To feel like cancelling whole party due to stress?

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I mean I won't really do that (although I want to!), but I don't know what to do.

DD is very clever. Birthday party this weekend. Booked x amount of places, can't do more. Dd found spare invitations and invited other children she hadn't already invited. Phone bombarded with 'thank you, we'd love to come messages' (some asking if they can bring younger sibling). AIBU to just want to cancel at this point? Don't know what to do 😭

I'm also not sure when she sent them out, although the influx has been today. Haven't seen spares for a while, but assumed they were in cupboard.

DD is not “clever”. She’s been devious. I’d think about cancelling for that reason. Not “stress”.

Oh. I think I might be inclined to cancel actually. I'm a big fan of natural consequences.

How old is DD? Could she be the one who has to explain to the extra guests that they're not really invited?

Agree with this.

Just say no to extra siblings and get an extra plate of sandwiches, extra cupcakes and some cheap, sugar filled party bags and style it out. I'm impressed by her ingenuity, but I would be panicking too! Just remember, you laugh about this when she's older!

I don’t see how you can go ahead not knowing how many are coming; she is a pain in the arse not clever. How old is she? I’d be minded to make her pay for the extras.

If it’s a home/village hall kind of thing buy some extra food and leave them to it. If it’s a venue and it’s £20 per child or whatever I’d cancel it.

How old is your DD?

No to siblings, that might cut down some other people coming too. I'm guessing the spares were not to be used, does she understand?

How old is she? Old enough to tell them what she's done?

Well she's not really clever at all is she!?

No extras allowed? Do what will she do?

I’d cancel because of your DD’s behaviour and let her know exactly why it was cancelled.

Cancel. Your DD has been awful. If she can write she's old enough to understand you don't do this.

She did what????

How old is she?

Aged 5 don't cancel

I'd probably just message parents back explaining mix up and apologising.

BTW older than 5 cancel as consequences

Wow that’s quite a thing to do! Do you know all the parents? Did she put your mobile on the invites?!

I am a little troubled at your description of DD as "clever". Of all the adjectives that I could use in this situation, clever wouldn't be one.

If it is a limited places event I would tell the additional parents the truth and say very sorry.

I would not be offended if we were to be cancelled. I'd think it hilariously naughty.

It will be something for family folklore.

Need to understand extent of damage. Then find out why she did it (was she bullied into getting 'friends' and invited?) Once this is known, plus whether it's actually possible, then make decision to cancel or not.

Older than 5. In a group chat with others so could've gotten my number from that plus previous years of me messaging them to RSVP. Although I do have my number written down in various places.

Think I'm going to just bite the bullet and do this.

It might be worth talking to DD about why.

I still (really!) often think about my 6th birthday party (nearly 50 years ago!). I was in a new school and invited all the popular kids, who were horrible to me. It was only after invitations had gone out, I realised I hadn't invited the only boy who was kind to me and he was sad about it. My mum wouldn't let me add another to the list.

I can't remember his name, but I do remember having to tell him he couldn't come and how he looked 😪

But probably she's been awfully naughty and the party should be cancelled!

Are there going to be any consequences for DD?

How can you accommodate extras though?

My daughter’s friend did this when she was six. Parents cancelled the party and their daughter learnt a lesson the hard way.