Height ism

[Notsureofname2]

I’m 34, mum of 2…oldest is 9 and is my height. I’m 4ft9. The number of times people comment on my height really really pisse5 me of! I don’t go on to fat people about how fat they are, or to anyone with glasses about their glasses. If someone appears socially awkward I don’t make fun of them.

Why do people assume it’s ok to make fun…essentially discriminate..::against small people.
eg yesterday in supermarket I asked for something, then lady said they have it “oh but you won’t be able to reach….its unusual to meet someone smaller then me!” And smirked. I get rude comments like this a lot. If you do think someone is short can you just leave them??

AIBU or is it ok to be rude to short people? If so shall I start being rude to overweight people?? There’s far more of those than shorties

My 15 year old daughter is 6 ft 1 - she deals with comments every single day. Virtually every time she steps outside someone will say something about how tall she is. It’s not just short people.

Yes, but your idea of passing comment to people about their weight won’t help - you’ll likely say it to people who wouldn’t have commented on your height anyway.

I’d certainly kick the off if someone randomly commented on my weight!

Yes, it's endemic and so fucking boring.

I'm 42 years old. I'm 5ft. I still get called half pint and shorty by people I've literally just met, sometimes in a professional environment.

Statistically, short people earn less and are treated with less respect. We're infantilised.

The recent treatment of Sunak (who I loathe politically ) is a case in point. It shouldn't be acceptable to talk about his height in the House of Commons any more than it should be to talk about someone's race or a visible disability.

Infuriating. I feel you OP. I have short children too and I feel sad for what's coming for them in secondary school.

eh ? it’s a recent example of people judging others based solely on an intrinsic characteristic, it stuck in my mind as this seemed to be “acceptable” whereas it usually isn’t, and I found that odd.

I didn’t realise the taller ones get negative comments…I thought it would be seen as an advantage to be “leggy” and have height. I’m sorry you've had comments…none of my taller friends ever have hence I was unaware.
I just think accept people for who/what they are. If someone is different/abnornal “to you” don’t say anything in case they feel sensitive about it/hear it often enough anyway!

My vagina isn't subject to the Equalities Act. I don't shag women and that doesn't make me homophobic. Women are allowed to have preferences.

OP if the woman at the shop said, "I don't meet people shorter than me" presumably she was short too. Maybe just wanting to engender some fellow-feeling and conversation.

And you are talking about 'fat people' and others now with disdain. So you saying, 'maybe I'll just...' you already are. Stop.

If someone stoops so low then the best thing you can do is rise above it.

Dont let people's comments bring you down.

If people want to belittle or abuse someone, they'll find something to target them with. YABU to think it's a particular problem for short people, it happens to everyone - short, tall, anywhere in between. Anything that can be used to highlight someone's superiority over someone else will be used. Some things are legally protected like racial abuse, others like height are not.

typically pretty much all of my short friends are more than happy to take the piss out of their own height.. most of my larger friends are able to take the piss out of themselves.. im a tall fat person... it is what is is.. i think you just want to be angry..

chill a bit..

Making fun and discriminating are two very different things. How are you being discriminated against?

I think the lady in the supermarket was trying to make a cheery comment to diffuse the awkwardness of the situation. Sounds like you're quite sensitive about it and that's not other people's problem. I'm quite tall and people mention it, it's just what rude people do.

Because people generally don't think its an insult to comment that a woman is small. Like commenting on her being slim, as it's not percieved as a negative. The woman in the shop would probably not have said that to a man your height as for a man it would be an accepted negative, and therefore an insult. You're right, people shouldn't comment on other people's appearance at all, but commenting on a woman being short isn't comparable with commenting on her being fat.

Yes. The short men getting huffy because not every single woman on MN would want to date them. Completely ignoring the many who don't find short men unattractive to hone in on the ones who do. Because men should be able to have any woman they want or its discrimination.

Which short men getting huffy ? That thread was written mainly by women ? Who has said anything about men having any woman they want ? Weird chip on your shoulder there. The OP here is concerned about their height and wondering whether judging on height “is a thing” - and I shared a thread where it’s definitely “a thing”.

I shared a thread where it’s definitely “a thing”.

But it's not @brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr unless you think women aren't allowed to only shag people they find attractive. They have to shag anyone who wants to shag them, because 'discrimination'. Which is revolting if you think about it.

Agree with you OP. Would be nice if people didn’t comment on other’s bodies.
It’s rude.

That’s not what I said at all. I shared a thread full of posts from people who judge other people on height. Nobody has to shag anyone. But people do make judgements and decisions based on height - that’s all there is to it.

Trying so hard, and failing, to laugh 😊🤣

Seems like that comment went over your head.

Was that supposed to be witty, because you have perfectly demonstrated the OPs point.

It is when you are getting bashed in the face by backpacks and rucksacks!

I'm 6 inches taller than you and still get daily comments about my height. It's odd.

People make comments like that about everyone unfortunately.

The amount of times people asked if I was on a diet or that I should stop dieting (I have never been on a diet and don't have any eating disorders).

Wow, you really are mean aren't you

She is being exactly the type of heightist person you are talking about. Ignore it, she's trying to be funny

Yeh people think it's ok to say to me 'you are so skinny'. The amount of times I've wanted to reply with 'you are so fat' just to demonstrate the level of rudeness!