Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

OP posts:
Thread gallery
16
Mischance · 19/04/2024 11:40

beguilingeyes · 19/04/2024 09:57

I was also reading a thing yesterday about Brexit-inflamed medication shortages and how they're exacerbating the problem of long-term sickness. People can't get the treatment they need.

This is true. I have a heart condition and need a particular medication which comes from Europe. I have tried getting a private prescription to tout round pharmacies to see if anyone has it and drawn a blank. My dispensing surgery eventually managed to get one month's worth but now the cardiologist wants me to up the dose and I will need more than I have here. I will also be fighting this battle every month. I cannot stop taking it as I will finish up needing heart surgery.

IClaudine · 19/04/2024 11:41

GoodnightAdeline · 19/04/2024 11:35

There’s ’reasonably ok’ then there’s mucking out and riding horses which is PHYSICAL and takes hours (I used to do it in a past life).

You asked about conditions where symptoms are variable. I gave you an example. So did arseinthecoopwindow. But you are still not satisfied.

You won't even slightly entertain the idea that you might possibly be unfairly judging another disabled person.

mydogisthebest · 19/04/2024 11:43

Well something has to be done about benefits for people who can't be bothered to work. The day is fast approaching when we will have more people on benefits than in work.

I know 2 people who claim benefits they are not actually entitled to so how many people across the country are doing the same?

My neighbour gets benefits because he has such bad anxiety he can't leave his house. I would have sympathy as I have suffered anxiety that bad except in my case I did not leave my house for several months. He leaves his house almost every day to work cash in hand, go shopping, walk his dogs, go swimming etc

MistressoftheDarkSide · 19/04/2024 11:45

This reply has been deleted

Message deleted by MNHQ. Here's a link to our Talk Guidelines.

Bumpitybumper · 19/04/2024 11:47

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 19/04/2024 11:39

I couldn't agree more, @Rinoachicken - it beggars belief that they don't - or won't - understand this.

Capitalists should realise that a healthy, well educated population will be able to work better and make more money for them - but even this blatant self-interest does not motivate them.

Individuals should realise that they are responsible for themselves and they should take an active interest in their own health, education and wellbeing. The abdication of responsibility in the country is insane and laughable to those from countries that don't expect the government to step in every 5 minutes.

I wonder if there ever comes a time when people like you don't blame the government or capitalists? We have to wake up as a country and realise that we all can't be net takers and expect others (who?) to fund everything. A population will always have some disabled and vulnerable but with obesity and inactivity level shooting through the roof, we are hardly helping ourselves! The limited resources we have are going to be split far too many ways and this will ultimately only hurt those who need the resources most.

ginasevern · 19/04/2024 11:47

SerendipityJane · 19/04/2024 10:18

This. Never Gets. Old.

Why not focus on the biggest citcle, Mr. Sunak ?

Because you are a cunt and a bully and a coward and you can only ever punch the weak, not help then.

May you - and anyone who enables you - rot in the hell you are making on earth.

Edited

Couldn't have put it better myself. Love the graph too. Tories are scum, rotten to the core and always have been.

LadyKenya · 19/04/2024 11:47

My neighbour gets benefits because he has such bad anxiety he can't leave his house. I would have sympathy as I have suffered anxiety that bad except in my case I did not leave my house for several months. He leaves his house almost every day to work cash in hand, go shopping, walk his dogs, go swimming etc

It never ceases to amaze me how much people seem to know about their neighbours. You have no idea what he put on his forms, or how his anxiety may present from one day to the next. He is not you!

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 19/04/2024 11:48

Mischance · 19/04/2024 11:40

This is true. I have a heart condition and need a particular medication which comes from Europe. I have tried getting a private prescription to tout round pharmacies to see if anyone has it and drawn a blank. My dispensing surgery eventually managed to get one month's worth but now the cardiologist wants me to up the dose and I will need more than I have here. I will also be fighting this battle every month. I cannot stop taking it as I will finish up needing heart surgery.

This.

The dread when l get DD’s ADHD script. Which means the difference between her being able to leave the house or not, as it kills her paralysing anxiety.

Phoning round a million chemists. It’s a full time job just doing that.

SquirrelMeze · 19/04/2024 11:49

Tracker1234 · 19/04/2024 10:30

We have to do something about the sick note culture. We ALL know someone who is working cash in hand but in the pub Friday night boasting about it. People are playing the system and it spoils it for the genuinely sick.

And yes, I believe this will go down well with the country.

If as Sunak says its going to increase by 50% in the next few years something needs to be done.

@Tracker1234 let's hope you never fucking get sick or old or disabled then. The proportion of people illegally claiming benefits is tiny. Stop believing the Tory narrative.

coronafiona · 19/04/2024 11:49

Rinoachicken · 19/04/2024 09:56

Wow would you believe more people are sick after government has failed to protect public health and failed to fund the NHS properly (for years) so people can't get timely treatment. Whoever would have guessed that might happen?!

“We’re also going to test shifting the responsibility for assessment from GPs and giving it to specialist work and health professionals”

Another nice fat contract for Capita coming up.

