Not to use birth control at 45

[IDontLikeMondays88]

DH tried for baby number 2 for about 2 years without success. We stopped trying as I moved job.
however I am now established in new job and thinking perhaps we gave up too easily.
pregnancy probably unlikely at 45 but would I be unreasonable not to actively try but not to use birth control and see what happens

See that scares the shit out of me. I was 40s when I had my youngest. He'd barely be out of uni when we hit mid 60s.

I need to be a healthy 80 something

You’re missing my point. People can die at any time. Every single parent has to live with that risk no matter how old they were when their child was born. My Dad had me at 26 and died when I was only 25. My best mate’s Mum was only 21 when my mate was born but was dead by the time my mate was 22.

My parents’ deaths were bad luck and not age related. My friend’s Mum was an extremely heavy smoker. The example of my very healthy in-laws in their seventies is more the norm, and cancer outcomes are getting better and better as medical science advances.

The idea that people some die early so there's absolutely no predicability in death/illness is daft . If you're older, your more likely to die or be infirm.

If you die at 50, you could leave behind a reception age child. Is someone else dies at 50, they might be leaving behind an adult of 30.

It's a fact, why can't people accept it?

The downside to having children too young is the opposite, you might outlive them, which is very tough. Or they'll be left to care for you in old age, when they're also old.

Like I said to the PP, that was not my point at all.

Of course your risk of death increases the older you get. Every fool knows that. No need to be so rude and call me “daft”.

The reason I posted what I did was in response to someone who reckoned that it was a given that a person in their twenties has parents who need care or are otherwise stressful to “deal with” in their seventies.

My point, for the hard of thinking at the back, is that plenty of people in their seventies are perfectly independent and non hard work parents to their adult children. The fact that others die before that age is neither here nor there. It’s luck at both ends of the spectrum.

Don't call me daft, also others are hard of thinking if they don't get whatever random point I'm making. Right-o.

So rude.