To think I am a carer even if dh doesn't think so?

[Stressedgiraffe]

Just had a visit from a carers nurse after a Dr referral for stress and help
Dh is recently disabled and has just been awarded esa and has applied for pip. Should be according to the nurse entitled to enhanced pip.

He has daily seizures and is often incontinent.i have to remind him to take medication, support him after seizures, clean up after him.

The nurse suggested joining the local carer's support network. Seeing if there is respite care available if needed and getting him a blue badge.

Dh has hit the roof stating I'm not caring for him. I do nothing to help him etc

I work ft. Do all the housework, cooking,cleaning laundry etc. I sort out all appointments for dcs. I'm financially responsible for everything.

So who's right dh or the nurse?
Yabu- dh - I'm not a carer
Yanbu- nurse- you are a carer

No, she is his carer in the eyes of the government- anyone official doing a carers assessment would recognise this, any medical professional or hospital discharge team would recognise this. Work place HR would recognise her as a carer if she worked in the public sector.

The government has no difficulty recognising her as a carer, they just use any excuse not to pay carers allowance.

You are definitely a carer, as hard as it might be for your husband, for your sake he has to admit it.