Thinking that women would benefit if they were more open minded about height in a potential partner…

[Moonfishstar]

… and not write off the majority of men who are under 6 foot (85%).

Women seem to be fighting for a small proportion of men - with the disappointment that will inevitably bring to the many who inevitably won’t succeed. Of course, it’s even crapper for the good,
but short, men out there.

Of course, we all fancy who we fancy, and I’m not saying we should date shorter (or even average!) men out of pity or a “sense of fairness”, but how much of women’s desire to bag a tall guy is actually societal, and down to how they think other women will view them?

And how does that work when we all shrink a bit?
I used to be 5'6"
I've shrunk 2 inches, will I die sooner or not?
My stepmother was 4'11" but is now 4'4 will she die soon?

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/12586217/

It's pretty common through nature as well

That's because people with big dogs take training seriously as they're aware of the damage they might do. They're often more lax about training small dogs because they don't think it matters as much.

Several vets have told me this.

Me and my husband are both 5.8 (so average height I guess). I didn’t want to have children with a tall man as I hated being a tall girl when I was young. Both my kids are pretty tall though so that didn’t work!

Well yes, I think it would be silly to pretend we are not biased and socially conditioned to date men who are taller than us. But a cut off at 6ft for vast numbers of women? That seems implausible.
Anyhow, the OP later posted one reference to one study of users of one app which showed that 15% of women (on the app) set their search preferences to above 6ft. As a scientist, I can confidently say this is useless data which we cannot extrapolate to the population at large.

https://www.discovermagazine.com/mind/good-news-short-people-your-senses-may-be-faster-than-tall-peoples

Faster brain body interface

Ninjas basically

I thought it was pretty well documented that online daters often set height and weight preferences particularly high or low because so many people lie about them. Many women will set their filter to 6' with the actual intention of cutting out anyone below 5'9".

It’s the opposite, actually. Shorter people live longer (allegedly).

I just want one taller than me, so I don't feel massive. Sadly I'm 5'9 and so, so many men are smaller than me where I live.

I find tall men often end up with much smaller women. Maybe there should be a rule: nobody over/ under 3 inches difference.

I have heard that a lot actually, (that tall people have shorter lifespans than shorter people, and also more health issues,) and multiple sources on the internet say it. I mean; if you're a woman of 5 ft 8 and your mate is 5 ft 4, you will probably live roughly the same amount of time... within 2-3 years. And have a decent lifespan.

But if you're a woman of say 5ft 11+ or or a man of 6 ft 4+, then yeah, your are more prone to health issues and a shorter lifespan. Lifespan can be 5 to 10 years more for shorter people. The taller you are the shorter the lifespan. Think about it, how many people aged 80+ do you know who are 6 ft 4?

I don't know why being tall is so revered, and people on here seem very braggy about having a 'very tall husband,' and tall gangly 6ft children, and weirdly proud of being 'very tall' themselves. Like it's some kind of achievement. I am happy to be 5 ft 3 and have a DH who is 5 ft 9. (My 2 DD are 5 ft 7 and 5 ft 4.)

Ah shit, stepmother gonna be around a long arse time yet.

Joke btw, I do love the woman really.

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My great grandma (born 1890,) lived to 97. She was 5 ft 0! A little pocket rocket who didn't take any shit. Even when she was in her 90s!

I've never wanted a tall man. I'm 5 ft 3 and weigh 9 stone. I don't want people that can overpower me too easily. That said last week I met up with a friend who is 6 ft 2 and haven't seen for a few months. I've had a really difficult few months and when I cuddled him it was like going into a cocoon. It was the best hug of my life.

I do feel it's shallow to rule out everyone under a certain height. I'm 5 foot 8 and I like short guys just as much as tall guys (if not more) and if a man doesn't have a problem with my size 7 (ok 8) feet it's all good. If women really are ruling out short men in vast numbers that just leaves more for me (should I ever venture to try OLD!) but it is a bit shallow, and if you're under 5'5 yourself a bit ridiculous as well. I can imagine the outrage if majority of men decided overnight not to date short women!

Even my mum and grandmother told me they weren't interested in short men, or I'd always hear "he'd be alright if he wasn't so short"-which makes no sense to me, you obviously find him attractive but because you found out he's short you don't? Make it make sense!

You do have a point OP, if most women are looking for 6 foot and over a lot will be out of luck.

Still yappy little buggers though!

My ex husband is 6 foot 7, my current boyfriend is a few inches taller than me (I'm five foot 3.) Hight doesn't matter to me.

What if your current boyfriend was 5ft 1" though @SapphireSeptember ?

Well, I'm a reasonably attractive 6' 1" bloke and I haven't been on a date for going on two years so I'm not sure height in itself is a reliable barometer.

My daughter is like this and won't date anyone under 6 foot.

I tell her it's not all about looks or sex appeal but she just looks at me pityingly

Thinking that men would benefit if they were more open minded about age, weight and number of previous sexual partners in a potential partner…

Why most men regardless of age want: early 20s, slim, petite, cute, long hair, perky boobs, childless, loves cooking and cleaning, submissive, without career but with own money, virgin, intersted in anal and blowjobs on unwashed dick, sex slave maid with dedication of nicu nurse?

Tinder is not real life basically.

I do think women are more likely to boast about having tall children but I reckon that (maybe on a subconscious level) is to do with demonstrating that you did a good job nourishing them etc. I had friends from other countries who were openly proud about their children putting on weight and eating loads but that (for good reason) isn't socially acceptable here except for chubby babies. My son is average height but when people say "ooh he's tall for his age" or "he'll be taller than his father" I feel oddly chuffed like I have succeed in raising a healthy child. Which is irrational.

I agree with the premise, but I don't find short men attractive. It would be very handy if I did, but I can't make myself.

I don't expect them to be over six foot, but I can't do under five ten. Something about being able to look them straight in the eyes when standing or feeling my feet next to theirs in bed gives me the ick.

I'm not even particularly looks driven, in this regard. I'd much rather date an 'ugly' tall man than a very attractive short man.

My dad is 5’7 and my mum is 5’8 so height never bothered them. I’m 5’2 and DH is 5’10 but I have dated guys between 5’3 and 6’4. Height didn’t bother me either it was just who I clicked with.

Are you sure you are not really two very short men stacked inside a coat? Because women are over-picky about that!

I prefer men who are taller than me but I'm 5'7" so that doesn't have to be 6". Once had a boyfriend who was the same height as me and he had a huge complex about being short and didn't like me wearing heels. It was very unattractive and ever since I have only looked at taller men.