Seating arrangement on flight abroad

[momtoboys]

7 people going on vacation abroad. 2 couples (one is my DH and me). Three singles - 1 single will be in first class. Long flight. As we were discussing flights, my DH and I had a long talk about how i am self conscious about sitting on a plane with another person. I asked that if there was a choice of just two seats in a row that he reserve them so it could just be the two of us. He was crystal clear on my wishes. Reservations were made yesterday and he reserved three seats together with one of the other singles in our group. She is a person I like very much - she is not the problem. The problem is that my husband deliberately ignored what I had thought was a reasonable request. Now I will be stuck between my husband and the friend for the entire flight. I realize it is better that being stuck squished with a stranger, but I am furious he didn't take into consideration my feelings. I asked him if there was anywhere on the plane where there were just two seats and he said yes but he didn't want her to feel "left out". AIBU for being hurt but this situation?

He gets the middle seat.

Absolutely this.

Ok, the vast majority think I am being unreasonable. I'll take that and adjust my attitude. Thanks for the input. As for the people mentioning that my DH could go in the middle, I don't think that will work. He's 6'3" and long legs. 😂.

Why didn’t you choose the seats you wanted?

YABU about wanting couples' intimacy but I'd be considering a patio re-decoration if my DH deliberately booked me into a middle seat for a long-distance flight. Tell him to re-do the reservations or he gets the middle.

Why not upgrade, then, as long as its a reasonably OK airline you get your own space and can be away from everyone. I couldn't do a long haul flight in a row of 3 in economy but I wouldn't even try, I would make sure I was able to manage my booking myself.

If it's a A320 or 737 all the economy seats will be 3:3, so you can either sit with your friend or stranger.

How long is the flight?

If there are 2 seats elsewhere on the plane, I'm guessing it's not long haul as they are usually 3 on each side with a larger bank in the centre.

I think he's been thoughtful towards the friend. I understand this has meant disregarding your request, but I can't honestly think that it's a reasonable request for a short flight.

I think your DH is being considerate of your single friend. It would be nice for her not to sit on a long flight by herself when her friends are on the same flight. I think you are being rather self-absorbed here. Swap seats with your DH or your friend if you need to.

Maybe he'll learn to listen next time!

Is it premium economy or economy?

My apologies, I've just re-read your op and seen that it's a long flight.

Why would you want her to be on her own though? I don’t understand that. She’s part of your group.

This!

Your husband did the right thing imo

I don't get what your problem with this is. Have you left out a huge detail as to why it would be such a problem for you to sit next to someone?

As your DH is so thoughtful towards the friend he can sit next to her in the middle, don’t be a mug and take the seat yourself.

YABVU. He sounds considerate of the single friend

I'd insist on it anyway, as punishment for him booking you in a middle seat when you didn't have to be. He won't make the same mistake again.

Why is it worse to be sitting with a friend than a stranger?

He won't have any more legroom regardless of where he sits on the row

Why are you self-conscious of seating with others on a plane? Is there a physical reason?

You get the exact same amount of leg room no matter which seat you are in so this excuse doesn’t wash. Unless he takes an aisle seat and makes himself a trip hazard by lounging in the aisle.

What's the issue with being next to someone on the plane? It's so bad that you would prefer to leave one of your party alone rather than sit next to them?

Why didn’t he leave the two non business class singles to sort out their own seating, they may have wanted to sit together?

TBF I don't think you're being unreasonable to be annoyed with him, as I'm really fussy with where I sit on the plane. However, if it's a long flight what was the seating arrangement? Maybe there was no other choice? I'm also really insecure so I'd wonder why didn't he want us to sit together alone...
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The leg room is what it is whether aisle, middle or window. He can’t stick his long legs in the aisle to get bashed by meal trolleys or trip people up on the way to the bathroom. My DH is also 6’3 and as he puts it- middle seat in economy is a treat when you’re flying without the kids! So whilst I think YABU about the seat selection, your DH and his legs could definitely cope with the middle. Is upgrading an option? You usually get a pair of seats in premium economy and it has more leg room so ideal for you both.