Wife hides dishes

[beanbagluv1]

I've packed away nearly all of our plates/mugs/bowls and cutlery and left 1 thing of each for me and DH. We're only two people (and a baby) but somehow dirty dishes always pile up. AIBU?

1 of each thing per person, are you kidding?

Why are they packed away? Are you moving? Are you the wife? So many questions

I did this once in my teens when I was sharing a house with three boys. I confiscated all extraneous crockery and cutlery because it had got to the point they were eating out of dirty saucepans.

Outside of that scenario, it does sound pretty extreme.

Are you the person described in the title as wife? Because you're the one hiding things.

That's ridiculous.

I've thought of doing this before! But it will mean you have to wash up after every meal or snack.

The answers to these questions can be understood from the OP. The wife is posting, and is presumably fed up of the constant cycle of having to wash dishes, so has limited the number of available items so that there will never again be a pile of washing up to be done (by her, one assumes). (And so they are not moving.)

Your wife?

Pointless exercise. You'll just end up washing every time you eat or drink.

Seen name change fails before but not a reverse fail!

Not a reverse fail. Just a fed up wife asking for advice lol

I'm guessing you don't have a dishwasher?

True. Especially with a newborn that'll probably just backfire at some point 😅

Nope no dishwasher here unfortunately.

Of course you are being unreasonable. Packing away shared items within a household because you are frustrated is a petty and controlling response. If that was the solution they both adults came up either together to avoid ever having a big pile to get through at once, then fine. You doing this alone to make some kind of point is silly

Newborn stage is hard. You’ve just given birth and are probably exhausted. I sometimes buy paper plates etc. to give me a little rest from doing the dishes.

Maybe you and husband could try something like that. But, in the long run husband needs to clean up after himself and do his fair share of the housework.

I bought a freestanding dishwasher that has an inlet house and an outlet hose same as a washing machine. I find it very helpful.

Which is normal??

That is what you do if you don't have a dishwasher.

I assume you do the cooking too?
Does he do any household chores?

If he had nothing to eat he wouldn't need a plate to eat off which then wouldn't need washing......

I get it OP.

You're the wife and you've titled the OP about yourself.

I don't blame you. I don't have a dishwasher either and hate walking into the kitchen to find a pile of dirty stuff in the sink.

Yeah - while baby is young if DH is shit at washing up after himself promptly, keep the opportunity for it to pile up to a min by reducing the amount of dishes and cups available.

No nagging, no pile up.

That’s bizarre.

I mean - i'm thinking about it now and i realise i actually do this to a lesser extent!

One of our young adult DDs loves to use mug after mug and leave them about the place. However, quite obsessively, she will only use her own mugs. Therefore i restrict 'her' mugs in the mug cupboard to a max 4 - that way it's not too bad 😂

Hahahah this is really pathetic. You’re basically just making your own life harder to prove a point which he 100% won’t get!

@beanbagluv1 I don’t think you are trying to make a point. I think you are trying out a strategy to make life easier and cut down on all the dirty dishes piling up. Ignore the pp who just don’t get it.

I do that and we have a dishwasher.

I don’t like dishes all over the place, and not everything can go in a dishwasher.