No dinner after 120 mile journey

[spanieleyes22]

So I travelled to see my sister who is ill and when I got there her dh said to me that he had made spag bol for himself and the 2 kids but that I could have a look in the kitchen and cook something for myself and my sister (who didn't want a dinner as she didn't feel like it)

In the end my sis said to him could I not have the spag bol as well and he said perhaps but that he needed to eat with the kids 8 and 14. So he cooked pasta for them and the 3 of them sat up to the table and had their meal. Then he called me and showed me the uncooked spaghetti and the leftover bol and said I could cook mine.

What do you all
Think

[TheShellBeach]

You've already posted this.
That's what I think.

[Chatonette]

Rude AF

[Itsokish]

There are no words 😶

[MeMyCatsAndMyBooks]

I hope you told him that he was rude.

[TheShellBeach]

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5050834-bil-is-vile-how-to-help-my-sis

[TrouserHem]

I hate shit hosts with a passion. I come from a culture where you feed your guests before yourself. This is completely alien to me.

[spanieleyes22]

I don't know. It was the same on Sunday I cooked dinner and we arranged 5 pm but at 5 he was still in the pub so I went ahead and ate with the kids and left a plate for him. He obvs doesn't want to eat with me. That's all I can think of. It's really bugging me

[Sandwichblock]

@TrouserHem

I hate shit hosts with a passion. I come from a culture where you feed your guests before yourself. This is completely alien to me.

I read that as "I hate shit posts..." kand thought yeah, me too...

[spanieleyes22]

@TheShellBeach

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5050834-bil-is-vile-how-to-help-my-sis

Yeh nobody was replying so I thought I'd just ask about the dinner incident

[spanieleyes22]

Definitely not made up hand on heart this is
Exactly what happened .

[spanieleyes22]

Because he already had started boiling jt so he couldn't add more in iukwim

[ABwithAnItch]

There is something wrong with him, that’s what I think. Hoe hard is it to make extra spag bol?! What a CF.

[TheShellBeach]

@spanieleyes22

Because he already had started boiling jt so he couldn't add more in iukwim

Then you've answered your own question.
He showed you the dry pasta and the bolognese sauce and left you to make your own.

IIRC your sister didn't want any. It takes 7 minutes to cook pasta. Not much effort required on your part.

[spanieleyes22]

@MeMyCatsAndMyBooks

I hope you told him that he was rude.

No I chickened out

[ifonly4]

He doesn't want you there.

Is your sister seriously ill? If not, twice in a week seems a bit excessive, so maybe that's what he thought.

[AGodawfulsmallaffair]

@TheShellBeach

You've already posted this.
That's what I think.

😆

[spanieleyes22]

But why couldn't he put on enough for 4 of us? We had already had the discussion up I. The bedroom that there was enough sauce for me. He then went down to the kitchen and cooked enough pasta for himself and the kids . Ate his dinner. Called up to me I could make my pasta when I wanted to

[TheShellBeach]

 Called up to me I could make my pasta when I wanted to

And you did.

Maybe he thought you'd want to spend time with your sister, as that was the reason for your journey and visit? And there's nothing worse than overcooked pasta.

[Sandwichblock]

@spanieleyes22

Because he already had started boiling jt so he couldn't add more in iukwim

Well then he was right, he had to finish what he was cooking. You must have had to wait 10 minutes for dinner at most.

[spanieleyes22]

@ifonly4

He doesn't want you there.

Is your sister seriously ill? If not, twice in a week seems a bit excessive, so maybe that's what he thought.

Pneumonia and pleurisy. 1 ambulance. 2 visits to a and e.3 gp
Visits

[Sandwichblock]

@spanieleyes22

But why couldn't he put on enough for 4 of us? We had already had the discussion up I. The bedroom that there was enough sauce for me. He then went down to the kitchen and cooked enough pasta for himself and the kids . Ate his dinner. Called up to me I could make my pasta when I wanted to

You said he'd already started cooking it.

[Easipeelerie]

He sounds a bit odd and inflexible. When people do weird stuff like that, I try not to judge too hard as they likely think in a different way to most people.

[Hankunamatata]

What an idiot. I would have just stuck kn a second pan of boiling water and cooked yours.

[spanieleyes22]

Ok I must be the weird one. I would never sit up and eat dinner and clear up and then call them and say ok you can cook your own. People don't understand that he deliberately did this. It's not a timing thing . I sat on my own at the table about 20 mins after ten3 of them had finished.