Maybe address the underlying causes of the increase in ill health in this country instead - just a thought. Increased absence due to mental and physical health issues is not caused by “sicknote culture”, but by 14 years of Tory so-called government.

Maybe there would not be so many people off work sick in the UK if we: -

  1. Had functioning GP services.
  2. Didn't have millions of people waiting for treatment on the NHS.
  3. Had decent mental health care.
  4. Didn't have millions living under the constant stress of how to feed, clothe and keep themselves warm.
Maybe Sunak could contemplate whether the Tories have some responsibility for any of the above points after 14 years in power, rather than scapegoating the victims of his party's abject failures.

Absolutely this ! NO ONE wants to be sick, disabled, elderly. It's not a choice.

x2boys · 19/04/2024 11:51

mydogisthebest · 19/04/2024 11:43

Well something has to be done about benefits for people who can't be bothered to work. The day is fast approaching when we will have more people on benefits than in work.

I know 2 people who claim benefits they are not actually entitled to so how many people across the country are doing the same?

My neighbour gets benefits because he has such bad anxiety he can't leave his house. I would have sympathy as I have suffered anxiety that bad except in my case I did not leave my house for several months. He leaves his house almost every day to work cash in hand, go shopping, walk his dogs, go swimming etc

Some people do take the piss im on various Facebook groups for DLA/PIP and some people do try and claim for the most tenuous of reasons
However many are not successful

But if your neighbour is he must have had evidence backing up his claim they don't just take a person's word for it
Also why is he telling you what he's claiming ?

CrispsnDips · 19/04/2024 11:53

I get frustrated with two women I know who are VERY active with heavy gardening work (digging, moving concrete slabs, etc), walking long walks EVERY day (at a fast pace as I walked with one recently) yet have been signed off work for over ten years. I really don’t understand it!

Another lady receives an allowance for her teenage Autistic son, only allowing her to work 16 hours pw. Her son attends school regularly, cooks for himself and has even started his own business.

CormorantStrikesBack · 19/04/2024 11:54

GoodnightAdeline · 19/04/2024 11:24

Which variable conditions?

Pretty much any auto immune illness.

MistressoftheDarkSide · 19/04/2024 11:58

Bumpitybumper · 19/04/2024 11:47

Individuals should realise that they are responsible for themselves and they should take an active interest in their own health, education and wellbeing. The abdication of responsibility in the country is insane and laughable to those from countries that don't expect the government to step in every 5 minutes.

I wonder if there ever comes a time when people like you don't blame the government or capitalists? We have to wake up as a country and realise that we all can't be net takers and expect others (who?) to fund everything. A population will always have some disabled and vulnerable but with obesity and inactivity level shooting through the roof, we are hardly helping ourselves! The limited resources we have are going to be split far too many ways and this will ultimately only hurt those who need the resources most.

Capitalism as it is currently structured is the ultimate pyramid scheme. It is not true free market Capitalism. It is rigged by the markets and geo-politics. It is overseen and ringfenced by those who already have money and powrr and want more.

Obesity has been driven by the food industry. Even those practising "personal responsibility " are affected by UPFs touted as healthy when they are not. And if everyone went back to foraging and growing their own food that industry would collapse.

Capitalism works by identifying a "need" I'm the market and filling it. Once saturation point is reached, "needs" are invented and psychologically driven to ensure compulsive purchasing.

Marketing is a multi million pound psychologically driven industry and it's nigh on impossible to opt out entirely.

Look at Edward Bernays. His marketing strategies were co-opted by the Nazis.

You're simplistic take overlooks the reality of the world we live in.

OP posts:
TTPD · 19/04/2024 12:00

We ALL know someone who is working cash in hand but in the pub Friday night boasting about it.

Do we all? I don't know anyone like that.

kaben · 19/04/2024 12:02

The thing is, as a country, we do have a lot of really serious (interlinked) problems. The fact that we have nearly 3 million people too sick to work is absolutely shocking.

What is more shocking is, that in any sort of clampdown, they are probably going to screw over the most vulnerable, who really need the sickness benefits. Unfortunately, the ones cheating the system will still be able to easily get away with it. And there are obviously in that nearly 3 million people, quite a significant number playing the system. Like a pp mentioned: "My neighbour gets benefits because he has such bad anxiety he can't leave his house. I would have sympathy as I have suffered anxiety that bad except in my case I did not leave my house for several months. He leaves his house almost every day to work cash in hand, go shopping, walk his dogs, go swimming etc." The dude is working cash in hand!!

Thing is, many are needing NHS help and are on months/years long waiting lists, getting sicker.

Anyway. I didn't vote in the last GE and won't be voting this time. No party can solve this. We are really really fucked and actively making things much worse. My jaw hangs open when medical schools tell students with 4 A stars to fuck off for example. I have a painful condition at the moment and have had to pay for private help. If I hadn't, I'd be totally debilitated with pain. It's a really quick simple condition to solve if you can actually access care.

CormorantStrikesBack · 19/04/2024 12:03

I recently had to wait nearly 3 years for surgery to remove a tumour from the middle of my fibula which had caused my fibula to shatter. I could barely walk for about the first 18 months and have been left with permanent damage and pain which will probably worsen. Thankfully I no longer worked on the frontline nhs and instead had a desk job, I’d have been unable to do my previous role.

