Height ism

[Notsureofname2]

I’m 34, mum of 2…oldest is 9 and is my height. I’m 4ft9. The number of times people comment on my height really really pisse5 me of! I don’t go on to fat people about how fat they are, or to anyone with glasses about their glasses. If someone appears socially awkward I don’t make fun of them.

Why do people assume it’s ok to make fun…essentially discriminate..::against small people.
eg yesterday in supermarket I asked for something, then lady said they have it “oh but you won’t be able to reach….its unusual to meet someone smaller then me!” And smirked. I get rude comments like this a lot. If you do think someone is short can you just leave them??

AIBU or is it ok to be rude to short people? If so shall I start being rude to overweight people?? There’s far more of those than shorties

Sounds like your bar for getting angry at people is pretty low.

I used to be quite fat and trust me, people do pass comment 😂

I take your point about the comments. They’re well meaning, but I imagine can get very tedious if it’s all you ever hear.

It’s not. I’m aware of my height and just feel people use it to literally belittle me! If it was something you heard a lot and were aware of you’d feel the same.
or…what would you do if it was you then?!

It's not something I can imagine being angry about all my life, I'd got pretty used to it by age 10.

But yeah people do take the piss, alot, in ways they wouldn't about many other things

you just have to find a retort that to use every time. I say “I’m tall on the inside”.

Why have you got 2 posts the same?

Gosh, my two small friends love making jokes about their height - they use it for all sorts of help from men too! They love being able to wear kids clothes and shoes, feeling they can be lifted up and "looked after" by men. I've always been a bit jealous! I've honestly never come across a woman angry about her height. Men by the bucketful, but not women. It's far more commonplace, for starters?

If I were you I’d probably let the comments just fly over my head.

But why should it fly past my head? If it was related to obesity/skin colour/neurodiversity/sexuality it wouldn’t be! It’s a bias surely

Nothing you're describing is "making fun", "discriminating" or "being rude".

As a tall and fat woman, let me tell you.
It is rough out here!
I could write a whole book of the mean comments I’ve gotten.

Tbh, I knew short men got comments, but I didn’t know short women hot mean comments too.
I thought that was a beauty ideal.
For women to be short. And petite.

I’ve never heard (of course doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen) anyone saying anything about short women. Other than that they are cute etc….
Crazy!

So calling someone a “shortie”/ “short-arse”/ smirking about their height, saying their 6y old is taller I think is a bit rude. May be factual but it’s the way it’s said that comes across as making fun. Things like “you’re so short you’re 4y old is nearly your height”….is there a need for it?! Like really?!

There’s a whole thread of height discrimination here where a majority of respondents admit to discriminating on height. Clearly “acceptable” for most.

I’m tall and get made fun of too. People just tend to notice difference.
Best thing OP, is to work on liking yourself then the comments don’t worry you so much.
The people who comment may well regret it later - I know I have blurted out stupid things on many occasion that I cringe at now.

they use it for all sorts of help from men too! They love being able to wear kids clothes and shoes, feeling they can be lifted up and "looked after" by men.

This is so accurate 😄

Please tell me you understand why skin colour/disability or sexuality are protected characteristics and being short (or tall, or fat or thin, or blonde or brown eyed etc) are not.

And if you think that larger people don't get a whole load of unwanted and generally really, really nasty judgemental comments and poor treatment, I'm afraid you're very much mistaken.

Op I'm 4ft10 and I get where you're coming from. It's like there is 'socially accepted, pretty little woman' short and then our height short.

I've people openly say my height freaks them out. I've had people openly stare at me, especially when I was out with my reasonably tall ex.

It does get pretty tiresome pretty quickly and can make you feel very uncomfortable. I sometimes feel like saying do they want to take a picture it will last longer!

Ah, now we get to the point of the post...men. Of course.

I promise you.
People of those groups get commets.
You are not the only one who gets comments.
Please don’t minimize what other people have to deal with to make your point.

Choosing not to date is not discrimination FFS. anyone can choose not to date anyone for any reason they like

Also tall and fat and received a lot of comments over the years some much meaner than others.

I try and rise above it now I suggest you do the same and try not to let your anger get the better of you. Whether we are tall, fat, short or slimmer than the norm we all get comments.

I'm tall and get the same shit. Just ignore it.

Of all the things to get upset about, a comment from a woman in a supermarket, who is clearly short herself, is not one of them.

She meant nothing by it!

I wouldn't randomly mention a person's height because I do think that's rude, but the supermarket lady made a comment on your height in context about the product placement on the shelf.

Yes, I'm also tall and get comments. It can be a bit tedious but mainly because everyone seems to think their comments are original but they very much aren't! The next person to ask me of if I play basketball might just find themselves slam-dunked

It’s not just short people that get comments. You need to get a thicker skin. I’m 5’7 and wear glasses and have comments on both. I’m not bothered now as it shows the insecurities on others not me .