That colleague made comment about ginger babies

[CheesexCrackers]

To be annoyed about a colleague making comments about ginger hair?

A colleague has recently come back from maternity leave and was talking about her dd.

She said she's so glad she's got brown hair, it would be the worst to have a ginger baby, I would of hated to have a ginger baby it would of been horrible.... she then glanced around the room and noticed my hair and made an awkward face.

I'm pregnant with my first and may well have a red haired baby, which I would personally love.

Is it the pregnancy hormones talking or am I right to be pissed off that she's targeting red hair.... and even red haired babies??

Yes I saw a few years ago a young girl hung herself in the woods, she was stunning, if she could have learned to love her red hair ( because I hated mine when I was younger) where would she be now? a model perhaps 😩

Your SIL is a stupid woman

and there we are... you're doing the same thing. What's so amazing about x y z colour? Just stop it. You're giving arseholes every reason to come back at whatever you're making a fetish of and really denigrating it. You're part of the problem if you do that.

All hair colours are acceptable. Why would anybody think anything else? That's the message that needs to be dinned into people's heads.

It is really hard to read this thread knowing that most if not all of you are women and you probably have children who have to put up with your 'protection' and judgements, in equal measure.

All you're doing is ensuring that this nonsense carries on and you will achieved the very thing you say you don't want. How ridiculous is that?

I’m not fetishising anything … my last few comments were lighthearted , I’m sure most people got it . I love my dark brown hair. So no need to come at me.

Bushra, I'm not coming at you, honestly. Your post was one of the last that I read and it was kind of the last straw. I really do apologise if it seemed that I was singling you out, I wasn't, but I can see how it seemed. Sorry.

There are many, many posts on this thread fetishising ginger/red hair, wishing that they'd had ginger babies and the like. Wrapping up criticism of people with any other colour hair in their posts also and that's not on.

I had ginger hair as a child, then it went an auburn brown colour but not enough to warrant name-calling, there were other things for that. If people didn't make comments on appearance themselves and taught their children not to either -with consequences if they did - all of this would have been stamped out eons ago. Hair colour is just that, a colour, one of many. This really isn't a lighthearted subject because at the root of it is bullying.

Most parents don't allow their children to vocalise insults on skin colour, it's not acceptable and decent people challenge it. So should it be for red hair, it doesn't deserve comment but nor should it need elevating, it's like marking a child as different and putting target on them which is surely the last thing anybody wants or needs.

Should be sacked

That is such a shame!

Pr

Probably jealous of your hair or something else about you

Which country? Went to this Spanish bar, this really nice Spanish bloke started stroking my hair & asked did I come northern Spain ☺️

Oh great stuff 🤣

God that sounds creepy! 😱😂

Yes you could say that, I was thinking don’t they get gingers in southern Spain- don’t think my boyfriend was too impressed when he saw him doing that 😂

You should have just said quite loudly 'I'll just be pleased not to have an ugly baby' then throw her a look.

That's also a horrible thing to say.