Seating arrangement on flight abroad

[momtoboys]

7 people going on vacation abroad. 2 couples (one is my DH and me). Three singles - 1 single will be in first class. Long flight. As we were discussing flights, my DH and I had a long talk about how i am self conscious about sitting on a plane with another person. I asked that if there was a choice of just two seats in a row that he reserve them so it could just be the two of us. He was crystal clear on my wishes. Reservations were made yesterday and he reserved three seats together with one of the other singles in our group. She is a person I like very much - she is not the problem. The problem is that my husband deliberately ignored what I had thought was a reasonable request. Now I will be stuck between my husband and the friend for the entire flight. I realize it is better that being stuck squished with a stranger, but I am furious he didn't take into consideration my feelings. I asked him if there was anywhere on the plane where there were just two seats and he said yes but he didn't want her to feel "left out". AIBU for being hurt but this situation?

So your DH is tall, and you are a bigger lady. Honestly, I think your DH might have been better off asking the friend if she wanted to sit with you or elsewhere, no? Couldn’t the single people have sat together?

That doesn't guarantee no one would sit in the 3rd seat though?

Is there an option to book premium economy or extra legroom seats?

There are often posts on here from larger posters asking about seatbelts on planes, and most replies have been very helpful.

I hope you have a stress free flight.

You should maybe have explained your weight issue in your op. It is relevant. I voted YABU but now I don’t think so.

Well he went against your wishes and booked a row of 3 seats so he can sit in the middle!

I don't agree with "why didn't you book it yourself" - if we discuss some arrangements with my DP, I totally expect him to follow up on the agreed, or let me know if he needs to do something different.

It is so convenient he "can't" sit in the middle - he was gentleman in a way which costs only you and not him.

In many planes there would be only very few places where just two people sit in a row together, typically the last line or two, but it sounds he didn't even check whether they were free.

Given you asked and he agreed and there were sets of two seats available, YANBU to miffed at him and insisting he shove his 6’3” frame into the middle seat is reasonable if he’s so happy to book a set of three.

I’ve never been in economy with just 2 seats to a row, and I’ve never seen an economy cabin like that either on tv or online etc. It’s usually in rows of 3. Besides which, she’s your friend? I don’t understand the issue?

It's not about the friend or who books it. You asked him to do something and he completely ignored you.

If my husband offered to buy me a sandwich and I said can I have ham. He said yes no problem. And he came back with cheese despite the fact there was ham. I'd be irritated.

Either he didn't listen to you, doesn't consider your feelings valid or the friend asked if they could sit with you or he considered the friends feelings above yours.

I would tell him he can sit in the middle

I'm either you OP. What was the point of the conversation you had if your DH just ignored it? This is rude and weird.
Why is he more concerned about someone else's flight enjoyment than yours? His own wife.
Does he regularly ignore you?
As for you booking the seats, that's not how things should have to work.
If some asked that their DH buy some tomatoes when they did the grocery shopping, or to put the trash out after you cooked dinner or made sure dc had their spots kit with them before school and it was agreed it's not a reasonable comment that 'you should have done it yourself'
Tasks are shared in a household and the task of booking seats was his and he didn't respect you and your request.

Her weight…..

Given you asked and he agreed and there were sets of two seats available

Were there 2 seats available on their own though?

I don’t even understand this. If there were two seats elsewhere and he booked those, wouldn’t a stranger just book the third seat anyway and they’d be back to square one anyway plus with a friend sat alone?

The OP says there were, and her husband says he chose a three deliberately, so I don’t know why you would question that?

Because OP wanted her DH to book a pair of seats on its own, which existed on the plane she is flying on.

I'm not sure why everyone is fretting about the single traveller. There are 6 of them travelling in economy. The 2 couples can sit together and the two singles can sit together.

Everyone is always moaning that large people are hard to sit next to and here is a woman wanting to ensure she is sitting alone with her dh.

I can't believe these replies! OP, I think you are being perfectly reasonable, and I would absolutely want my DH to book the 2 seat config rather than the 3. I have no idea what everyone is talking about saying YABU!

If he insisted on booking the seats why didn't you ask if he could book the exit row? Other than those then there would be no chance of getting 2 seats and nobody in the rest of the row. short of asking the airline to rip out a seat, I'm not sure what you expected him to do tbh..

I agree. It is highly likely that it would be filed with a stranger anyway, so why make your friend travel alone?

Why is your husband booking your friends tickets/seat? I dont really get that.

I can understand your view after your update and he should have listened to your wishes on the matter. I would have been annoyed too tbh, for whatever the reason was. If I asked him to book something for me and he said he would and then just did something different, yes I would be annoyed.

Can you change your seats?

Because people can’t be bothered to read and understand the OP’s posts, and think that because they have never flown on a plane that has 2-4-2 or 2-3-2 configuration in some or all of the plane, such planes don’t exist.

I'm not sure why everyone is fretting about the single traveller. There are 6 of them travelling in economy. The 2 couples can sit together and the two singles can sit together.

No, because one of the singles is sitting in First Class.

I would absolutely want my DH to book the 2 seat config rather than the 3

It's still not clear that there was a 2 seat config on this plane though.

You need to re-read the OP. There were 2 seat configs available

Yes, it is.