Wife hides dishes

[beanbagluv1]

I've packed away nearly all of our plates/mugs/bowls and cutlery and left 1 thing of each for me and DH. We're only two people (and a baby) but somehow dirty dishes always pile up. AIBU?

You need to replace items that can't with items that are dishwasher safe.

OP, for the love of God, get a dishwasher.

Wow that is incredibly odd.

If you're the one always left to deal with all the dirty dishes then I don't blame you at all.

Hopefully this will mean everyone learns to wash up after themselves straight away if they want clean plates and utensils to use.

Not sure why people are finding this so hard to understand.

One of the bits of advice in A Slob comes clean is to limit the amount of items you have do the dirty crockery doesn’t pile up. One item per person might be a big extreme (she was writing as someone with 5 different dinner sets and loads of pans). But I’m guessing you want to make a point.

PP saying you’ll have to wash up at every meal. That’s the point. It’s much easier to wash up one meals worth of stuff, than a towering mountain every so often.

Hope it works out for you!

Personally I wouldn't thank you for a dishwasher.

I did have a brand new dishwasher in one house when we moved in but i just used it to store my big glassware in for 4 years.

Some of the holiday houses we go to have a dishwasher, and I don't use them either. If we're with other adults and they use it it's up to them, but i prefer to just wash up <shrug>

I realise i'm in a minority

Anyway i don't want to derail OPs thread!

I actually think this is a great idea. Less stuff means less clutter, fewer dishes sitting around making the place untidy, and it’s quick and manageable to wash. Nobody feels resentful for having to wash a sink full of dishes every night. In fact, everyone can quickly and easily clean their own. I’m with you, OP, and I will be streamlining our crockery and cutlery!

I only have 4 of everything cups plates bowls spoons knives etc.
Then again i do live alone and hate clutter.
I dont own a dishwasher either never have wash dry pack away.

Yeah, I’m not going to waste money buying new dishes so I can put them in the dishwasher. It takes less than five minutes for me on 99% of those that don’t.

That's the point

She is the wife. She’s packed them away because they pile up unwashed disproportionally to how many people use them. That’s all I’m the first post.

IHRTFT but I’m assuming when I do that the subtext is that he isn’t pulling his weight with the daily grind, she’s fed up with it and resorting to desperate means.

It takes literally two to five minutes to wash up a small number of items. Maybe a bit more for a more complicated meal.

True.

All of our dishes and bowls fit in one cupboard and we rarely use all of them The only time they get quite low is when we have family staying and that’s three times a year.

We have a ridiculous amount of mugs though which I wouldn’t mind getting rid of but DH does use a lot of them.

I'm the same. We had one when we moved in and got rid and replaced it with a freezer

Have you seen this, @beanbagluv1? Had your husband?

matthewfray.com/2016/01/14/she-divorced-me-because-i-left-dishes-by-the-sink/

Seems OK to me. Only DH and I live here and we are using the same plates every day! 2 at lunch, another 2 at dinner, then we wash up (by hand).

Hardly worth putting them back in the cupboard really!

Why?

What is the actual problem? The dishes pile up and neither of you wash them until you run out because you are both exhausted from having a newborn? Or the dishes pile up and it always falls to you to wash up?

I worked at a school that had a large staff room with kitchen (including dishwasher). It was always a horrible mess with dirty cups, used plates stacked in the sink, etc. It was impossible to fill a kettle without moving stuff out of the sink. (Luckily, our team had their own little kitchen area and sink.)

After some years of this and many warnings the school business manager had enough. An email was circulated. By close of play on Friday, all personal crockery should be removed or it would be thrown away. On Monday all staff would be issued with identical mugs each with their name written underneath in permanent marker. Personal plates could be used for food but items left on the side, in the sink, in the dishwasher when clean, etc, would be thrown away at the end of the day. The SBM was made of steel and didn't relent.

It did work for quite some time, until she left in fact.

Dishwashers still need unloading and reloading. If OPs partner can't be bothered to wash up, I can't see him dealing with the dishwasher either!

I presume you never have any visitors???
Of course not, this is MN and so visitors must await their gold-embossed invitation and rsvp within 23 minutes or else the invitation lapses. 🙄

Completely fine. I just have 2 per person because yes, otherwise things do pile up.

Sure, but that makes no difference - well, we wouldn't have used side plates at lunchtime I suppose, so there would just be 2 evening plates and pans to wash up every evening!