The ‘average’ mum on mumsnet

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So, I am sat wondering , as I have on many occasion … is the ‘average’ Mum on Mumsnet
living in an fairly expensive house
working part time
pondering their marriage
burnt out
and ?….. what else ?

Has gone NC with every single relative on both sides of the family and is currently "Gray Rocking" her DH, but is devastated when nobody makes a fuss over her birthday.

Yes! I forgot the grey 🪨!

And curiously this is a MN certified relationship manoeuvre despite the fact that passive aggressive is a no-no. I always have this suspicion that the line possibly becomes blurred in the implementation phase.

Creates bias or potentially manipulates the respondents into ‘ taking their side ‘ when giving examples of DH behaviour followed by ‘ be kind’ ‘ hand hold’ ‘ in a bad place’
not getting a balanced response at all

Definitely wears Birkenstocks and linen

Spits her tea out laughing at a mildly amusing comment she reads on mn.
Not sociable at all, will tell anyone prepared to listen (online) that she is an introvert.
Hates her MIL as she tried to remain close to her son.
Absolutely will not attend close relatives wedding as it is child free and believes everyone should be thrilled at the thought of spending an evening with her delightful offspring.
Teetotal/very rarely drinks and happily advises anyone that drinks more than half a glass of wine a week that they are alcohol dependent.
Definitely doesn't want to get pregnant before they are 35 so they can make the mn 6 figure salary but then starts a thread wondering if they are too old despite everyone they know having their first baby at 40...
Spends all day unshowered in their pjs before changing into expensive trendy gym wear to pick the kids up.
Despite the lack of showers, always has hair, eyebrows, lashes and nails done.

No Birkenstocks in this weather! I have a pair of them and a few pairs of linen trousers although they were only from Sainsbury's years ago.

They have only had one night out with their husband in ten years because their family lives 300 miles away and they haven't made any friends yet despite having moved to the area five years ago, it doesn't bother them though as they plan to co sleep with the kids until the youngest turns 21

And don't forget that they will continue to bath with their children until the darlings head off to University. This is a multipurpose stealth boast:

*shows how cool and uninhibited they are

*obviously they love their children more than you love yours

*scoring bonus points in the motherhood/martyrdom competition

And don't forget that they will continue to bath with their children until the darlings head off to University. This is a multipurpose stealth boast:
Off to an RG University, having been robbed of an Oxbridge place by the useless, feckless teachers at their sprogs school, unless they are off to Oxbridge, in which case it bears testament to her wonderful parenting skills.

This is one thing that astonishes me that people are astonished that their spouse/partner may masturbate ! What planet did you grow up on where you think men choose not to . 🙄

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QED

Buys their children a satsuma and wooden clothes peg for Christmas because anything else is spoiling them....

...buys everyone else a Jo Malone scented candle for Christmas...

Off to Oxbridge despite going to the worst comp in the country, which she chose out of principle and 'because a bright child will do well anywhere'

From the moment they pee on the stick and get a positive line, they will begin fantasizing about how they're going to regulate who can see the baby once it's born. Preferably this will maximize hurt feelings and punish anyone she doesn't like (usually her husband's entire family). Always best to make it clear to friends and family where they fall in the baby-viewing hierarchy. This is known in MN terms as "setting healthy boundaries" (also see: Neurosis)

Fast forward a year and she will be bitterly complaining on MN about disinterested grandparents and having "no support". Also can't understand why DH would rather gnaw his own hand off than spend one more minute trapped in the house wrapped up in their little " family bubble".

I don't think the average MN Mum exists. There are tribes on here though.

Ah yes this does make good sense !

There are two main types of women on here.

1. those supported by a high earning husband
2. those supported by the state

Extreme entitlement appears to be the defining trait for all concerned.

Are experiencing gender disappointment because they are having a boy.

Reading some of these contributions, perhaps the average person on this thread at least, is someone who spouts utter bollocks.

I think the demographic has changed over the years. It might be my algorithm but a lot less posts about private school, tutoring and burnt out husbands these days. More diversity now, certainly.

Yes to the first two, no to the second two.
I am always astounded at the amount of abusive and/or controlling relationships. It makes me worry for my daughters when they become adults - if I didn’t read MN I’d have no idea these men are so prolific as I’ve never met anyone in these circumstances irl.

Rubbish. I see loads of posters (maybe even the majority) mentioning that they work ft or pt. Many mention they are high earners!

All their husbands work really hard and really long hours so can’t possibly help them ever with the kids (ie. They work 9-5 desk job)

Of course it's changed.
When mn started computers and internet access were pretty expensive, smartphones hadn't really taken off and probably mn wouldn't have worked well on them early on. It was probably mostly pretty affluent 30s/40s mothers.

Now everyone has a phone and the connection costs are pretty irrelevant.

Some of that early cohort is still here but there are younger mothers and also others as the site grew.

Weirdly there are also a lot of controlling wives though - and loads of support for it on here.