Does this sound aggressive to you?

[queensonia]

I am on friendly terms with a neighbour. A couple of weeks ago her cat went missing and I promised to look out for him. I hadn’t heard from her for a while so I texted her: “Any news of Fluffy??” She replied. “Why do you always use so many question marks??????! Not sure if you’re aware but it comes across as aggressive”.
I apologised for accidentally offending her but WTF? Would anyone else find two question marks aggressive? I know Gen Z get in a twist about misuse of emojis but this woman is 60!

I don't know any older people who use multiple punctuation marks, I think it's a younger person thing.

Or maybe a medium aged (not middle aged) thing as actual young people seem to find any punctuation aggressive.

It all irritates me as it's incorrect.

Despite that, the woman is a loon, you were just being nice!

There was a post about the use of question marks recently.
Yes, not only do they convey an aggressive tone, why the hell do you need so many? Unnecessary and ignorant

She responded very rudely indeed. I’d leave her to it from now on. What a prickly and mannerless person.

The only rude or aggressive thing about this is her response!

OP is clearly older ??

15 year old DS does it if I dont reply quickly enough.
Mum, wheres my PE shirt?
MUM??
MUM??????????????????
Bloody annoying

Her message is way, way more aggressive than your non-contentious message. I would reply:

SORRY!!?! 👹👊🏻

Yep you should reply -

’Yes, I am aggressive!!!! Glad you noticed at last!!! But why are you changing the subject and not answering my question??????? now where the FUCK is that CAT?????????

If my sons or dh take too long answering a question I send ??? using iPhone effects like slam or this one. After reading this thread I'm worried I've committed a hate crime.

That is insanely annoying. Please stop this for the sake of your sons and dh

I'm sure her grown ass husband is capable of telling her if she's being annoying, wind your neck in 😂

It is aggressive.
At 50 I’ve had to learn that my communication style needs updating. It took me a while, but it’s important. Doubling up on question marks is demanding and potentially aggressive.
Using full stops can also ‚sound‘ irritated or annoyed.
It is how it is and adaptability is a good thing 😀

@MonsteraMama 😂 I happen to know they find me adorable and not at all annoying.

Apparently not??

Or, wild idea, he doesn't find it annoying?

But yeah of course you know better how her husband feels about her than she does 🙄

I mean you find it annoying with only two?? Imagine three???

Mine does this too!

I’m sorry to report that Fluffy is still missing but I won’t be enquiring about his whereabouts again