Seating arrangement on flight abroad

[momtoboys]

7 people going on vacation abroad. 2 couples (one is my DH and me). Three singles - 1 single will be in first class. Long flight. As we were discussing flights, my DH and I had a long talk about how i am self conscious about sitting on a plane with another person. I asked that if there was a choice of just two seats in a row that he reserve them so it could just be the two of us. He was crystal clear on my wishes. Reservations were made yesterday and he reserved three seats together with one of the other singles in our group. She is a person I like very much - she is not the problem. The problem is that my husband deliberately ignored what I had thought was a reasonable request. Now I will be stuck between my husband and the friend for the entire flight. I realize it is better that being stuck squished with a stranger, but I am furious he didn't take into consideration my feelings. I asked him if there was anywhere on the plane where there were just two seats and he said yes but he didn't want her to feel "left out". AIBU for being hurt but this situation?

If it's that precious and important to you then book the seats yourself or do it with him!

Seriously, men can't do right from wrong with a lot of women on here.

Your husband can sit in the middle so you are not squashed between two people.

Yanbu but I don’t understand why you didn’t book the seats yourself.

I’d make sure he was the one to sit in the middle and next to her on the flight now.

Put him in the middle and you have the aisle or window, so he’s your space?

Same.

If you were that precious you should have booked them yourself. Why didn’t you?

Just pop him in the middle? Then you can immerse yourself in a book/film/snooze and not worry about who you are next to

let him go in the middle but he hasn’t done anything wrong. Your going on a group holiday and your sat with members of your group.

Furious. Do it yourself then.

If you can’t handle a flight sat next to your friend is the group holiday really a good idea? The chances of there being a pair of seats in economy is also quite small isn’t it- usually 3,3,3 or 3,4,3 configuration? But if it was that big of a deal why not do the seat assignments yourself? In short, I don’t really get it but you could always have DH take the middle and take his aisle or window.

Wouldn't you rather sit with a friend than a stranger? Because you can guarantee that seat would have been taken.
I think you're picking an argument over nothing.

Because her husband said he would do what she wanted. I'm sure if he had said at the time that he didn't want to do that, the OP would have suggested that she booked instead.

All of this

YABVU

I'm with the "book it yourself" gang.

As you know, not everyone is comfortable with everything and your husband was uncomfortable with booking seats away from another travel companion.

You cant force someone to be comfortable with your demands, even after a lengthy discussion.

You could have saved the time and done it yourself in minutes.

You can put your husband between you.

I’m sorry, but you really need to get over yourself.

Why would you want her to be on her own though? I don’t understand that. She’s part of your group.

A kind thought from him re the other passenger

Is it just planes? Will you sit with others at meals, on public transport etc? I'm thinking you might have been better going on holiday with just your husband.

“…had a long talk about how i am self conscious about sitting on a plane with another person.”

What a luxury to go through life like this.

I don't see the issue. You are going to be sitting with your DH and a friend, not with a stranger.

Would you really have preferred to leave the other person to sit on their own?

You're being ridiculous. Perhaps you should have booked the seating yourself because it sounds like your DH can't do right for doing wrong.

You’re furious? That your husband included your friend and didn’t leave her out?

hes a nicer person than you are imo

Presumably the other single friend is with the other couple. And you'd just leave this friend alone?

I'm more intrigued by the first class wanker 🤣

how i am self conscious about sitting on a plane with another person

You need to get help for that. It's pretty far out and too much to expect other people to manage. If you're so 'self conscious' then you need to sort it yourself. The only place with two-seat rows afaik is in the section above standard class - business exec or whatever they call it, so you'd have to pay more. How do you cope sitting in the seats at the gate beforehand or on the shuttle thing on the way to the plane??

That's really weird that you'd rather share a space with a stranger than someone you're going on holiday with.....

All very odd. But surely if one of the singles is in first class then it makes sense for the other two to sit together. Or is the other with the other couple.