Do boys stay in touch as adults?

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If you have adult boys, do they stay in touch much once left home? I have 2 boys both v young and I would hate to hardly see them once left home so hence asking on here for your experiences with adult sons

My ‘boys’ are 34 and 30. I see and hear from them regularly, I would say my husband and I have an excellent relationship with them and their families. I know some people’s experience is very different and sometimes that’s because there is friction between the son’s partner and his parents and sometimes I think it’s because the boys have been rather spoiled.

My ‘boys’ are mid 30’s and mid 20’s. They message all the time and we meet for lunch and trips to the cinema.

My boys are adults. We message regularly, call often, and see each other when we can. We're not in each others' pockets, but we are all fine with our relationship and would say we are close.

I have two DC 22 and 27 (DD in the middle). They both live quite a way from where I now live, one 4 hours away and one 3 hours away and are very much living their own lives. The oldest one calls me (or I call him) at least once a week and he often calls me to talk things through, ask for advice or just a general chat (he currently has no GF though). My younger one is slightly less communicative but we message frequently and still talk once a week (but I usually call him and our conversations are not that long). He is also coming to stay over the long bank holiday weekend, came to stay at Easter and Christmas and probably another 3/4 weekends through the year on top of this. I am divorced from their father but I remain ‘home’ emotionally for them and am the one they turn to and they know my house (with new partner) is their go to if they need it. Older teenage years they weren’t so good at keeping in touch but we shared lock down together and that brought us closer. So yes, they do visit and they do keep in touch 😊

Some do. Some don't.

My DH phones his mum regularly, they go on holiday every December, we've just had her down for a visit and he makes the effort to visit during the year and at the anniversary of his father's death. He's good at keeping in touch. I hope our DS grows up to be the same.

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I have two brothers. One is in regular contact with my parents and me. The other makes very little contact and you have to get in touch with him if you want to speak with him. (He's always happy to hear from any of us, but just doesn't initiate the contact).
My Dad was always in regular contact with is parents.
DH speaks to his Dad every week and visits him regularly.
So essentially, I would say its not about being a 'boy' as much as it is about personality and relationships.

DH is much better at calling his parents regularly than I am mine

I have 4 young sons so following with interest

My DH is not close to his mum at all but she is very emotionally detached from him and has a clear preference for his brother (who she does see regularly) so I'm trying to avoid her mistakes.

My brother visits my parents every weekend. I (female) probably phone my mum once a week if she is lucky.

Yup.
My DH used to chat with his Dad mostly via email most days. Swapping photos, hobby stuff - they had lots of shared interests.
DH now has similar with his own son - probably less frequent but they mostly connect through WhatsApp. I suspect DS chats more with DH than his Mum. It's useful to have shared interests. DH and DS both like cooking and walking a lot.

My OH does the weekly phone call. I find it odd as I'm gossiping with my parents on WhatsApp every day but it works fine for them, just different.

Mine is 22, he messages daily, and visits weekly, it's very rare to get a phonecall so if it's ringing and its him, I know there's something wrong 🤣

My 19yo is just away to move to uni a few hours away, I imagine it will be messages daily, and probably I'll go there every couple of months and he will come here every couple of months, so around monthly for seeing him.

Yes, 3 adult sons and they message/call regularly.

2 of them come for dinner most Sundays.

I can't even get mine to move out.

DS is 24, moved out about 3 years ago, but only a few miles down the road. He is constantly in touch, always asking for help/advice, asking to come over to watch the footy, or I'll come home to find him making a bacon sandwich in my kitchen.

I reckon it will be DD2 who I never hear from again once she leaves!

Why wouldn't they? My DS and I are incredibly close and see each other all the time. He's 42.
Wish it was the same with my own mother - we have nothing in common and almost never see each other. She has always seen me as some kind of rival which is ridiculous.

My son is 25. We're very close. He o0ved out a couple of years ago.

We message several times a week for a chat or to tell the other something. He comes round to the house every couple of weeks and we quite often go out to see bands or to the pub together.

We don't call each other often but that's because we'll be on the phone for a couple.of hours if we do 😅

I think I'll see far less of my daughter when she moves out tbh.

I rarely hear from my DS. Not seen him in almost a year, if I message him he can take weeks to reply. My DD however is more regular with messaging and I see more of her, but not loads.

My brothers are in their late 50s. DM is in touch with them most days.

My sons are in their 40s. They didn't go away to university, preferring to stay at home and get jobs. One left when he was 25, the other 28. Both stayed locally. Different girlfriends came and went. Now, both sons are very settled, both live within a few miles from us, and we all meet up about fortnightly

My DH, in his 50s, still talks to his parents pretty much every day, in person now we live near them, partly because they take our dog for a walk every day.

Talks to his dad about football, work, politics - talks to his mum about stuff.

Been on holiday with them, go out for dinner regularly, they come round for dinner. He pops round for a cup of tea with them. Fortunately I really like them.

My DS is only 7 so cant comment on him yet. But my brother is very close to our mum. He sees my mum at least once a week, they go out for meals together a lot and they message every day. Me and my sister are also very close to her too.

My brother's do with my parents. My dh doesn't live in same country as his mum but he video calls her most days, more than I would chat with my mum