Would you raise an eyebrow? Can’t work as teenager sick

[Asprogata]

Lovely sunny day (destined to be busy) at a visitor attraction and a key team member (head chef) phoned to say they couldn’t come in as their child had a migraine (16 in a couple of months).

Child is not neuro diverse and no other issues raised about their physical/mental health (which appears otherwise good).

Would you raise an eyebrow?

Are you their manager?

No because my teenager has hemiplegic migraines and they are horrendous

As a parent of a teenage migraine sufferer, no. When DD is having a full blown attack she can’t do anything for herself or even move out of bed to be honest. I need to be there getting drinks, medication, ice packs etc

My dd has had migraines that were so bad that I wouldn’t leave her alone.

I wondered that.

Migranes are absolutely horrendous and I wouldn't leave anyone alone with one.

If it was a cold or something I would think they were taking the piss.

Severe migraine can be so bad you worry that the person is dying, I don’t blame the parent for not leaving their child alone in that state.

a genuine full blown migraine? no, the person should not be left alone, child or adult

It depends how debilitating the teens’ migraines are. My brother had them so severely as a teen that he would hallucinate, and I can imagine that my parents wouldn’t have wanted to leave him alone.

Also with migraines you can have overwhelming nausea. I wouldn’t leave them alone. It’s a frightening experience.

There are a few things I wouldn’t leave a teenager to go to work for. Something like violent vomiting or a high fever and if they were completely incapable of getting up to even get a glass of water so like a bad flu.

Migraines can be so vicious. I have a friend who’s literally struck down with them and cannot function. I wouldn’t leave her alone while she was in the throes of one so I definitely wouldn’t leave my child.

Not all migraines present the same, there’s a huge spectrum of symptoms and triggers.

No because I have migraines that totally incapacitate me, where I struggle to even get up and down the stairs, so I'm very sympathetic when it comes to migraines.

In fact, they seem to have been very honest, rather than just saying they have a migraine themselves or a bug, so I would respect them as an adult for making a judgement call.

This. DD hallucinated that the walls were moving in her last attack, it was incredibly distressing. Migraines can be absolutely awful and I suspect that OP has never experienced a bad one to have this sort of opinion that it’s just a headache.

I used to hallucinate with migraines as a teen too. I am often surprised when I see people up and dressed and walking around saying they have a migraine. Maybe they do, but the sort of migraines I have experienced would have made getting up, getting dressed, walking or talking impossible. I would not have been able to see, or talk. My parents would never have left me alone, in fact I needed admitting to hospital more than once with dehydration, due to the extent of the vomiting. Thank God I grew out of them by the time I was 18

I get migraines like this, and also have the fun of losing my vision, also vomiting if I try to move so need help to go to the loo... fun.

Like PPs, I wouldn't let my child alone with a migraine. I wouldn't let my DH alone with certain illnesses.

Unless there is a huge background story, some illness mean a person regardless of age can't be left alone.

Totally depends how debilitating the migraine is. I've also hallucinated while having them and it's absolutely terrifying. I've had one so bad I couldn't walk to the loo unaided.

My experience is a bit unusual. My cousin had awful migraines from age 9. Dr gave medication but she really suffered. At 16 she died. Turned out it was water on the brain. Her parents never left her when she had a bad migraine. I think parents need to make the call.

No, I wouldn't. I'm 'lucky' in the sense that although I get chronic migraine, I don't vomit. I can keep going if I have to, although it is very much not fun, on some days, and I can't on others. Migraine is very individual though, and for some people, they get them less often but they are more debilitating.

I wouldn’t just be raising an eyebrow, I’d be peeling them off the ceiling.

My nephew has had migraines so bad that he has had to be hospitalised. I think they are hemiplegic migraines? I'm not sure but it was like he had been drugged, it was horrendous!

Depends. If teen is vomiting and crying then I couldn't leave them - migraines can be that bad.

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To answer (sorry about to follow my reply to be fast but you are all too quick to post!)

1. I am the manager.
2. I am also a lifelong suffer of debilitating migraines, most particularly in my teenage years and also now I am peri menopausal. I know how terrible they are
3. The child who is friends with other staff children has been regularly social mediaing through today
4. I have a non front line staff member with a child of a similar age who has serious issues the parent needs to respond to. I have not disclosed detail to the team obviously, but am aware this person may think what is good for one, might be good for another. In honesty very different circumstances

Just trying to understand as have had a lot of team gripes today

Because I’d raise them so high they’d jump off my head