Maybe if the nhs was funded better and people got prompt treatment and not fobbed off. Restrictions on stuff like knee replacements now, year long wait to even have your first appt with a consultant, etc. two year wait of it’s neurology! No wonder people are signed off sick!

rishi just wants to focus the blame away from him and get us all fighting amongst ourselves. No doubt it will work. Thank god the slimy fucker won’t be in power long enough to enforce this. From his ivory fucking tower, with his heated swimming pool, he won’t be waiting two fucking years to see a dr. People need to wake up and be angry.

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 19/04/2024 12:03

I don’t think they’ll be able to get this through before an election though,

MistressoftheDarkSide · 19/04/2024 12:05

And there's the rub. It's not actually work we need, it's money. And too many jobs don't pay enough.

OP posts:
Cml92 · 19/04/2024 12:05

As someone who is disabled due to an accident which theNHS misdiagnosed for many years. I have peroneal neuropathy permanent damage to the leg which makes walking extremely difficult. I use a splint and crutches or walking stick. I also have fibromyalgia and complex regional pain syndrome.
Now I have a mental health condition of CPTSD after finding one of my parents dead through suicide.
All of what the government has said has scared me. I do not want to be like this but I am. I am exhausted physically with pain and now mentally with the traumas.
Instead of handing over 54m to gangs who have defrauded the system, let's target the weak and vulnerable who are already struggling with life. I for one struggle to stay alive and no doubt mel stride will say its the everyday norms I'm experiencing. These people make me sick. They have absolutely no clue what it's like to be vulnerable.
Yes there may be a few people that play the system but you have to go through a fucking assessment and jump through hoops to even get the benefits. Disabled and vulnerable people are always the ones that get a bad name and shamed. It's fucking shameful .

CarterBeatsTheDevil · 19/04/2024 12:06

Rinoachicken · 19/04/2024 09:56

Wow would you believe more people are sick after government has failed to protect public health and failed to fund the NHS properly (for years) so people can't get timely treatment. Whoever would have guessed that might happen?!

“We’re also going to test shifting the responsibility for assessment from GPs and giving it to specialist work and health professionals”

Another nice fat contract for Capita coming up.

Maybe address the underlying causes of the increase in ill health in this country instead - just a thought. Increased absence due to mental and physical health issues is not caused by “sicknote culture”, but by 14 years of Tory so-called government.

Maybe there would not be so many people off work sick in the UK if we: -

  1. Had functioning GP services.
  2. Didn't have millions of people waiting for treatment on the NHS.
  3. Had decent mental health care.
  4. Didn't have millions living under the constant stress of how to feed, clothe and keep themselves warm.
Maybe Sunak could contemplate whether the Tories have some responsibility for any of the above points after 14 years in power, rather than scapegoating the victims of his party's abject failures.

...

  1. Had not, as a nation, endured three years of unnatural and stressful living conditions due to being woefully underprepared for a pandemic with massive consequences for mental health of adults and children alike
LadyKenya · 19/04/2024 12:06

CrispsnDips · 19/04/2024 11:53

I get frustrated with two women I know who are VERY active with heavy gardening work (digging, moving concrete slabs, etc), walking long walks EVERY day (at a fast pace as I walked with one recently) yet have been signed off work for over ten years. I really don’t understand it!

Another lady receives an allowance for her teenage Autistic son, only allowing her to work 16 hours pw. Her son attends school regularly, cooks for himself and has even started his own business.

Why do you need to understand it? How does it affect your life? I bet you do not disclose your frustrations to these people though.

AgentJohnson · 19/04/2024 12:06

I live in the Netherlands and here companies use a service (arbodienst) to manage sickness. Which means you call your boss to say you are sick, if it’s longer than a number of days then they will refer you to the service who manage your absence and eventual return.

I distrust the Tories and am extremely cynical of this policy and doubt that they could deliver an effective alternative but GP’s shouldn’t have had the burden of this.

CarterBeatsTheDevil · 19/04/2024 12:07

LadyKenya · 19/04/2024 12:06

Why do you need to understand it? How does it affect your life? I bet you do not disclose your frustrations to these people though.

Right! I mean, are these people gardeners or construction workers by trade? Or are they people who are able to manage physical tasks that makes them happy but overwhelmed by stress in their corporate or office workplace?

CheeryPye · 19/04/2024 12:08

Ladybir · 19/04/2024 09:48

Like it or not but I believe there will be a good proportion of the UK population who agree with him

Yeah that's kind of the problem, they fall for it. This is dog whistle politics at its finest. Just when the Tory party are falling to bits over their own sleaze and corruption blame it all on the sick and disabled instead. 'Look over there! Look over there! Don't look over here!' And time and time again they fall for it without even bothering to check the statistics which are practically non existent. Bit like the usual tired Tory narrative about benefit fraud being responsible for the collapse of society, but not actually telling us that only around 0.01% of all claims are fraudulent.

Swipe left for the next trending thread