To not write a note.

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Dd yr9, wants me to write a note to excuse her from pe tomorrow, beacuse she doesn't like hockey. She threw a major tantrum yesterday evening because I've refused.

and while you are at it, can you please excuse me from marking 17 bits if A level course work over my Easter holiday which starts tomorrow!

will swap for ironing!

I utterly agree that school PE was pointless and vile, although I don't actually agree it puts people off exercise for life; it just puts them off PE lessons.

But I think once you've gone down the schooling route you can't opt out of those bits of it.

I'll do that for you mb, no prob, but for a week's worth of dinners.

I'll raise you all your coursework and a cooking for a week for a few fragrant days away from nappies.

Any advances?

Going once

I'd rather change triplets than cook dinner even once. mind you saying that, it's been a couple of years since I last changed a nappy. Will resume bum wiping services in 9 or so weeks, tho I seem to remember finding the sweet creamy smell of bf baby poo strangley appealing

but not a great big green or brown nappy monster.

still better than cooking tho i'm sure

Swedes has got a point tho mb - if we're going to mark your coursework, you at least need to give us a clue

Biology. Incipient pasmolysis in onion skins,dhfkxqweyxbiuwryexvlqiz \e

sorry, fell asleep at the thought of it!

sling it over MB; I know all there is to about onions. No probs.

I think the problem is the lying aspect and not the fact that she doesn't like PE lessons. Everyone has lessons that they didn't like... mine was history because of horrible and, in hind sight, completely useless teacher rather than an actual dislike of subject. If you had written the note she wanted you to it would have given dd the message that it is ok to lie and that you condone lying. So YANBU, most definately not. In case you hadn't noticed I'm not keen on ironing but its that or send dcs and dh into the world crumpled!!!!My ambition in life is to be able to afford and justify paying someone to do it for me!!

Perhaps one of you will write me a note to give to dh and dcs to excuse me from dreaded ironing. Please!!!!

I agree with Franny and Riven. If it wasn't a regular occurrence then I would possibly have written the note. However, if it was something that she really loathed and didn't want to do on a regular basis then I agree with Pointydog and I would go into school to discuss it.
By not addressing the situation with a note or by approaching the school the op is now expecting her dd to be deceitful and 'forget' her p.e. kit. Not really a desirable attitude to encourage.
I do think that p.e. at school can put people off sport for years. It did me. I had to be coaxed back into trying things by work colleagues. I also think that forcing other subjects onto some children can put them off that for years too. However, a basic knowledge of maths and english are generally recognised by most people as being necessary in life. I'm not sure what is to be gained by being made to play hockey.
As to being made to do things we dislike. There's a difference imo between being forced to do something that you don't like by other people and not really understanding the purpose of it or having to do something because you are receiving something that you want in return.

I did Art GCSE on the sole basis that someone told me you were allowed to get out of PE and work in the art rooms instead.

That person was wrong

A quick update, I didn't write a note, I reminded her to take her p.e. kit, (they get an after school detention if they forget). I can only assume she did hockey.

I say write the note .

Hockey's great. HATED doing athletics at school myself. And cross country. Still had to do it though. Glad I was made to now of course. Why shouldn't children have to do things they dislike? It IS character building. There will be yeeeeaaarrrrsss of having to 'suck it up' and 'deal with it'.
Life's a bitch, deal with it.