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No contact since his night out

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Poppy1997 · 22/04/2024 10:44

I’ve been seeing a guy for a few months and all was going well. He went out Saturday night and I haven’t heard from him since about midnight Sunday morning. Texts are unread and I’ve tried calling to see if he’s ok but nothing. He went out with an old friend who is going through a nasty breakup with a ex who is being nasty so he went to support her. Since then I haven’t heard from him. I’m also worried as a few weeks ago he was out and had a funny turn/black out/possible absence kind of seizure and was booked in for a brain scan. I’m really concerned something has happened to him or wether he’s gone off with the woman he was out with and is ghosting me. What would you do?

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AnchorWHAT · 22/04/2024 10:45

I would assume he had a few drinks and was having a lie in on Sunday then perhaps felt rough so stayed home nursing a hangover. If i didnt hear by lunchtime today i would try getting in contact to check he is ok.

Youcannotbeseriousreally · 22/04/2024 10:47

I would do absolutely nothing, his silence speaks volumes. Just move on with your head held high.

wednesdaywoes · 22/04/2024 10:47

Are he and the woman definitely just friends? It seems odd that he's made no contact with you

Sugarcoatedalmonds · 22/04/2024 10:49

Sorry, I'm a bit dim. Did you last hear from him late Saturday night? Or late last night?

I would wait until later today and then start to worry. But my immediate thought would be they slept together.

EauNeu · 22/04/2024 10:50

Do you have him on WhatsApp? Or can you add him and see if he's been online?
Most probably he's not been arsed to be in touch for whatever reason.

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Poppy1997 · 22/04/2024 10:50

@Sugarcoatedalmonds late Saturday night was the last text I received. He’s not look him though not to get in touch even just to say he’s got a bad hangover or something. He normally texts pretty regularly

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Poppy1997 · 22/04/2024 10:50

The woman he went out with he said they’d reconnected and that he was just supporting her through a hard time

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pinkdaffodill · 22/04/2024 10:51

Poppy1997 · 22/04/2024 10:50

The woman he went out with he said they’d reconnected and that he was just supporting her through a hard time

I wouldn't believe that. Most likely she's an ex or someone he likes

platespinner44 · 22/04/2024 10:52

Hard to say without knowing the seriousness of the relationship. It doesn't sound great that he's gone out with another woman and then dropped off the radar for 36 hours. Then again you mention health concerns so that is a legitimate worry too.

Have you tried ringing him?

pinkdaffodill · 22/04/2024 10:53

Poppy1997 · 22/04/2024 10:50

The woman he went out with he said they’d reconnected and that he was just supporting her through a hard time

Supporting someone else doesn't mean he can't reply back to you.

Sugarcoatedalmonds · 22/04/2024 10:53

Thanks @Poppy1997 ! Sorry for not understanding.

I think either they were just having a nice time catching up, or they slept together.

I hate to say that though as I have loads of friends who are boys and have never once thought them in that way before.

I think its just a bit strange he hasn't messaged even just to moan about a hangover!

Are you worried he got hurt on Saturday night? Or just a mix of everything?

Pollyannamex · 22/04/2024 10:54

Pretty sure his silence tells you all you need to know

Vegandiva · 22/04/2024 10:56

He sounds like more trouble than he’s worth and a good candidate for block, delete and move on. Sorry, OP. Flowers

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Poppy1997 · 22/04/2024 10:56

Yes just worried about mix of everything really. He’d been having these funny turns, GP said most likely stress related. Just seems a bit odd.

He also used the line of ‘she’s like a big sister’ apparently he’s known her years but they’ve more recently got back in touch

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vanillaclouds · 22/04/2024 10:59

By the time I'd been with dh a few months, he would not have been going out with another woman and ignoring me.
He would never have made it to husband if he had.
Find someone who respects you.

Sugarcoatedalmonds · 22/04/2024 11:04

If anything horrible had happened to him, his "big sister" would have contacted you, (or at least I would in that situation) so I don't think you need to worry about his health.

Does he have a form for this? If this is the first time he's gone off radar I would be willing to give him the benefit of the doubt (once!) But honestly, if this is a habit you are worth so much more ♥️

Whateveer · 22/04/2024 11:05

If he's not in hospital, it would be over for me.

DaisyChain505 · 22/04/2024 11:06

The relationship between him and this woman is more than he let on. He’s blocked you or not getting in contact because something happened between them and he’s ghosting you. In my opinion.

ChildrenOfTheQuorn · 22/04/2024 11:08

Something happened on this night out, and I'm talking of his own making.

Cbljgdpk · 22/04/2024 11:10

Sorry OP but likelihood is that something happened with her.

Catza · 22/04/2024 11:13

His phone is on so he is alive and well. Take a hint.

TrickorTreacle · 22/04/2024 11:16

One word - men.

AutumnCrow · 22/04/2024 11:28

Can he see message previews on his phone without reading/opening the messages, do you know, OP? Like a ticker tape on the top of the screen?

You could send him something eye-catching.

’I’m ringing your workplace … if I don’t hear from you by lunchtime’ kind of thing.

Or you can wait it out.

nervousweddingguest · 22/04/2024 11:35

just putting it out there... if this lack of communication is not usual, and its now been well over 24 hours... hes had time to recover from any hang over..

i'd be contacting either family or even the police to report him missing.

Twistingskies · 22/04/2024 11:40

As if people are suggesting to ring his workplace or the police to report him missing!

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