DP lied

[No1toldmeaboutit]

Met my DP after work yesterday, he was with a client so he told me to come and meet them and we had a quick drink. On our way home he asked if I had my lunch, I said yes, i had made butties that we had took to work, he then told me he had one bite of his butty and then ate all his crisps and then finished the butty.

Later on in the evening he mentioned having met the client for lunch and that he didn’t have his butty. I called him on this and he started deflecting. I have no issue with him meeting people for lunch but I am so annoyed that he actually made up a complete story about his butty. I hadn’t even brought up lunch, he did.

he’s now telling me I’m being stupid, it’s just over a butty but alls I keep thinking is what else does he lie about. I know it’s just a butty but AIBU to be annoyed?

Also on a low carb diet and never wanted one more

You lost me the fifteenth time you said 'butty'

I love me a chicken butty using leftover roast chicken. Does that count?

This is probably outing, but I put tomato ketchup on it...

Maybe he lied because he feels you overthink things?

I've been reminded of a man I used to work with. He met his wife for lunch, came back to the office and got a plate of chips because the sushi she chose hadn't been enough. He told us to promise we wouldn't tell her. He didn't want her to think he was greedy or ungrateful.

I can imagine telling a white lie about this sort of thing if I thought someone would think I hadn't liked what they'd done for me.

Ok. 1/ what is a butty? 2/ why is it called a butty?

It counts! And now I really want one of those... not sure about the ketchup though

You know, I'm not a big fan of ketchup, but somehow it transforms a chicken butty...

On butties - my husband is sure it can only be called a butty if it has a hot filling. There are so many things he doesn't understand.

1. A sandwich
2. It comes from buttered bread

I keep seeing 'butty' as 'bitty'...

Don't forget the naice ham on the butty.

I think you overthinking it tbh.

But nora batty keeps popping in my head now batty butty.

Butty? Is that a regular sandwich?
I have only ever heard it used with chips... 'chip butty'.

Yep. I had a tuna butty for my dinner. 😁

So he didn't eat the sandwich and felt a bit guilty (although, why?) and fibbed and then knuckled down rather than admit he'd fibbed and hadn't eaten it? Like you, I'd be annoyed but I really cannot stand liars.

It would annoy me too.

For whatever reason saying the truth made him feel uncomfortable. Rather than just accepting that slight discomfort he chose to exchange it for lying to you, because lying to you and tricking you is less uncomfortable for him than the discomfort of admitting he didn't eat the butty.

It's disrespectful and also a little cowardly.

I think it probably was an "innocent" white lie, but it's reasonable to be annoyed, as they are a bad habit that undermine trust.

I've got a family member who constantly massages the truth to smooth over social conflict and once you realise she's doing it, it's maddening, you can never trust anything she's saying despite the fact her intentions are pure, no malice.

This

Yes 😆

Please stop saying butty.

I don’t think there’s anything to be suspicious about.

He must have eaten it if he brought it up.

Hahaha! I thought you’d never ask 🤣

The only butty is a chip butty. Everything else is a sandwich.

What’s in a butty? Or is it any type of sandwich.
In Australia they are only called a sandwich or Sanga.
For some reason, I am thinking of a chip/crisp sandwich.

I would relax. It's a sandwich, not a crime scene