AIBU to think that all the recent threads about benefits are heading too far towards online bullying?

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The way disabled people are being treated and spoken about on here in recent days is disgusting. It is verging on online hate crimes and if ithey were about other marginalised groups would not have been allowed to stand by MNHQ.

The disinformation, the sneering, the complete lack of compassion from so many Mumsnetters is vile.

Disability for the very most part isn't something that people bring onto themselves. Parents don't do anything but have different luck to you and have a disabled child.

My genetics are different to yours so I have a fucked up immune system and the host of problems that has given me.

My DH had a horrific upbringing which has led him to have MH problems- he works by the way. I did too for a long time until my body couldn't cope.

My DC was injured at birth due to a hospital fault.

My neighbour fell off his bike and has a traumatic brain injury.

My friend has breast cancer.

My cousin is dead at 38 due to epilepsy.

My nephew is so unhappy due to his ADHD bot letting him fit in at school and my sister is having trouble helping him through it due to hers.

Why are we so unworthy to you?

Are we not due the same courtesy of online treatment as those of different races and religion...or does that go out the window as you pay for us?

@MNHQ why is it acceptable for you to allow your users to bully the marginalised on this site?

Obviously I'm their Doctor.

No matter what I say it will be wrong.

So you and your brother couldn’t have had different experiences and perceptions that led him down a different path to you? Were you parented differently? I can almost guarantee you were if you were different genders and ages etc? Was one more ‘’liked’’ than the other? There are loads and loads of different factors that can make one sibling turn to drugs and the other not. Who did your brother mix with? There’s so many variables other than growing up in the same family.

It’s worrying how many ignorant people are on this forum. They have no compassion, the mental capacity to differentiate or show empathy for other people who are less fortunate or different to them.
It would be very interesting to find out if their draconian opinions would change if they were to fall on hard times or for something difficult to affect their loved ones.
You are not special or a moral judge just because you have been lucky enough to be in a comfortable financial position and/or have good health.
You don’t necessarily deserve to be fortunate but that is life. Things can change in a heartbeat. Stop thinking you are superior to others. Pride comes before a fall.

Well either you are telling fairy tales or you are abusing the confidentiality of your patients/clients.

Neither is a good look.

Oh dear.....

So say nothing at all. Did no one teach you basic manners?

It's open to all. Exactly. And as such, all should be free to state their opinion, including me, without being shot down.

This does mean that some people, like yourself, might not like what I say. But I am not bullying you, any more than you are bullying me by disagreeing with me.

People have a choice, they can either join in with the discussion and put their point of view forward, or they can move on. It's a choice.

It's not a discussion forum if you can't pass an opinion incase someone is offended. It becomes a self absorbed echo chamber.

Apparently not. My mother will be ashamed.

This thread was started with good heart and intentions but yet again it's full of nasty people. I think maybe these people just get a thrill out of saying horrendous things from behind a screen because they are very sad with no life Let's not give them any more attention just ignore their sick comments and feel sorry for them

Oh dear...what?

Are you their doctor? I actually thought you were being sarcastic.

Oh for goodness sake!

You cannot pass your opinions on being and living with disabilities on benefits without living it. No one has to accept anyones opinions unless they themselves have lived it. It doesn't wash with other protected characteristics, it shouldn't with disability

Racism is often allowed to stand. Posters on Black Mumsnetters have even been chastised by the moderators for discussing their experiences of it and its how often it crops up on this site. Race and disability are not interchangeable. There is an overlap but there are significant differences. Being a Black or Asian disabled person is likely to mean you will face more obstacles and prejudice than being a white / white presenting disabled person.

So she should

I'll show her the posts and let you know.

I am really not sure what you are trying to say?

But if you are a doctor and you are on social media slagging off your patients, that is very bad.

If you post inflammatory ableist content it will be reported and deleted. And no, I didn't report your post but I'm not surprised others did.

Yes, they told us at medical school that it wasn't a good idea but I'm really stressed out and over worked and trying to get pensioned off so I figured it was worth a punt.

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No because I haven't said one nasty thing, I just haven't agreed with your viewpoint.

@Hoglet70 You are getting very carried away pissed Also on a similar thread !!Think you need to go off to bed now !! Drs orders . Night nights.

On a similar thread? I haven't posted anything else tonight apart from commenting on someone's HRT???

I've only realised I can quote now...I thought it was for premium only.

Perhaps I used the wrong words....online bullying isn't quite right.

As we've explained having a disability is a protected characteristic so like someone who is Black or Asian or Jewish we shouldn't have to read that we shouldn't procreate. Because if you said that to someone Black, Asian or Jewish you'd be advised to join the BNP and your comment would be removed ASAP.

Yet in thread after thread, comment after comment we are questioned why did we have children? Why have another if 1 was disabled? Dear God you have THREE DISABLED CHILDREN. And OP has to explain her children didn't show signs of disability until they were all here....yet what a terrible mother she is.

Would non- Jewish posters be continually allowed to tell a Jewish mumsnetter that they knew how to keep kosher better than she did. As disabled Mumsnetters can be lecturered endlessly by others with no empathy into how they should treat their illness and then they could work....perhaps open a coffee van?
No the PP on that kosher example thread would be rounded up and probably banned.

But we are open season- take any shot you like and there is always the fall guy of those benefit cheats to make it all OK.

Making comments about paying tax so that people who are struggling with addiction can entertain themselves seems pretty nasty to me.