No dinner after 120 mile journey

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So I travelled to see my sister who is ill and when I got there her dh said to me that he had made spag bol for himself and the 2 kids but that I could have a look in the kitchen and cook something for myself and my sister (who didn't want a dinner as she didn't feel like it)

In the end my sis said to him could I not have the spag bol as well and he said perhaps but that he needed to eat with the kids 8 and 14. So he cooked pasta for them and the 3 of them sat up to the table and had their meal. Then he called me and showed me the uncooked spaghetti and the leftover bol and said I could cook mine.

What do you all
Think

Hi OP, I come from a culture where you feed your guests. It is rude not to. He probably doesn’t want you there.

He sounds like a controlling, abusive arsehole.

Yeah that's crap, if he's doing dinner for the others and knows you're there too you'd have thought he'd have done enough for all of you.
YANBU

Well, yep, it was shitty of him, but I wouldn't just sit there. I would have ordered myself a takeaway.

It sounds like he doesn't want you there. Is he controlling of your sister? Is he trying to isolate her from her family?

How rude of him! Greedy pig could have let you have what he cooked for himself, or started another pot of water and toss in some pasta.

It's pretty rural where they live I'm not sure they can get deliveries

I don’t think you should stop going. I think that’s what he wants. I think go for your sister and keep polite but don’t say much to him. Stay away from him the best you can. But go and be there for her!

My sister is so used to him I do t think she even registers how rude he is. I was there for 2 nights and not once did he ask me anything about myself or my kids . Anyway I need to get him out of my brain. My sister text me today that he is so kind and she loves him. I feel like he gives her a few crumbs and she's so grateful he has come out of the bad mood

Yeah he's not rude he's abusive, your sister grovelling for crumbs of affection is a red flag, as I've said before ignore the twat but keep supporting your sister she needs you.