That colleague made comment about ginger babies

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To be annoyed about a colleague making comments about ginger hair?

A colleague has recently come back from maternity leave and was talking about her dd.

She said she's so glad she's got brown hair, it would be the worst to have a ginger baby, I would of hated to have a ginger baby it would of been horrible.... she then glanced around the room and noticed my hair and made an awkward face.

I'm pregnant with my first and may well have a red haired baby, which I would personally love.

Is it the pregnancy hormones talking or am I right to be pissed off that she's targeting red hair.... and even red haired babies??

I hate dickhead colleagues like this 🙄

I always think that anyone making negative comments about red heads is bring racist towards people of celtic origin. I don't know why it's tolerated when negative comments about any other prominent characteristic of a group would be unacceptable and the person would be told to stop by others. I'd consider making a complaint to HR especially if there are any further comments about it

YANBU. I think she did this on purpose, to hurt you, for some reason. Surely she doesn't actually think this way. No one could be that stupid.

My daughter used to put henna on her blonde hair as she thought red was lovely. I think she wanted to be like a pre Raphelite girl..

The first time she did it at the age of 13 she was shocked that suddenly she got rude comments in public!

Weirdly after years of doing it her hair is like a natural auburn/ ginger..

I'm Scottish, living in England, and I genuinely adore ginger hair. Perhaps because it's more unusual here than in Scotland?

I feel sorry that it's still seen as fair game to mock people with ginger hair.
Of my friends who have been blessed with it, each and every one has grown to love it.

A little girl at my son's preschool had ginger hair. Not the kind that's a bit blonde or auburn as well but bright ginger. She was absolutely gorgeous. I have auburn in my hair, when the weather is sunny so I was hoping for at least one ginger haired baby but it didn't happen. Although ds1 has dh's almost black hair with blue eyes combo which is very striking.

Yes, I agree.

I don't see any difference if she'd said 'I'm glad my baby doesn't have dark skin'.

Shouldn't be allowed.

Well it's a bit of a pain in hot sunny weather (condemned to a life of Factor 70), but apart from that what's the issue? Look at the number of red/strawberry blonde hair dyes available to buy, no-one ever chooses to dye their hair mid-brown (unless it's going grey that is). Your colleague is an arsehole.

I'm laughing my head off at "poo brown hair" despite having poo brown hair myself.

I love red hair so much I married a ginger. Our son has poo brown hair like me and our daughter has lovely strawberry blonde hair that I'm envious of.

I've never understood this. Even as a child. And turns out, one of my boys is slightly gingery/blonde. It was a surprise as DH and I were both very blonde as children and our first ds is very bright blonde. Ds2's gingery blonde hair is gorgeous and suits him.

Well my own experience of living near Stavanger was that more were dark and not exceptionally tall, than the tall blonde vision I had expected.

White personal laughs at the idea of brown being compared to poo as an insult, shocker

Are you very attractive OP? Because her comment seems a bit odd. I mean there’s nothing wrong with brown hair but it’s not usually something people are thrilled with is it? Mine is a particularly dull shade of brown and I’d love to have red hair.

I’d have loudly said ‘what’s wrong with ginger babies or people for that matter? Have you seen my hair?’!
Ginger hair is gorgeous she’s a twat!

Yes. More reds than blonde in parts of Scandinavia according to genetic research. Tormund from GOT is a particular favourite of mine lol.

It's why there are so many in Scotland, Ireland and North East England. Its no coincidence that we bore the brunt of the Viking raids.

I adore ginger hair. So beautiful!

she’s super rude

I love my red/ginger (depending on the light) hair.

I get the loveliest comments on it from non-Brit's.

YANBU OP.

She was rude. You don't need to stoop to her level but you can tell her to stop with the shitty comments. I'm asian and my gran was a redhead as are 2 of my cousins. My dad was disappointed that none of us inherited his mum's lovely hair colour. My dd1 was born blonde, has auburn hair now and in the summer has various shades of red/ginger running through it. It's lush. My son has black straight hair and dd2 had light brown curly hair, all beautiful but different.

I'm a natural blonde and always preferred red hair.
I ended up marrying a redhead and our first baby had red hair and she was gorgeous - sadly she passed away so ignorant comments about red-haired babies annoy me so much.

Substitute the word ginger with afro and it is plain as day how unacceptable that comment is. I hate the concept of 'kiss a ginger day' as though for the other 364 days you would not go near one. At the end of the day she is making negative comments about genetic make up, not on at all!!

I'd suspect she knew you were in the room and said it specifically as a dig at you, but maybe I'm just paranoid. 😅

Anyway, yes, it was obviously a rude thing to say, regardless of who was in the room. For all she knows, anyone listening might have a family member or other loved one with red hair. Would she have said similar about any other physical feature.

She's made herself sound shallow and stupid. Embarrassing for her!

Congratulations on your pregnancy, I hope they do have lovely red hair. I feel like it must be jealousy too, don’t get the hate for something so vibrant and beautiful. I have dyed red hair to cover the grey, had a little laugh one day last summer when a guy shouted ‘ginger minge’ at me (resisted shouting back ‘nah it’s more like steel wool’). Verbal abuse is unacceptable and all that but at least I know it looks broadly natural.

I really hoped for a ginger baby and was disappointed not to get one. Keeping fingers crossed OP that you get yours 😊

I'm so sorry to hear this. I'm sure she was perfect. I can't imagine how hurtful and enraging these stupid comments are. No-one with an ounce of intelligence would think it let alone say it. Ignoring doesn't seem a strong enough response, it is so ignorant and ridiculous.

I think a complaint to HR is the right thing to do at this stage.

It was a particularly vile comment and should not be tolerated, especially in the workplace.

If open prejudice like this is brushed off, it’ll continue.