The clue is in the name. It's a parents forum.

And it has a child free section and many other sections that do not relate to parenting and you are not the fucking MN park keeper, self appointed or otherwise!

The only thing I can’t bear is a runny nose etc, but then I don’t like adults with it either! Especially myself! But children seem prepared to let it stay which makes my stomach churn.

You are not a fucking Mumsnet keeper either!

It absolutely is sinister to have such obvious hatred for a section of society based on on one single characteristic, age.

You are not a fucking Mumsnet keeper either!

Obviously not but I’m not the one trying to tell people that they can’t post on MN.

All I said was " slightly repulsive " as in " not attractive".
Yet some of you are foaming at the mouth and projecting yourselves onto the thread.
Miss Trunchbull lol
My grandchildren think.i.am wonderful. That is because I am.unfailingly kind to them.
Jeez.

I also have Misophonia and eating/repetitive sounds are a particular struggle. I didn’t have it with my own kids until they got old enough to eat properly - a bit of enthusiastic chomping from a tot wouldn’t trouble me.

My kids are older and I have to really fight the urge to say ‘stop chewing so loud’ when I can see it’s impossible to eat completely silently (kettle chips say) and they’re not doing anything wrong. I don’t want to give them a complex. But I couldn’t be dealing with the slurping and open-mouthed stuff, by four, excluding SEN, I can’t see why four year olds can’t eat correctly, with support.

When we have child-friends for dinner who chew open-mouthed/slurp and gulp, I busy myself wherever possible and if I can’t escape I don’t look or listen. People talking through a mouthful of food, lip-smacking or sip-sip-sipping at a straw like a gerbil in a cage make me want to run through a wall. My issue!

So I would say Not All Little Kids Are Like That 😂 and IME there’s a lot of adults who do the same, my MIL could be up for Audible Mastication Gold at the Argh Olympics.

What do you expect from a bunch of Pollyannas who have, judging by their outraged remarks, have never complained about their children or even came close to being even slightly exasperated by them? Of course you’re going to be declared the new King Herod for daring to acknowledge that children can be challenging or less than perfect at times.

And I nearly am one. they are.

I'll moan about my children all day long.

Allowing a thread calling small children repulsive and posts referring to children as "it" cross the line for me, by a long way. I don't think either should be acceptable on a forum that it supposedly for parents at its core.

Haha brilliantly put lol .