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The wrong ring

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J4ff4 · 27/04/2024 23:49

My husband and I are recently married. We have been together for quite some time. We chose our own non matching rings. I recently noticed my husband was wearing a different ring and when I asked him about it he told me i was imagining things. I knew I was not because I was there when we purchased the rings and I put the ring on his finger. I continue to ask him about this different ring and he kept saying I was taking nonsense, he got angry and told me it was the same ring. I still had the ring recepit and checked the ring out on the venders site using the code from the receipt and it showed the ring that we purchased together and it was different to the ring he is now wearing. I have shown him the picture on the vendors site and he still says its the same ring, which it is cleanly not. I have tried racking my brain wondering why would he lie to me like this. And now I have all sorts of things going through my mind. Whose ring is he wearing, is he having an affair and he's wearing their ring or did they get their rings mixed up. Also the ring is a bit big for his finger because it keeps slipping off. So now I'm worried he's wearing another man's ring, and he has gotten the ring mixed up whilst fooling around and he's been wearing it for so long now he can't remember what his own ring looks like. You can also see the ring is different from the ring in our wedding photos. I haven't told anyone because I know he'll make me look like I'm going crazy, and I am too ashamed to tell anyone because I don't want people to know my business. Am I being unreasonable if I am him to leave.?

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PenguinLove1 · 30/04/2024 23:44

I thought you said it was a totally different ring? The brushed finish does wear off, my husbands was brushed when we first got married, but it looks completely polished now and has done for years - i can still tell the ring is the same though, just a different finish

Maybe share some pictures and people can see if it is the same ring or not?

Jonersy22 · 01/05/2024 06:48

The brush-effect wears off. But you said it was a completely different design? And didn't fit correctly?

J4ff4 · 01/05/2024 08:24

Looking at the ring now and in photos it looks like a completely different ring. I did not know the brushing could wear off a ring so quickly. And for those of you calling me crazy, you may have done the same thing in a similar situation. However I apologised to my H for suggesting he had swapped the ring. When I'm wrong I say I'm wrong. He wasn't happy but that's his right and I'll take what grief I get from this.

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C1N1C · 01/05/2024 09:04

I lost my ring (I'm a guy) because I used to fiddle with it and it slipped off on the train. Incidentally, I told my wife straight away after, but I was ashamed it happened and I knew there might be that 'why did you take it off in the first place, was he trying to look single' thing when I mentioned it.

I agree with the others... he's probably ashamed about it and tried to cover it up. The reaction is a bit OTT though. IT does suggest he's hiding more than just a lost ring.

diddl · 07/05/2024 15:47

So has he lost weight as you said the ring keeps slipping off?

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