Baby Reindeer creator is provoking his stalker

[jengachampion]

SPOILERS AHEAD
I’ll preface this by saying I had a male stalker for 7 years. I moved, changed jobs, and deleted all social media in that time. I’m also a survivor of SA, as well as assault after being spiked, similar to RG in the show.

It completely baffles me that he would completely replicate his stalker down to physical likeness, occupation, accent, exact correspondences and references like hanging curtains.

He is clearly not too worried about people finding the real person, as well as her potentially contacting him again.

If it were me telling my story, I would change all identifying details of both of us, because I would NEVER want to go through it again. RG telling his story this way is hugely weird to me and really speaks to the theme of mutual obsession he hints at in the show.

No, saying the same thing over and over and posting when no one was replying to you about how men are worse off than women is 'problematic'

Jesus, bore off will you.

Incidentally if any abuse victims from any gender (male, female, non binary, etc) is put off telling your story based on some of the comments from posters here.....please don't, your well-being matters.

Wtf are you on about, seriously. Literally no one have made it male vs female but you. Thank God us women have the privilege of being assaulted, eh

What a silly comment.

@Janiie
The inconsistencies in his story telling are massive.

It was based on something that happened but he has been very clear that it's a fictionalised account of his real life experience of being stalked. It's a Netflix drama not a David Attenborough style documentary.
He isn't accountable to anyone. He's made a fascinating drama. It was brilliantly acted and well produced (if an episode or so too long). He doesn't owe the public anything.
It difficult to understand why he behaved how he did but he is the first to admit that.
If I was him or if I was Netflix I would have disguised the texts and emails from the stalker. I don't know why they didn't think to change them. Maybe it was a genuine mistake. I don't know.
And if I was the stalker I would have deleted the emails as soon as the play of Baby Reindeer came out all those years ago.

I think the newspaper that are trying to contact the stalker are the real villains in this. They really are scummy people.

If anyone would put anyone off telling their stories it's you.
Your MRA bullshit is incredibly harmful to women, and to decent men.

But you literally just said I shouldn't be put off telling my story, didn't you? Or am I only allowed to do that in a way you feel acceptable? Careful, your privilege is showing... You might need a mop for the irony spilling everywhere

I don't identify as an MRA, and advocating that male victims receive help and not be accused of "provoking" their abusers which is literally in the title of this thread should not hurt women.

If any posters are put off the male sex by your vile misogynist comments, remember - NAMALT.

Calling out a stalker in public will always provoke them regardless of the gender of the victim. You would be strongly advised not to for your own safety.

Victims are advised not to provoke them into escalating their behaviour, which includes not deleting them on digital media etc.

I literally thought this, this morning. What if it’s a long con, and they’re both in on it, and come clean after awards season, when the show inevitably cleans up?

Nothing I have said is misogynistic, that's a dog whistle.

It's not misogyny to say that we should listen to make victims as equally as female ones.

I don't care what you identify as. Your posts speak for themselves.. Bleating on and on and on with your agenda.

OP was referring to one victim and questioning whether that person is provoking the stalker. The fact the victim is a man is irrelevant. I'm sure she would have also questioned this if the victim of this story had been a woman.

But you're going on and on and on with your agenda.

No one has said they aren't though. You've just tried to shout down any women saying women aren't taken seriously either... That's a misogynistic part

I don't know if your a women on not and would treat you the same nonetheless.

That isn’t, pretty much everything else is, and the implication that female victims are taken seriously is incorrect.

Attributing additional services for violence against women due to the high death and injury rate “female privilege” is as misogynist as it gets.

How you identify is your business.

Equally unpleasantly then? Lovely

And if you'd read the whole thread, you would know what sex I am

Something else we have not discussed is the portrayal of the trans character also. I thought they did a wonderful job of finally showing a trans person who was confident, competent, and admirable.

I'm sorry you think listening to victims is unpleasant.

Again to any victims here, please don't be put off coming forward.

Every post just gets more wtf. How I 'identify'? I don't 'identify' as a woman, I AM a woman

@ExpertInNothing needs to look into the difference between equity and equality.

When victims of gendered abuse are overwhelmingly female and the perps overwhelmingly male, me-me-me cries of 'not fair' and DARVO most certainly are misogynistic.

Some people identify differently though and we should respect that.