To wish I didn't have my daughter

[gingerbreadbunny]

I have 4 children, 3 are lovely easy children and 1 who whinges and whines all day about anything and everything.
She's really hard work, the other 3 go straight to bed but not her she's up fussing back and forth for hours, it's exhausting.
She doesn't ever want to go anywhere and will make everything about her by just being difficult and awkward, she won't do as she's told,
if she doesn't get her own way she screams and tantrums and ruins everyone else's day.
She constantly and deliberately upsets her brothers and sister who have had enough, she'll only play with them if she gets her own way and if they don't want to play her way she'll ruin it for them or won't play.
She's 6 and I love her but I just know life would be so much happier for us all if we hadn't had her.
I feel like she sucks all the energy out of me every single day.
She always wants everything to be about her and will deliberately talk over any siblings who try and talk to me.
If I hold another's hand she'll pull them off me so she can hold my hand instead.
I just don't have any energy left, she's completely depleting me and dh.
She is full of anger and hatred and is wearing us down.
She can be lovely when it suits her but it's usually short lived, just until something doesn't go her way.

Im going through the same , but my daughter is 17 , her twin and the 2 younger are greqt but she does what your daughter does and more , try and stop it now or the situation will get worse , my younger ones are in therapy because of her behaviour , nastiness and jeloulsy over the others x

Look up the PDA Society and see if it sounds like her. It was a lightbulb moment for us. Then the key is to go low demand, make life easier for her. So it’s really important to get the diagnosis right. she will be masking at school. It’s an atypical form of autism, so a lot of PDA kids slip through the net.

My friend had 2 daughters. One, a happy sunny child had a heart condition, so a lot of effort was put int her hospital visits etc. The older child was a real misery with tantrums etc, but this was put down to jealousy and lack of attention.

Fast forward to younger daughter's "all clear", the surgeon talked about her little sister - she was the older one, by 2 years but smaller. Surgeon did heart tests (all good) but suggested a checkup.
Turned out after a set of testing that she was mildly coeliac. Change of diet, totally different child