Seating arrangement on flight abroad

[momtoboys]

7 people going on vacation abroad. 2 couples (one is my DH and me). Three singles - 1 single will be in first class. Long flight. As we were discussing flights, my DH and I had a long talk about how i am self conscious about sitting on a plane with another person. I asked that if there was a choice of just two seats in a row that he reserve them so it could just be the two of us. He was crystal clear on my wishes. Reservations were made yesterday and he reserved three seats together with one of the other singles in our group. She is a person I like very much - she is not the problem. The problem is that my husband deliberately ignored what I had thought was a reasonable request. Now I will be stuck between my husband and the friend for the entire flight. I realize it is better that being stuck squished with a stranger, but I am furious he didn't take into consideration my feelings. I asked him if there was anywhere on the plane where there were just two seats and he said yes but he didn't want her to feel "left out". AIBU for being hurt but this situation?

So is there still a friend sitting alone?

Where is the other single sitting?

This. 'People won't do as their told, why can't they just do as they're told, how awful to expect me to do the task I'm complaining about!' ??

It’s pretty important information that you are self conscious about your size and that’s why you wanted the seat configuration. You may have had more understanding if you had mentioned that earlier on.

This!

Or FFS either sit in the window seat?

Get a grip!

Good point! I had discounted that as I thought it read as if OP’s DH had booked a row of 3 and those planes don’t have 3s. If he’s done that though then that’s the worst possible seat configuration and it does change things. On that aircraft OP I would done a pair for you and DH then friend across the aisle so you’re with your mate and can chat but it avoids anyone getting middles and your friend gets the direct aisle access. But that’s what you get for not doing it yourself I guess!! If you can, change it. If you can’t because you’re checked in then not ideal but you’ll be fine. You’re next to a friend who you like enough to go on holiday with, it’ll be fine.

Oh well then LTB!

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have you looked into purchasing a seat for comfort? It often works out cheaper than you expect as you don’t need to pay tax.

If you'd said in your first post that the reason was you are overweight you would have more sympathetic responses I think. Yanbu. But I guess your friend prefers being squashed to sitting alone so it's ok

If something is important do it yourself.

I leave seat booking to Mr Monkey and he always does it late and therefore I have just flown back from New York in economy, behind Mr Monkey between two strangers. Didn't care.

If I did I would do it myself.

BTW on our flight to get two together you would have to have booked premium economy.

My DH and I had 2 seats in Economy flying to Barbados with Virgin.

I think that being next to a friend who knows you should be OK, and if you do take up slightly more room than some people, do not be ashamed of this.

I find the responses to this bizarre. Particularly that the OP should have done it herself.

So how does that go...

"DH - I'm going to book the flights, what do you want to do about seating arrangements.

OP - I'd like to sit in a 2 seat if there's an option to do because .....

DH - OK great. That's fine with me. I'll book that then.

OP - well actually I can't trust you to do what we've agreed as you are completely incapable of it, so I'll do it myself"

Ummm that's going to go down well.

OP whatever anyone thinks of you desire to sit in a certain place on the plane, it doesn't matter. You discussed with your DH and made an agreement. If he wasn't happy with that he should have said at the time. If he was happy he should done what you agreed. If that wasn't possible when he came to book he should have told you. If he chanted his mind after the discussion he should have mentioned it to you before booking.

It's basic respect and communication really and most people wouldn't operate any differently. It's disrespectful to just do something that is not what has been discussed and agreed, whatever that is.

This entirely. So OP would you have liked your DH to buy an extra seat to be left empty?

This

I think you're being OTT OP and I think your DH is very thoughtful. Would you really have wanted your friend sat with strangers so you have the flight you wanted?

This.

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LTB, he’s clearly shagging your friend 👀😂

Plenty of transatlantic planes have a 2-4-2 configuration, or 2-3-2 close to the back.

OP doesn’t want to inconvenience her friend, or anyone else. How is this something to criticise?

Frankly, you're being ridiculous 🤷‍♀️

Not the point, but what are you self-conscious about?

Yep! How mean to have deliberately wanted her to sit alone.

@snakesandarrows - thank you. I should have known this would have just been a pile on. I don't post often and now I remember why.

Are you worried about spilling into their space? In which case your DH hasn't been very thoughtful at all.... but would he have understood that's why you wanted 2 seats together and not to be in a row of 3.....