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To not write a note.

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brightwell · 02/04/2008 15:30

Dd yr9, wants me to write a note to excuse her from pe tomorrow, beacuse she doesn't like hockey. She threw a major tantrum yesterday evening because I've refused.

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MrsDiorKeanuReeves · 02/04/2008 15:31

I think you were right to.

NatalieJane · 02/04/2008 15:32

I think you were right not to write a note, but I remember begging my mum to do the same for me, I absolutely hated hockey, didn't mind anything else except hockey!

hecate · 02/04/2008 15:33

You did the right thing. She can't get you to get her out of things like this. You'll be doing it all the time!

It's a good lesson - we all have to do things we don't like...get on with it and stop moaning!

edam · 02/04/2008 15:35

Oh, I'm sure you are morally right, but I'd have given ANYTHING to be excused hockey. Nasty, violent, pointless game.

hecate · 02/04/2008 15:35

OH and you DEFINATLY don't do it in response to a tantrum!! Tantrum Never Wins is a good parental motto!

hecate · 02/04/2008 15:36

edam - you're kidding aren't you?
Hockey gave me some much needed opportunities to whack the crap out of the girls who used to bully me (plus a few swipes at the vile pe teacher as well..bonus!) whoops, did I just bash your ankle again I'm sooooooo sorry...

PotPourri · 02/04/2008 15:36

I agree. Wrong to write a note in teh first place. But now she has had a tantrum - her fate is sealed. Even if you were wavering before, tantrums should NEVER win...

Wisteria · 02/04/2008 15:37

Good lesson that, in life, you have to do things you don't like.

Personally if my yr 9 dd had done that to me she would have been grounded for a week. I have a zero tolerance policy to shite of that ilk!

OrmIrian · 02/04/2008 15:38

Ah edam. Play on the wing and you can run up and down endlessly and avoid the ball. It worked for years for me. One smack on the a ankle with a stick on a freezing cold morning taught me to avoid the ball at all counts.

I've got a friend my age who still plays for fun

edam · 02/04/2008 15:39

No, I am most definitely NOT kidding. I was once hit on the head with sodding hockey ball (it went over the fence and someone threw it back in). I was seeing stars but the cold hard bitch of a PE mistress just said 'get moving'!

Original poster
brightwell · 02/04/2008 15:39

I was waivering, but know I shouldn't back down. At her age I used to write my own notes....and suffered the consequences when I was found out!

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AMumInScotland · 02/04/2008 15:52

Oh if she writes it herself that's fine.... it would be you condoning the lie that would be the problem from my point of view. Plus giving in to the tantrum. Plus the fact she'd keep on at you to do it again and again... and you'd soon run out of plausible excuses

pelafina · 02/04/2008 15:55

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cheesesarnie · 02/04/2008 15:58

i hated hockey too -veryscary sport especially when your little like me!but yanbu.i wouldnt.

lollipopmother · 02/04/2008 16:04

Did you rub it in by saying 'well I was going to write a note, but since you've just had a tantrum I shall be doing nothing of the sort!

Heifer · 02/04/2008 16:11

you big load of whimps! hockey is character building!

I used to write notes for my friends as they just to distrupt the lessons and waste time that I could be scoring goals!

AbbeyA · 02/04/2008 16:19

I hated hockey and would have loved a note to excuse me- and my mother would never write one! I think she was right to refuse-you have to do things that you don't like in life!

TheDevilWearsPrimark · 02/04/2008 16:26

Are you sure that is the reason? I used to ask my mum to do this when I ended up in a PE class with a girl that bullied me.

FrannyandZooey · 02/04/2008 16:28

I don't think adults DO have to do things that they hate - not like this - and I don't think it is character building

if she hates it that much what on earth is the point of her doing it? she isn't learning anything except that she doesn't enjoy sport (this message stays with most children for life because of school PE) and that adults make you do pointless things you hate

MaloryTowers · 02/04/2008 16:29

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AbbeyA · 02/04/2008 16:33

Franny-I do things I hate all the time!!There is no way out!
A DC might hate hockey (I loathed it) but it is fresh air and exercise.

NatalieJane · 02/04/2008 16:33

Learning how to play hockey, and learning English and maths is totally different IMO.

I think there would be as many of yesterdays kids, that hated hockey as there is today's kids....

LaComtesse · 02/04/2008 16:34

If she hates it that much can she take another winter game instead? We were allowed to choose either hockey or netball for the winter terms after yr9 - I chose netball as it was the lesser of the two evils. I then spent two years freezing my butt off as GD for the 'good' team as I was a) both tall and b) rubbish at netball . That way caused the least angst to the rest of my classmates .

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